2 HABITS CHARACTER Knowledge Skill Desire CHARACTER the composite of our habitswho we are “in the dark”who we are “when no one is watching”HABITSThe intersection of knowledge, skill and desireKnowledge – what to do, why to do itSkill – how to do itDesire – want to do itExample:STUDYINGKnowing I need to study and how to listen is not enough…unless I want to listen
3 PARADIGMS Paradigms of Self Paradigms of Others Paradigm Shifts Often caused by crisisExperience most easily when we are open-minded and willing to riskWe affect other people through the paradigms we hold of themOur paradigms may cause problems we blame on others“If you’ll look closely, you’ll find that most of your problems (with relationships, self-image, attitude) are the result of a messed-up paradigm or two.”PARADIGMThe way you see something (Covey Jr. p 13)Your point of view, frame of reference, or beliefThe source from which your attitudes and behaviors flowINCOMPLETE PARADIGMSWhen your paradigm is incomplete – like wearing wrong glasses with the wrong prescriptionThat lens affects how you see everything elseResult = what you see is what you get (If you believe you’re dumb, that very belief will make you dumb)We don’t know how much we’re missing because we have messed up paradigmsPARADIGMS OF SELFReflection QuestionsWhat is your paradigm of selfIs your paradigm of self helping you or hindering you? In what ways?Negative self-paradigms can put limitations on usPositive self-paradigms can bring out the best in usPARADIGMS OF OTHERSSeeing things from a different point of view can help us understand why other people act the way they do.PARADIGM SHIFTSOften caused by crisisExperience most easily when we are open-minded and willing to riskWe affect other people through the paradigms we hold of themOur paradigms may cause problems we blame on others
4 THE MATURITY CONTINUUM DependenceIndependenceInterdependenceDEPENDENCE – paradigm of youYou take care of meYou come through for meYou didn’t come through then I blame you for the resultsNeed others to get what they wantINDEPENDENCE – paradigm of II can do itI am responsibleI am self-reliantI can chooseCan get what they want through own effortINTERDEPENDENT – paradigm of weWe can do itWe can cooperateWe can combine our talents and create something greater togetherCombine talents with others to achieve greater successTHE MATURITY CONTINUUMThe move from dependence to independence to interdependenceSee page of Overview Handout
5 INTERDEPENDENCE Sharpen the Saw 7 INDEPENDENCE DEPENDENCE Seek first to understand then to be understoodSynergizePublicVictory65Think Win-Win4INDEPENDENCE33HABIT 1 – BE PROACTIVEI am the forceBased on self-awarenessHABIT 2 – BEGIN WITH THE END IN MINDControl your own destiny or someone else will PRIVATEBased on imagination VICTORYHABIT 3 – PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTWill and won’t powerBased on independent will and consciencePut First Things FirstPrivateVictory221Begin with the end in mindBe ProactiveDEPENDENCE
6 At the Center Boyfriend/Girlfriend Centered School Centered What is your center?Boyfriend/Girlfriend CenteredSchool CenteredSports/Hobbies CenteredSelf CenteredFriend CenteredAT THE CENTER –What is your center?The driving force of your lifeWhatever is at the center of your life will be the source of your..SecurityGuidanceWisdomPowerMoney CenteredStuff CenteredParent Centerd
7 PRINCIPLE CENTERED What does it mean to be principle centered? What is the problem with fluctuating from center to center?Honesty, service, love, hard work, respect, gratitude, moderation, fairness, integrity, loyalty responsibilityNo consistent sense of direction: security, guidance, wisdom, powerPRINCIPLE CENTEREDHonesty, Service, Love, Hard work, Respect, Gratitude, Moderation, Fairness, Integrity Loyalty, ResponsibilityTHE FOUR LIFE-SUPPORT FACTORSCentering our lives on correct principles, we create a solid foundation for development of the four life-support factorsSecurity – comes from knowing correct principles do not change, unlike centers on people and thingsWisdom that accompany principle-centered living come fromGuidance correct maps, from the way things really are, havebeen and will be. Correct maps enable us to clearlysee where we want to get and how to get therePower – that comes from principle-centered living is the power of a self-aware, knowledgeable, proactive individual, unrestricted by attitudes, behaviors, and actions of others or by many of the circumstances and environmental influences that limit other peopleThe only real limit of power is the natural consequences of the principles themselves.CONSEQUENCES OF PRINCIPLESPositive consequences when we live in harmony with themNegative consequences when we don’t live in harmony with themWHAT IS THE PROBLEM WITH FLUCTUATING FROM ONE CENTER TO ANOTHER?
