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1 Ephesians 5 Learning to Walk in Love

2 The Plea and the Pattern 5:1 Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. Ephesians 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Animals have a characteristic called “imprinting”—when young animals are close to a person they take them as their “parents” mimetes, “mimic”, someone who copies the characteristics of another. Christian life is the reproduction of God’s qualities Romans 8:29 For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son Matthew 5:48 "Therefore you are to be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect. 1 John 3:2 Beloved, now we are children of God, and it has not appeared as yet what we shall be. We know that, when He appears, we shall be like Him, because we shall see Him just as He is. This is possible because He fills us with His love Romans 5:5 And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us. It is natural for children to be like their parents To live the life of Christ, requires a supernatural strength within Ephesians 3:16 that He would grant you, …, to be strengthened with power through His Spirit in the inner man… :19 and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled up to all the fulness of God. (1)To not respond in forgiveness is to defame the sacrifice of Christ—He paid for their sins too—and we refuse to accept it (2)To harbor selfish hatred, desire for vengeance or something bad is to desire punishment for what He sacrificed Himself to pay for! (3)Because Christ has forgiven, we have no right to hold any grudge, gripe, offense or resentment up to 70 x 7 encounters daily 1 Peter 1:14 As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. 15 But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; 16 for it is written: "Be holy, because I am holy.“—Walking in love is best way one imitates God—sacrificing personal interests for the benefit of others! Christ earned the love of His followers because He forgave them—now He wants us to show this same love Luke 7:36-47 … And He entered the Pharisee's house,.. there was a woman in the city who was a sinner; … she brought an alabaster vial of perfume, 38 and standing behind Him at His feet, weeping, she began to wet His feet with her tears, …, and anointing them with the perfume. … 41 "A certain moneylender had two debtors: one owed five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. 42 "When they were unable to repay, he graciously forgave them both. Which of them therefore will love him more?"… 47 …, her sins, which are many, have been forgiven, for she loved much; but he who is forgiven little, loves little." Philippians 4:18 But I have received everything in full, and have an abundance; I am amply supplied, having received from Epaphroditus what you have sent, a fragrant aroma, an acceptable sacrifice, well-pleasing to God. 2 Corinthians 2:14 But thanks be to God, who always leads us in His triumph in Christ, and manifests through us the sweet aroma of the knowledge of Him in every place.

3 The Perversion 3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people. 4 Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. Satan’s counterfeit of God’s true love—is selfish, lustful and self-indulgent, always based on the other person’s fulfilling one’s own needs and desires, meeting one’s expectations of “happiness”, giving little and expecting much Reason for specific instruction is that we are the hagios, “set apart ones”, who should be different as ones “called out of darkness into His marvelous light” (1 Pet 2:9, Eph 5:8 also). onomazo, “to utter, make mention” –with the strong negative means that these are so incongruous with the new nature that believers take extra precautions to avoid them in speech and behavior porneia, “fornication or any illicit sexual contact or intercourse”—It has become so common that no one considered it wrong, was indulged in without shame or scruple. akatharsia, 10x in NT associated with sexual sins, thus immoral thoughts, passions, ideas, fantasies pleonexia, “covetousness, desiring selfishly what belongs to another This likewise is the opposite of principles of genuine love aischrotes, “obscenity, filthiness, ugliness, fig. disgraceful”, “dirty speech” in Col 3:8 morologia, “useless, silly or idle talk”. Root meaning of moron. Acting like a fool and making light of it. eutrapelia, (eu, easy + trepo, turn), double meaning, quick turns of what is said into something vulgar or suggestive, course joking, vulgar talk eucharistia, “grateful” Is an expression of unselfishness, without personal expectations, but expressions of thanks for all of life, spirit of giving instead of getting

