Presentation on theme: "Inside out approach to bullying prevention"— Presentation transcript:
1Inside out approach to bullying prevention Tracy Longwill and Brooke Tafoya
2Introductions Role Groups Background knowledge and experience in bullying prevention
3What is bullying?Bullying is aggressive behavior that is intentional and that involves an imbalance of power or strength. Typically, it is repeated over time. Stop Bullying Now!"A person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons, and he or she has difficulty defending himself or herself." OlweusBullying is unfair and one sided behavior. It happens when someone keeps hurting, frightening, threatening, or leaving someone out on purpose, in person or via multi-media. APS and Bernalillo County
4Which do your current rules address? What is bullying?HittingKickingSpittingPushingTaking personal belongingsPhysicalTauntingMalicious teasingName callingMaking threatsVerbalSpreading rumorsManipulating social relationshipsEngaging in social exclusionExtortion or intimidationPsychologicalBullying can take three forms…Which is easiest to see?Which causes the most harm?Which do your current rules address?
5What is bullying? Key Components Imbalance of power: Involved parties feel differently about the outcomeTarget feels scared, afraid, or hurtAggressor feels empowered or unconcernedHappens over a period of time
6Bullying is NOTA conflict to be mediated. This sends the message that both parties are responsibleRite of passage or a normal part of growing upHarmless funAbout anger
7Differences between conflict and bullying NORMAL CONFLICTBULLYINGEqual power – friendsImbalance of power – not friendsHappens occasionallyRepeated negative actionsAccidentalPurposefulNot seriousSerious – threat of physical harm or emotional or psychological hurtEqual emotional reactionStrong emotional reaction on part of the targetNot seeking power or attentionSeeking power and controlNot trying to get somethingTrying to gain material things or powerRemorse – takes responsibilityNo remorse – blames targetEffort to solve the problemNo effort to solve the problem
8Stand Up ExerciseStand if you have had experience with any of the statements readWhen you stood how did it make you feel?Was there anything surprising?
9What is bullying?Bullying EventAggressor10-15%TargetBystander85%
10Acts of Extreme Violence Violence Discrimination Genocide, Terrorism, Murder, ArsonViolenceAssault & BatteryDehumanizationVandalismThreatsDiscriminationSocial exclusion or HarassmentDiscrimination: employment, housing, educationalActs of Prejudice and BigotryScapegoating, Slurs, Name-calling, Social AvoidanceActs of BiasEngaging in StereotypesScreening out positive information.
11ActivitiesWhere do you fit? Card exerciseMan box and Lady box
12Implications of Being Bullied I shall remember forever and will never forgetMonday: my money was taken.Tuesday: names called.Wednesday: my uniform torn.Thursday: my body pouring with blood.Friday: it’s ended.Saturday: freedom.The final diary pages of thirteen-year old Vijay Singh. He wasfound hanging from the banister rail at home on Sunday.Bullycide, Death at Playtime: An Expose of Child Suicide Caused by Bullying. Neil Marr and Tim Field
13What New Mexico Youth Tell Us 2009 New Mexico Youth Risk and Resiliency SurveyE:\YRRS 2009.pdf
14Activities Where do you fit? Card exercise Man box and Lady box Ice BreakerBuilds empathy/knowledgeAddresses peer pressureAddress traditional roles and try something newMan box and Lady boxAddresses gender stereotypesPressure expected gender roles can place on a person
15TIPS to Stop Bullying for Youth Keep yourself safe. NEVER put yourself in a situation where you could get hurtGet help. Tell a trusted adult if you see someone in trouble.Support by offering to help them pick up their books, take them to someone who can help, there is power in numbers, just stand beside the person, ask other friends to support the person).Support the target by asking them to join in an activity with you (let’s go…, do you want to go get a drink of water?).Distract Tell the aggressor you don’t like talking about people or change the subject.Support the person who is being bullied by changing the subject to something other than talking about or hurting someone (Did you bring your lunch today?, Wow, look at that…, Watch out here comes a teacher)Reason with the aggressor, “You might get into trouble, if you keep bothering that person” or “you might get kicked off the basketball team and we really need you.”
16What Should Caring Adults Do GUIDE and SUPPORTListenBrainstorm possible actions and consequencesEncourage, rather than directLet youth decide the course of action
17TIPS for ParentsFocus on your child. Be supportive, listen and gather information about the incident.Never tell your child to ignore bullying.What the child may “hear” is that you are going to ignore it. If your child were able to simply ignore it, he or she likely would not have told you about it. Often, trying to ignore bullying allows it to become more serious.Contact your child’s teacher or principal to report bullying and to find out about the school’s bullying prevention plan.Keep your emotions in check. Give factual information about your child’s experience of being bullied, including who, what, when, where and how.Help your child become more resilient. Talk to your child about being friends with certain people and knowing which friends he or she can count on. Encourage positive relationships by encouraging your child to hang out with kids that make them feel good about themselves.
18TIPS for Adults in Creating a Culture of Respect Common themes in effective bullying prevention initiativesAssess bullying with an anonymous questionnaire.Adults know less about bullying situations than youth do.Focus on improving the social environment of the school.Identify, teach and re-teach expected pro-social behaviors through role play and practice.Establish and enforce school rules and policies related to bullying.Here are some recommended rules:• We will not bully others.• We will try to help students who are bullied.• We will make it a point to include students who are easily left out.• If we know someone is being bullied, we will tell an adult.(Olweus)
19Create a Culture of Respect Common themes in effective bullying prevention initiativesIntervene consistently and appropriately in bullying situations.Every adult needs to be able to intervene quickly & follow up with each party.Increase adult supervision in hot spots where bullying occurs.Use information from questionnaire to identify areas in need of attention.Continue these efforts overtime.Integrate themes into every activity.