8 PRINCIPLE CENTERED school sports hobbies work parent PRINCIPLES boyfriendgirlfriendPRINCIPLESPRINCIPLESstuffselffriendmoney
9 Advantages to Being Principle-Centered 1) Stand apart from the emotion of the situation2) Stand apart from factors that would act on you3) Evaluate the options instead (look at the balanced whole)4) Not being acted upon (by other people or circumstances)You proactively determine best alternativeMake decision consciously and knowledgeably5) Know decision is most effective because based on principles with predictable long-term results6) Your choice contributes to your ultimate values in life7) Because you are independent you can be effectively interdependentBEING A PRINCIPLE-CENTERED PERSONStand apart from the emotion of the situationStand apart from factors that would act on youEvaluate the options instead (look at the balanced whole)DIFFERENCES IN PRINCIPLE-CENTERED PARADIGM(see example on “Centers” hand out on page )1) Not being acted upon (by other people or circumstances)You proactively determine best alternativeMake decision consciously and knowledgeably2) Know decision is most effective because based on principles with predictable long-term results3) Your choice contributes to your ultimate values in life4) Because you are independent you can be effectively interdependent5) You will feel comfortable about your decisionPRINCIPLE-CENTERED PERSON SEES THINGS DIFFERENTLY(HAND OUT P 128)
10 "We have met the enemy and he is us" Inside-Out"We have met the enemy and he is us"
11 Inside Out Starting With The Person In The Mirror Private Victoriesvs.Public VictoriesINTERDEPENDENCESeek first to understand then to be understoodSynergizePublicVictory6Sharpen the Saw 75Think Win-Win4INDEPENDENCEINSIDE OUTWhat does it mean?A continual process of renewal based on the natural laws that govern human growth and progressAn upward spiral of growth that leads to progressively higher forms of responsible independence and effective interdependenceWE HAVE MET THE ENEMY AND HE IS US.”What does this quote mean to you?PRIVATE VICTORIES VS. PUBLIC VICTORIESPrivate victories come before public victoriesWe have to work on ourselves before we can…..??????????33Put First Things FirstPrivateVictory221Begin with the end in mindBe ProactiveDEPENDENCE
12 CHARACTER ETHIC PERSONALITY ETHIC What does it teach/What is it based on?PERSONALITY ETHICWhat is it based on?CHARACTER ETHICTeachesThere are basic principles of effective living (foundation of success)People can only experience true success and enduring happiness as they learn and integrate these principles into their basic characterBased OnPrinciples (integrity, humility, fidelity, temperance, courage, justice, patience, industry, simplicity, modesty, the Golden Rule)PERSONALITY ETHICWHAT IS IT BASED ON?Public imageAttitudesBehaviorsSkillsTechniques that lubricate the processes of human interactionPRO’S & CON’S OF THE PERSONALITY ETHICCan be inspiringCan be manipulative
13 Primary & Secondary Greatness Personality vs. CharacterPRIMARY GREATNESS VS. SECONDARY GREATNESSSecondary traits:Personality Ethic traitsCommunication skills & techniquesPublic imagePrimary traits:Character Ethic traitsIntegrity, etc…See pages of Inside-Out hand out
14 “The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them.”