4 Warning of Deceit and Fakes 5 For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person– such a man is an idolater– has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. 6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things for because of such things God's wrath comes on those who are disobedient. 7 Therefore do not be partners with them. pornos, “fornicator, indulges in illicit sex, one who prostitutes his body for another’s lust,” unrestrained sexual greed – lifestyle character Same root words as in v. 3 Make no mistake or decision on false basis: God does not tolerate sin akathartos, “unclean, defiled,” especially religiously, having done something that eliminates your participation in religious rites. A description given to demons. pleonektes, “covetous, greedy of gain, needing what someone else has”– “Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more” Eph 4:19 eidololatres, worshippers of false gods, of mammon, or trusting in anything, instead of God, to meet one’s need “No one who is born of God practices sin, because His seed abides in him; and he cannot sin, because he is born of God. 10 By this the children of God and the children of the devil are obvious: anyone who does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor the one who does not love his brother.” NAS 1 John 3:9 1 Corinthians 6:9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10 nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God. kenos, “void, nothing.” Some were saying that salvation had no relation to one’s life—they were totally wrong. Some today say that grace means one can do anything and still be saved. This is also wrong. The sins and the “empty words”– people trusting in false notions of reality Lit. “the sons of disobedience” – their nature is to disobey. Also “children of wrath” (Eph 2:3) “In which you once lived according to the ways of this present world and according to the ruler of the power of the air, the spirit that is now active in those who are disobedient” Eph 2:2 God revealed His attitude toward perverted love and sexual sin in Numbers 25:1-9 where Israel had relations with Moabite women and God slaughtered 24,000!! He has not changed His opinion. sunmetochos, “hold together with another”, pres. Imp.neg = “Stop becoming joint-partakers with them”! Stop imitating the world, but be imitators of God

5 Contrast with the Genuine 8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) 10 and find out what pleases the Lord. Jesus was Light (Jn 9:5) while on earth– now believers are the Light of the world. Positive reason for separating from perverse life style Former life: “were dead in …sin” (2:2); “formerly walked according to the course of this world” “we too all formerly lived in the lusts of our flesh…” (2:3). Relation with God, “But you, man of God, must flee from all these things. Instead, you must pursue righteousness, godliness, faithfulness, love, endurance and gentleness.” 1 Tim 6:11 Relation with others: agathosune, from agape, “willing and sacrificial benefiting others” “Make sure that no one pays back evil for evil. Instead always pursue what is good for each other and for everyone else.” 1 Thess 5:15 Relation to Personal integrity, honesty, reliability and trustworthiness dokimazontes, “put to the test, approve, discern” Rom 12:2, “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect his will really is.” Note: not “in darkness”, but we “were darkness” The contrast between the new life and the old life are compared to light and darkness, which cannot coexist: Moral absolutes are indicated. “Darkness in their understanding” due to ignorance, hard-heartedness and lack of sensitivity (4:18-19)—when the gospel is heard and believed they became light to shine for others.—especially evident in sexual life

6 Command to Separate and Expose sunkoinoneo, “become a partner or partaker with” 1 Corinthians 5:9-11 “… I told you not to associate with people who indulge in sexual sin. But I wasn't talking about unbelievers who indulge in sexual sin, or who are greedy or are swindlers or idol worshipers. You would have to leave this world to avoid people like that. … you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a Christian yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or a drunkard, or a swindler. Don't even eat with such people. Described in Eph 4 and 5: lusts, deceits, falsehoods, stealing, unwholesome speech, bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, slander, malice, immorality, impurity, greed, filthiness, silly talk, coarse jesting, covetousness, idolatry elegcho, “convict, refute, reprehend, admonish”. We are to confront sin with intolerance! Silence is one problem, and another is privately enjoying such sin. Love “does not rejoice in unrighteousness”(1 Cor. 13:5–6) aischros, “improper, disgraceful” – details should not be discussed in public, because explicit descriptions can be tempting and damaging. phranerao, “to make known by teaching, manifest by explanation.” As the Word is taught sin is exposed and men must make a decision: accept God’s verdict or continue with man’s selfish justifications. This is the action of “living as children of light” (v. 8) 11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. 13 But everything exposed by the light becomes visible,

7 14 for it is light that makes everything visible. This is why it is said: "Wake up, O sleeper, rise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you." Call to Abandon Darkness Many commentators believe verse 14 is taken from an Easter hymn sung by the early church and used as an invitation to unbelievers who might have been in the congregation. If they respond to the Light of believers, the Light of lights will illuminate their lives forever. In the darkness you can only depend upon your feelings or perceptions of reality. Only when exposed to light can reality be understood.

