Presentation on theme: "Marriage Rites & Expectations"— Presentation transcript:
1Marriage Rites & Expectations By Carlo Ammatuna, Woody Amidon, Ian Fletcher & Will Jopling
2Marriage: A Modern Definition Partnership between two human beingsEach brings love, caring and acceptance to other person.Mutually beneficial relationship based on equality and respect for each otherHave children, raising them to be an important part of society
3Views of Marriage Judaism Companionship, love and intimacy are primary purposes of marriage along with procreationGenesis 2:18Jewish law states marriage is a private contractual agreement between a man and a womanMarriage is mostly explained in the TalmudOther parts of the Hebrew BibleEx Dt 25:5-10
4Worksheet Question 2Based on the readings from the NT and the “DeaconMinistry” website, how does Christianity view marriage?
5Views of Marriage Christianity A Holy sacrament that is a permanent, life long promise between a man and womanMan should leave his parents to become one flesh with his wifeMatthew 19: 5-6
6Views of Marriage Islam “Mithaq” a solemn covenant, religious duty, moral safeguard, and social necessityMarriage is a natural part of creation from AllahSurah 7:189A way for people to remain virtuousSurah 24:32
7ComparisonJudaism- The Holy Institution joining of a couple in Jewish faith to establish a faithful Jewish homeChristianity- Holy Sacrament and a symbol of Jesus Christ and the ChurchIslam- A contract as oppose to a sacrament, a civil agreement under Islamic Law
8Definitions Polygamy- Marriage of one man to several women Polyandry- Marriage of several men and one woman (rare)Monogamy- Marriage of one man and one woman
9Polygamy and MonogamyIn Judaism the Torah and Talmud allow a man to marry more than one woman but not other way aroundIn 1000 CE, banned due to Christian pressureIn Christianity Jesus says polygamy is sinfulMark 10:11 Jesus says it is adultery to marry another woman after you have already been marriedIn Islam, the Qur’an permits polygamy but must have good reasons, must treat women equally and justlySurah 4:3,129
10Worksheet Question 1Based on your reading of the websites, compare & contrast the stages or parts of marriage in Judaism and Islam
11Marriage Ceremony in Judaism Consists of the kiddushin and the nisuinNisuin done under ChuppahKiddushin- the woman accepts the money, contract or sexual relations offered by the prospective husband.comes from the root Qof-Dalet-Shinmeaning "sanctified."
12Marriage Ceremony in Judaism (cont) Nisuin (from a word meaning "elevation")Completes the process of marriage.The husband brings the wife intohis home and they begin theirmarried life together
13Marriage Ceremony in Christianity Seating of the parentsBridal processionWedding marchOpening remarksThe call to worshipOpening PrayerGiving away of the bride
14Marriage Ceremony in Christianity (cont) Wedding vows, exchanging of the ringsCommunionThe first act as a marriedcoupleThe closing prayerThe kiss and presentation of the couple
15Marriage Ceremony in Islam Before the wedding, the Mehndi ceremony is held at the bride’s homeOn the day of the wedding the groom arrives and a ceremonial drink is sharedThe wedding ceremonyis the NikahBy the maulvicer
16Marriage Ceremony in Islam (cont) Exchanging of peaceA profession of faithA lot of readings about Allah regarding marriageState Allah as a witness to the marriageBride and groom agree to dowryBoth accept each otherSign contract of the marriage and dowryTwo witnesses of the marriage sign the contractFollowed by exchanging of ringsMore readings: about the meaning ofmarriageCongratulations
17Premarital Relations in Judaism Jewish law prohibits an unmarried, unrelated man and woman from being alone long enough to have sexual relationsThese laws come from the TalmudThe Torah does not prohibit premarital sex between a man and woman who can legally marryHowever, traditional Judaism strongly condemns the irresponsibility of sex outside of marriage. Premarital sex is considered to be improper and immoral
18Premarital Relations in Christianity Must maintain spiritual perspectiveGod’s word plays an important role in our feelings and emotionsThe sexual act must take place exclusively within marriage1st Corinthians 7:8-9
19Premarital Relations in Islam Supposed to guard your chastityA believer is defined in Surah 23a believer is one who abstains from sex except with those joined to them in marriage bond (and sexual captives)D’uah with AllahArrangement by family and get to know each other in group settingBoth single men and women not supposed to look at members of opposite sex without modestySurah 24:30-31
20Forbidden Marriage in Judaism & Christianity The Torah/ Old Testament forbids the marriage ofclose blood relativesthe ex-wives of certain close blood relativesa woman who has not been validly divorced from her previous husbandthe daughter or granddaughter of his ex-wifethe sister of his ex-wife during the ex-wife's life time
21Forbidden Marriage in Islam Surah 4:23 saysCannot marry women against their willNo marriage to close blood relativesIncluding aunts and unclesThis does not forbid marriage to cousinsCannot marry one wives of your sons, fathers, women who are already married
22Quick Note on Gay Marriage Forbidden by the conservative branches in all three religions.Liberal branches of Christianity and reform branches of Judaismaccept homosexualityIn some cases would allow gay marriage
23Marriage of Non- Believers: Interfaith Marriage in Judaism Traditional Judaism does not permit interfaith marriagesThe more liberal branches of Judaism have tried to embrace intermarried couplesMarriage to a non-Jew is not recognized as "marriage" in Jewish law
24Marriage of Non- Believers: Interfaith Marriage in Christianity The fact that someone is an unbeliever is not a reason for not marrying, staying with them1st Corinthians 7:12-14The non believer becomes Holy through the believer
25Worksheet Question 3Based on the assigned Surahs, what does the Qur’an say about marriage of people who do not believe in Allah? What about marriage between Muslims and the “People of the Book” (Jews and Christians)?
26Marriage of Non- Believers: Interfaith Marriage in Islam Muslim men can marry non Muslim womenWith the understanding that she will convert to Islam eventuallyMuslim women cannot marry non Muslim menSome contradictionsSurah 2:221It is lawful to marry “People of the Book”Surah 5:5
27Duties of Men and Women in Judaism A husband is responsible for providing his wife with food, clothing and sexual relations (Ex. 21:10)Primary duties for women are as wives and mothersWomen’s duties are different from men’s but certainly no less important
28Duties of Men and Women in Christianity Ephesians 5:22Women are subordinate to husbands“Husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” Ephesians 5:28
29Duties of Men and Women in Islam Husbands are the head of the familyIn terms of finance and decision makingSurah 4: 34 suggests men look after their wivesIt is the duty of a women to pleasure their husbands sexuallySimilar to Judaism, the duties of men and women are separate but equal
30Divorce and Remarriage Judaism has always accepted divorceAllowed by the words of MosesIn Christianity divorce is very sinfulIt is the separation of one flesh that was conjoined by God and no human is able to break that bondMt 10:4-12In Islam divorce is permitted with a settlement between a man and the womanNot unfair to the woman financiallyOf all things permitted, most hateful to AllahSurah 2:228
31Group DiscussionBased on our presentation of the different types of marriage, which is closest to the type of marriage you would want for yourself and why?