15 Becoming Self Aware DISCUSSION Article entitled Becoming Self-Aware by Scott PeckArticle entitled Can We Really Change
16 What Makes Us Tick? Idea: People highly formed at birth Hippocrates (370BC)Galen (190AD)Idea: People born without predispositionsPavlov (Early 20th century)Idea: People have single, basic motiveFreud (Turn of century)Idea: People different in essential waysJung (1920)Myers & Briggs (1962)
19 Extraversion vs. Introversion Where do you prefer to focus your attention? SocialWide expanse, freedom from narrow concentrationExternalInteractionMultiplicity of relationshipsExpenditure of energyInterest in external happeningsIntroversionTerritorialFinds the notion of depth attractiveInternalConcentrationLimited relationshipsConservation of energyInterest in internal reactionsExtraversionFocus on outer world (need for sociability)PeopleExternal environmentEnergized by outer world (people)Direct own energy to outer worldCommunication preference: talking vs. writingNeed to experience world to understand it (like action)Experience loneliness when not in contact w/othersIntroversionFocus on inner worldEnergized by inner worldDirect energy to inner worldLike most of their work/activity to take place inside their headLike to understand world before experiencing itOften think about what they’re doing before actingTerritorial (desire space – in mind and environmentally)Solitary activities charge the batteriesExperience sense of loneliness in a crowd (especially strangers)
20 Sensing vs. Intuition How do you acquire information? Use sensesRealistic & PracticalFactsExperienceIntuitionBig PictureImagination & InspirationInnovativeFutureLives in anticipationSENSINGUse senses to determine what’s happening inside & outside of selfEyes, ears tell you what is actually there and actually happeningAccept and work w/ what is “given” in here and nowThus becomes realistic and practicalWants facts, remembers facts, trusts factsBelieves in experience & knows from experienceValues experience and wisdom of the pastGrounded firmly in reality
21 INTUITIONDescribe self as innovativeValue hunchesFinds appeal in metaphor and vivid imageryOften daydreams, reads poetry, enjoys fantasy and fictionThe possible is always in front of him, pulling on his imaginationFuture holds an attraction that the past and actual do notSpeculativeCan be subject to great error about factsLife is around the bendSpeculates about the possibilitiesLives in anticipationCan skip from activity to activity, perhaps completing none
22 Thinking vs. Feeling How do you make decisions? Objective/AnalyzeChoices based on logicArgumentationImpersonal basis of choiceFeelingPerson-Centered ValuesChoices based on personal impactPersuasivePersonal basis of choiceTHINKINGObjective/AnalyzeDecide objectively on basis of cause and effectMake decisions by analyzing and weighing the evidenceLogicPredicts the logical consequences of any particular choice or actionArgumentationGives priority to objective criteria and is apt to be good at argumentation, attempting to win people over to their point of view through logicImpersonal Basis of ChoiceEmotions not visibleChoices made on logic rather than making decisions based on people’s feelingsCan be seen as cold and unemotionalJusticeCategoriesStandardsCritiqueAnalysisAllocation
23 FEELINGPerson-Centered ValuesConsiders what is important to you or others without requiring that it be logicalDecides on the basis of person-centered valuesChoices Based on Personal ImpactAsk: how much you care, how much personal investment you have for each of the alternativesMakes choices based on personal impact of people around themPersuasiveTends to be good at persuasionPersonal Basis of ChoiceAre more personal when dealing with people and projectsHumaneHarmonyGood or badAppreciateSympathydevotion
24 Judging vs. Perceiving How do you orient toward the outer world? Do you prefer closure and the settling of things or do you prefer to keep options open and fluid?JudgingStructured/OrganizedWork EthicMake decisions/closureOutcome orientedPerceivingFlexible/SpontaneousGather informationKeep options openProcess orientedJUDGING (Values Closure)Structured/OrganizedLive in a planned, orderly wayWant to regulate life & control itWork EthicWork comes before all elseWork must be done before one rests or playsWill do preparation, maintenance, clean up because necessaryMake Decisions/ClosureEstablish deadlines & take them seriously & expect others to as wellDeadlines will be realistic (not padded)ClosureGet the show on the roadSettledDecidedPlan ahead