20Best Practice Tips for Investigating a Bullying Incident Talk with each party separatelyAffirm the child’s feelingsAsk Questions: Get information about the current situation and the history of the situation.Identify what has and has not worked in the past.Generate solutions for the future, and create a plan with the child.Discuss how the child can avoid the student in the futureCoach the student in using assertive refusal skillsIdentify others who can support the childFollow-UpSee how the plan is workingContact parents as appropriateRefer more serious or chronic cases to an administrator or counselor
21Why is Cyber-bullying Unique? How does cyber-bullying compare to traditional bullying?Can not see the target’s emotional reactionCan happen at any timeDistributed quickly to a wide audienceAnonymity
22Framing the Issue Why is anonymous aggression different? Anonymity effects the content of the messagePeople act differently when they are not accountable for their actionsDo not have to see person’s painAnonymity effects the way the message is receivedTarget has no way to know if it is a group or an individualKnown enemies are less frightening than unknownCan change relationships with multiple suspected friendsKowalski and Limber (2007). Electronic Bullying Among Middle School Students. Journ of Adol Health 41. S22-S30
23Cyberbullying in the United States 93% of adolescents have access to the internet through computer or cell phone use1 in 3 children has been bullied online by someone they know1 in 3 has been bullied while playing an online game1 in 2 have been bullied by cell phoneAlmost half have been bullied on the social networking site, Facebook13% of teens have received naked or semi-naked images from someone in school8% have sent themDr. Sameer Hinduja- Co-Director of the Cyberbullying Research Center of Florida Altantic University, 2010
24Effects of Cyberbullying Negative EmotionsAngerSadnessHurt feelingsEmbarrassedAfraidNegative BehaviorsPoor concentrationLow school achievementAbsenteeism from schoolRetaliatory anti-social behavior
25Help Young People Navigate Technology NetiquetteBehavior online should be the same as what you would do in person.If your grandma could see what you do online, would you do it?Would it be okay if I did this in a face-to-face interaction?How does this action reflect on me?Adults can model appropriate interactions with technology for young people
26Help Young People Navigate Technology Coping SkillsResponding with anger shows that someone has hurt or done something that bothers youTell them to stopInstead of focusing on all of the people who seem to be against you, focus on those who care and support youConsequencesCyber-foot printsLegal ramifications of cyber threatsYouTube as evidence
27Resource Alex Wonder Kid Cyber Detective Agency E:\Alex_WonderV1.1.air
28Cyber-bullying Youth Tips Don’t initiate, respond to, or forward harmful messagesIf something mean is posted or texted about you, don’t respond immediately, take a breath and give yourself time to think through your next step. Don’t react immediately.Keep intimate and personal info- privateThink about your reputation- would you want— grandma, teacher, future employer, someone you don’t know—to see that?If you feel uncomfortable, trust your gut, save and tell an adultDon’t meet unknown internet friends without talking to your parents or another adult about it
29Cyber-bullying School Tips Teach social skills - much of the same work that is done for bullying is relevant to this work, but online education should be added to bullying prevention curriculumsDevelop a needs assessment to better understand the problem from students’ and teachers’ perspectivesConduct a policy and practice review…if you don’t have policies, develop themProvide annual professional development about technology, youth development, and bullying preventionInform youth about legal limits
30Cyber-bullying Parent Tips Ask your child questions, maintain an open dialogue.Keep computer in a common room.Talk about your expectations regarding acceptable online/phone behavior before they receive the privilege. Behavior online should be the same as what you would do in person or in front of someone you respect.Make agreements and set boundaries about accepted use and behavior for online/phone communication. Often youth don’t tell parents because they fear losing technology privileges.Help child think through how the information they put online reflects on them.Inform youth about legal limits and future consequences of harmful posting online or by phone.Ask your child to teach you about programs and technologies you don’t understand or of which you don’t have familiarity.
31What is APS doing? District-wide Discipline/Bullying Prevention Plan Safe School Healthy Students InitiativeBullying Prevention CampaignFunding for Prevention serviceBrochure for ParentsMaterials and TrainingWebsitePBIS25 Schools
32What is APS doing? Prevention Programs Steps to Respect Second Step Rachel’s ChallengeSafe School AmbassadorsWhy Try?
33Contact InformationTracy Longwill, APS Safety Resource CounselorBrooke Tafoya, SSHS CoordinatorFind resources and handouts at:Tips, Power Point and Resources
34Resource ListBooks:Bullyproof Your Child for Life. Joel Haber. *2007).The Bully, the Bullied & the Bystander. Barbara Coloroso. (2008).Cyberbullying: What Counselors Need to Know. Sheri Bauman. (2011).Cyberbullying and Cyberthreats. Nancy E. Willard. (2007).Websites:(English or Spanish)
35Resource List continued =A-9PXsmGHTw&feature=PlayList&p=3A2A5391F175757B&playnext= 1&playnext_from=PL&index=16Alex Wonder Kid Cyber Detective AgencyConnectSafelyConnectSafely—Spanish(resources for Spanish-speaking families)
36A Final ThoughtCowardice asks the question: is it safe? Expediency asks the question: is it politic? Vanity asks the question: is it popular? But conscience asks the question: is it right? And there comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular-but one must take it because it’s right. -Martin Luther King Jr.