1. 1 Anchor Yourself Presented by: Cindy Boling University of Central Oklahoma

2. 2 Introduction Explore the concepts of anchoring oneself and finding balance in one’s life Explore the concepts of anchoring oneself and finding balance in one’s life Share ideas of how to accomplish this Share ideas of how to accomplish this

3. 3 Background The dance The dance The balcony The balcony The garden The garden

4. 4 Discussion Time 1. What is meant by “anchor”? 1. What is meant by “anchor”? 2. How do you separate Role and Self? What are the pros and cons? 2. How do you separate Role and Self? What are the pros and cons? 3. What are the differences/similarities between Confidant and Ally? 3. What are the differences/similarities between Confidant and Ally? 4. What is meant by “sanctuary”? How do you protect it? 4. What is meant by “sanctuary”? How do you protect it?

5. 5 What is meant by “anchor”? From discussion From discussion –Stay grounded –Keep things in perspective –Deal with things –Get to the balcony –Talk with someone removed from the situation –Root –Stand firm –Steadfast

6. 6 Anchor Webster’s Webster’s –To keep from drifting (ship) –Anything giving security or stability; to hold secure Thesaurus Thesaurus –Fasten –Secure –Attach –Fix Thesaurus – antonym Thesaurus – antonym –Undo –Disengage

7. 7 How do you anchor yourself? A. Separate Role from Self A. Separate Role from Self B. Distinguish Confidant from Ally B. Distinguish Confidant from Ally C. Protect the Sanctuary C. Protect the Sanctuary Leading to... Leading to... D. Maintain the Balance D. Maintain the Balance

8. 8 How do you separate Role and Self? From discussion From discussion –Find balance –Realize you play multiple roles Pros of separating Role and Self Pros of separating Role and Self –Allows objectivity –Gives freedom to take risks –Roles end –People hate and react to the role Cons of not separating Role and Self Cons of not separating Role and Self –You become the issue

9. 9 How do we view our roles? Version 1 © Covey Leadership Center, Inc.

10. 10 How do we view our roles? Version 2

11. 11 How do we view our roles? Version 3 © Covey Leadership Center, Inc.

12. 12 What are the differences/similarities between Confidant and Ally? From discussion From discussion –Allies  People who share your values  You gain from talking to them  They have overlapping but not identical stakes –Confidants  People who have few conflicting loyalties  Their interests are aligned with yours  They are most likely to be outside of the organization  You can safely bounce ideas with them  They are a safe source of feedback  They have no prejudice or agenda  They will tell you what you don’t want to hear

13. 13 Confidant vs Ally Webster’s Webster’s –Confidant – a close, trusted friend whom one confides (confide – as in sharing secrets, to entrust) –Ally – to unite or join for a specific purpose; to relate by similarity of structure Thesaurus Thesaurus –Confidant – best/close friend, sounding board –Ally – friend, supporter, partner, collaborator Antonym Antonym –enemy

14. 14 What is meant by sanctuary? Webster’s Webster’s –A holy place –A place of refuge or protection Thesaurus Thesaurus –Shelter –Safe haven

15. 15 What is meant by “sanctuary”? From discussion From discussion –Remove yourself from the environment entirely for rest, reflection, and renewal –Renew, recharge –Temporary – cannot stay –“Recreation” vs “Re-creation” How do you protect it? How do you protect it? –Don’t give up the activity or time when stressed –Set aside time for this each day –Don’t allow yourself to erode the time you have allotted –You have to cultivate the garden to have a garden

16. 16 Summary – To Anchor Yourself A. Separate Role from Self (don’t take it personally) A. Separate Role from Self (don’t take it personally) B. Distinguish Confidant from Ally (have a support group) B. Distinguish Confidant from Ally (have a support group) C. Protect the Sanctuary (Have a time/place for inner reflection) C. Protect the Sanctuary (Have a time/place for inner reflection) D. Maintain the Balance D. Maintain the Balance

17. 17 Questions & Answers

18. 18 Thank You! Cindy Boling cboling@ucok.edu SunGard, the SunGard logo, Banner, Campus Pipeline, Luminis, PowerCAMPUS, Matrix, and Plus are trademarks or registered trademarks of SunGard Data Systems Inc. or its subsidiaries in the U.S. and other countries. Third-party names and marks referenced herein are trademarks or registered trademarks of their respective owners. © 2006 SunGard. All rights reserved.