25 PERCEIVING (Values open-endedness) Flexible/Spontaneous Adapt to the momentGather InformationSeek to understand life rather than control itAccumulate dataKeep Options OpenResist making a decision because may need to accumulate more dataDeadlines are easily ignoredDeadlines used as signal to start rather than complete a projectPerceiving boss will pad their deadlines for their employeesPendingGather more dataFlexibleLet life happen, adapt as you goLet’s wait and see
26 Based On: Self-Awareness HABIT #1BE PROACTIVEMantra: I Am The ForceBased On: Self-Awareness
27 The Social Mirror What is it? What’s the problem with it? What is it? Vision of self from opinions, perceptions, paradigms of people around usWhat’s the problem with it?These visions are often disjointed and inaccurate
28 Determinism Genetic Determinism Psychic Determinism Your grandparents did it to youPsychic DeterminismYour parents did it to youEnvironmental DeterminismYour environment is doing it to youGENETIC DETERMINISMIt’s in your DNAYou inherited it (ie: bad temper)I’m Irish, that’s how we arePSYCHIC DETERMINISMYour upbringingYour childhood experiencesYou “remember” what happened when….ENVIRONMENTAL DETERMINISMEnvironment is causing your reactionsBoss, friend, teacher, parentEACH OF THESE MAPS IS BASED ON STIMULUS – RESPONSE THEORYWe are conditioned to respond in a particular way to a particular stimulusDo you think this is true?WHAT HAPPENS BETWEEN STIMULUS & RESPONSE?Story of Viktor FranklHe could decide how his concentration camp experience was going to affect himSTIMULUSRESPONSEWHAT CAN HAPPEN BETWEEN STIMULUS & RESPONSE?
29 PROACTIVE vs. REACTIVE Reactive Proactive defined based on “They cannot take away our self-respect if we don’t give it to them.”-GandhiREACTIVEDriven by feelings, circumstances, environmentBuild emotional lives around behavior of othersEmpowers other people to control themPROACTIVEstill influenced by external stimuli but choice of response is value basedCan subordinate an impulseResponsible for own lifeBehavior is function of decisions – not conditionsCan subordinate feelings to values(integration of emotions, intellect, will)WillEmotions IntellectHave initiative & responsibility to make things happenResponse-Ability = the ability to choose your responseDriven by values“No one can hurt you without your consent.”-Eleanor Roosevelt
30 Proactive Model FREEDOM TO CHOOSE RESPONSE STIMULUS Independent Will SELF-AWARENESS: (begin with meditation on page 66 of Stephen Covey)the ability to think about our thought processesit enables us to examine ourselves “see ourselves”because of self-awareness we can examine our paradigms todetermine whether they are reality or principle-based or if theyare a function of conditioning and conditionsIMAGINATION:the ability to create in our minds beyond our present realityCONSCIENCE:a deep inner awareness of right and wrongof the principles that govern our behaviorand a sense of the degree to which our thoughts and actions are inharmony with themINDEPENDENT WILL:the ability to act based on our self-awareness, free of all other influencesSelf AwarenessImaginationConscience
31 Reactive Language Proactive Language There’s nothing I can do, that’s just the way I amHe makes me so madI have to / I can’t / I mustLet’s look at our alternatives,I can choose a different approachI can control my own feelingsI choose / I prefer / I willREACTIVE LANGUAGETAKES POWER AWAY FROM YOU & GIVES IT TOSOMETHING OR SOMEONE ELSETHERE’S NOTHING I CAN DOTHAT’S JUST THE WAY I AMI am determined, there’s nothing I can do about itHE MAKES ME SO MADI’m not responsibleMy emotional life is governed by someone outside my controlI HAVE TO…Circumstances or other people are forcing me to do what I doI’m not free to choose my own actionsPROACTIVE PEOPLEAre not easily offendedTake responsibility for their choicesThink before they actBounce back when something bad happensFocus on things they can do something about and don’t worry about things they can’t
32 Circle of No Control Circle of Control PROACTIVE PEOPLE Focus efforts on Circle of ControlREACTIVE PEOPLEFocus efforts on Circle of No ControlFocusing here empowers the things in it to control us
33 Fall in one of three Areas The Problems We FaceFall in one of three AreasDirect Controlproblems involving our own behaviorproblems solved by working on habits 1,2,3Indirect Controlproblems involving other people’s behaviorproblems solved by changing our method of influence (habits 4,5,6)No ControlProblems we can do nothing about (ie our past)problems solved by changing the line on the bottom of our face (genuinely accept these problems and learn to live with them)Circle of No ControlCircleofControlDirect Controlproblems involving our own behaviorproblems solved by working on habits 1,2,3Indirect Controlproblems involving other people’s behaviorproblems solved by changing our method of influence (habits 4,5,6)No ControlProblems we can do nothing about (ie our past)problems solved by changing the line on the bottom of our face (genuinely accept these problems and learn to live with them)
34 The Have's and the Be's outside-in inside-out I’ll be happy when I have my house paid offIf only I had a teacher that wasn’t so demandingIf only I had my high school diploma and could get out of this placeIf I could just have more time to get this doneBe differentBe more resourcefulBe more diligentBe more creativeBe more cooperative“ANYTIME WE THINK THE PROBLEM IS ‘OUT THERE’ THAT THOUGHT IS THE PROBLEM”We empower what’s out there to control usThe change paradigm is outside-in (what’s out there has to change before we can change)PROACTIVE APPROACHChange from the inside – outTo be different and in being different to effect positive change in what’s out there"Any time we think the problem is 'out there'that thought is the problem"
35 Can-Do People No-Can-Do People Take Initiative to make it happen Think about solutions and optionsActWait for something to happen to themThink about problems and barriersAre acted upon
36 "Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man's doing but my own.I am the force."Elaine Maxwell1. Take responsibility for your life2. Have a “can-do” attitudeBeing Proactive = Two Things
37 Five Short Chapters Autobiography in Chapter One ByPortia NelsonFive Short ChaptersChapter OneI walk down the street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.I fall in.I am lost…I am helpless.It isn’t my fault.It Takes forever to find a way out.Chapter TwoI walk down the same street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalkI pretend I don’t see it.I fall in again.I can’t believe I am in the same place.But, it isn’t my fault.It still takes a long time to get out..Chapter ThreeI walk down the same street.There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.I see it is there.I still fall in. It’s a habit.My eyes are open.I know where I am.It is my fault. I get out immediatelyChapter FourI walk around it.Chapter FiveI walk down another street.Elaine Maxwell sums it up well:“Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man’s doing but my own. I am the force; I can clear any obstacle before me or I can be lost in the maze. My choice; my responsibility; win or lose, only I hold the key to my destiny.”Volkswagen Commercial:“On the road of life, there are passengers and there are drivers…Drivers Wanted!”Questions:Are you in the driver’s seat of your life or are you merely a passenger?Are you conducting your symphony or simply being played?
38 Reflection Questions1. What things are wrong right now and what can you proactively do about them?2. What new possibilities will graduating from Cathedral and moving onto something else bring you? (use your imagination)3. In what areas of your life do you need to have a “can do” attitudeIn what areas of your life do you need to take more responsibility? What can you proactively do to become more responsible in these areas?Name 3 examples of where you should have hit the pause button this week, and why you should have hit it.
39 Control Your Own Destiny...Or Someone Else Will Habit #2Begin With TheEnd In MindBased OnImaginationControl Your Own Destiny...Or Someone Else Will
40 Begin With The End In Mind To start with a clear understanding of your destinationAll things are created twiceFirst CreationSecond CreationIt Means:Based on the Principle:BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND =To start with a clear understanding of your destinationBASED ON THE PRINCIPLE:All things are created twiceFirst Creation = mentalSecond Creation = physical
41 FIRST CREATION Carpenter's Rule MENTAL Measure Twice Cut Once FIRST CREATION = mental (imagination)For ExampleEnvision the home you want in your headLook at model homesBlue print for a houseClothes, Vacation, Landscaping, SpeechesCarpenter’s Rule = “measure twice – cut once”YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE THAT THE BLUE PRINT (THE FIRST CREATION) IS REALLY WHAT YOU WANT, THAT YOU’VE THOUGHT EVERYTHING THROUGHThe actually “thing” you imaginedRule
42 SECOND CREATIONPHYSICALSECOND CREATION = physical
43 This is the Great Adventure CareerGraduate from CollegeGraduate from CHSChildrenMarriageParty AnimalCollegeBad Choice ?????Where are you going?
44 MISSION Mission Statements: A philosophy or creed Gives expression to: What you want to be (character)What you want to do (contributions and achievements)Includes the expression of your vision and valuesBecomes the criterion by which you measure everything else in your lifeCAREER VS. MISSIONCareer is a profession and asks: What’s in it for me?Mission is a cause and asks: How can I make a difference?FRANKL SAYS:We detect rather than invent our mission in lifeCONSCIENCE – gives us awareness of our own uniquenessDeMello called this the Pearl/Treasure within usFRANKL:“EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN SPECIFIC VOCATION OR MISSION IN LIFE…THEREIN HE CANNOT BE REPLACED, NOR CAN THEIR LIFE BE REPEATED. THUS, EVERYONE’S TASK IS UNIQUE AS IS THEIR SPECIFIC OPPORTUNITY TO IMPLEMENT IT.”ULTIMATELY, MAN SHOULD NOT ASK WHAT THE MEANING OF HIS LIFE IS, BUT RATHER MUST RECOGNIZE THAT IT IS HE WHO IS ASKED. IN A WORD, EACH MAN IS QUESTIONED BY LIFE; AND HE CAN ONLY ANSWER TO LIFE BY ANSWERING FOR HIS OWN LIFE; TO LIFE HE CAN ONLY RESPOND BY BEING RESPONSIBLE.”HABIT ONE SAYS…You are the programmerHABIT TWO SAYS…Write the program
45 Go For The Goal The Five Keys To Goal Setting Count the Cost Put It In PenJust Do ItUse Momentous MomentsRope UpThe Five Keys To Goal SettingCount the CostWhat will it require?Commitment and SacrificeWhat are the benefitsPut It In PenWrite it downMakes it realJust Do ItFollow Through“Do or do not, there is no try” YodaSee examples on p 96 of student textUse Momentous MomentsHarness the power of key momentsSet goals and make commitments when you are in the mood“Character is the discipline to follow through with resolutions long after the spirit in which they were made has passed”Rope UpTap into your Support SystemBorrow strength from others
46 Habit Three Put First Things First will and won't power Based on Independent Will and Consciencewill and won't power
47 Overview Habit 3 – is the personal fruit of… Habits 1 and 2 Habit 1 = you are the creator, you are in chargeHabit 2 = the first creation (mental creation)Habit 3 = the second creation (physical creation)Habit 3 – is the personal fruit of Habits 1 and 2Habit 1 = you are the creator, you are in chargeBased on Proactive Model - Four Human Endowments:imagination, conscience, independent will, self-awarenessHabit 2 = the first creation (mental creation)Based on the ability to:envision/create with our mindsthe ability to see what we can becomeHabit 3 = the second creation (physical creation)The actualization of Habits 1 and 2It’s the exercise of independent will
48 Are Prerequisites To Habits 1 & 2 Habit 3 Why? You can’t become principle-centered without:AwarenessUnderstandingVision and focusWHY?You can’t become principle-centered:w/out first being aware of and developing your own proactive naturew/out first being aware of your paradigmsw/out understanding how to shift and align your paradigms with principlesw/out a vision of & focus on your uniquenessAll of the above are key to effective self managementHabit 3 is all about this
49 Key Elements to Habit 3 Self-Management Independent Will Discipline Ability to manage well determines quality and existence of second creationEffective management is “putting first things first”Independent WillMakes effective self-management possibleAbility to make choices & act in accordance with themAbility to act / not be acted uponDisciplineFrom word “disciple”Disciple to a philosophy, set of principles, values, overriding purposeEffective manager of self = your discipline comes from withinIt’s a function of your independent will
50 PRIORITIES How Do You Spend Your Time? PRIORITIES What is Important Activity (see hand out)? What do you need to do differently to make column 3 and 4 match up perfectly?? What one thing could you do (you aren’t doing right now) that if you did on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference in your personal life?? What one thing in your school life would bring similar resultsYour Time?
51 Time Management Matrix UrgentNot UrgentImportantQUADRANT I crises, pressing problems, deadline-driven projectsQUADRANT II prevention, PC activities, relationship building, recognizing new opportunities, planning, recreationNot importantQUADRANT III interruptions, some calls, some mail, some reports, some meetings, popular activitiesQUADRANT IV trivia, busy work, some mail, some phone calls time wasters, pleasant activitiesIMPORTANT = first things, activities that contribute to your mission and goalsURGENT = pressing, in your face things, activities that demand immediate attention
52 Quadrant I The Procrastinator Exam tomorrow Late for school Project due todayFlat tireQuadrant 1- The ProcrastinatorUrgent and ImportantCharacterized by waiting til the last minuteResults of too much time in Q1 =stress and anxiety, burnout, mediocre performance
53 Quadrant III The Yes-Man Unimportant phone calls Interruptions Other people’s small problemsPeer pressureQuadrant 3 – The Yes-ManUrgent but not ImportantCharacterized by trying to please other people & respond to their every needQ3 is loaded with activities important to other people but not to youResults of too much time in Q3 =lack of discipline, feel like a doormat
54 Quadrant IV The Slacker Too much TV Endless phone calls Time wasters Parked on the couchQuadrant 4 – The SlackerNot Urgent and Not ImportantCharacterized by loving to do everything in excess (TV, sleep, web)Results of Living in Q4 =Lack of responsibility, guilt, dependent on others for basics
55 QUADRANT II The Prioritizer Planning Goal setting Essay due in a week RelationshipsRelaxationQuadrant II – The PrioritizerImportant – Not UrgentCharacterized By =Planning aheadPrioritizesMakes sure first things are first and last things are lastSays no with a smileRefreshes themselvesResults Of:Control of your lifeBalanceHigh Performance (P/PC Balance) Most EffectiveQuadrant II ParadigmLook through the lens of importance – rather than urgency? In Which Quadrant are you spending most of your time?
56 WEEKLY PLANNING Identify Big Rocks Block Out Time Schedule Misc. OBJECTIVE OF QUADRANT IIManage lives effectivelyFrom center of sound principlesFrom knowledge of personal mission statementFocus on important and urgentMaintain a balance of production/production capability
57 Courage Zone-Comfort Zone COURAGE ZONE HARD MOMENTSUncomfortable things Conflicts between doing the right thingUncertainty and doing the easier thingPressure Need to stay strong in hard momentsChangePossibility of failure WINNING = RISING EACH TIME YOUPlace for opportunity FALLPlace to reach full potentialOVERCOME PEER PRESSURECOMFORT ZONE Some of the “hardest moments” comeFamiliar things from peer pressurePlaces you knowFriendsActivities you enjoyRisk FreeEasyNo Stretching RequiredFeel safe and secure in these boundries
58 Reflection Questions Identify your biggest time wasters Identify your biggest goals for the next five monthsIdentify a fear that is holding you back from accomplishing any or all of your goalsHow much impact does peer pressure have on you