8 Wise Living by Revealed Wisdom 15 Be very careful, then, how you live– not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is. akribōs, “exactly, accurately, diligently”, marks the difference between the life of the fool and the wise man, he is accurate in following the revealed wisdom of God. Like a motorist accurately following the the center line dividing traffic. Live wisely among those who are not Christians, and make the most of every opportunity. Col 4:5 excagorazo, “redeem, deliver, buy up for one’s use”, used in Gal 3:13, “Christ redeemed us from the curse of the Law”. At salvation every believer has been made wise: 2 Timothy 3:15 and that from childhood you have known the sacred writings which are able to give you the wisdom that leads to salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. Christians have “the treasures of wisdom and knowledge” (Col 2:3) that are hidden, thus to be learned. The purpose of the anointing of the Spirit is to enable the learning of this wisdom (1 Jn 2: 20-21)– “Let the word of Christ dwell within (them) with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another” (Col 3:16) When Christians sin, they revert to wisdom of the old life which was really foolishness. “For we also once were foolish ourselves, disobedient, deceived, enslaved to various lusts and pleasures, spending our life in malice and envy, hateful, hating one another” (Tit 3:3) son, if you will receive my sayings, And treasure my commandments within you, 2 Make your ear attentive to wisdom, Incline your heart to understanding; 3 For if you cry for discernment, Lift your voice for understanding; 4 If you seek her as silver, And search for her as for hidden treasures; asunetos, “no+inteligence, understanding” Mt 7:26, builds on sand; mt 25:3, doesn’t prepare for future; Mt 25:8, begs the wise for aid; Rom 1:21, Vain, error in thinking; Gal 3:1,3, easily deceived; Eph 5:4, reveal foolishness in talking; 1 Tim 6:9, destructive desires ruin them (esp. money); 2 Tim 2:23, love to argue about nothing creating conflict, strife; 1 Pet 2:15, ignorant of the truth

9 Wise living in the Power of the Spirit 18 Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit. Instead, be filled with the Spirit. methusko, pres.pass imp.= “Stop being drunk” pleroo, pres.pass.imp = “be continually overwhelmed by, be being kept filled”. Passive voice implies conscious permissive influence or control. Has nothing to do with content or quantity, since all believers have the “fullness of God” (Col 2:9-10) indwelling them already. The imperative is granting the Spirit the right to control our lives. It is not more of the Spirit that is needed, but that the Spirit has more of us! We have all of Him, but we must yield full control to Him “Filled with wrath” (Luke 4:28) – “Filled with envy” (Acts 13:45) Cannot walk in humility, unity, separation, light, love and wisdom without divine help and empowerment. alla, “on the contrary” introduction of a contrast, not a comparison! As one led to loss of control, the filling leads to the opposite, more self-control (Fruit of Spirit)

10 19 Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs. Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord, 20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Colossians 3:16 Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God. Pliny’s account (Epistles 10.96.7) of Christians who “recited to one another in turns a hymn to Christ as to God.” The Consequences of the Filling 1 First of a series of participles that modify the command. Any sound from a Spirit-filled heart that pleases Him. psallo, means to pluck on a stringed instrument plucked with fingers, a harp. The Spirit filled heart is a sweet instrument. 2 Public thanksgiving practiced in 1 Cor 14:16-17 Otherwise if you bless in the spirit only, how will the one who fills the place of the ungifted say the "Amen " at your giving of thanks, since he does not know what you are saying? For you are giving thanks well enough, but the other man is not edified. Such giving thanks is edifying when understood…shows how some can trust the Lord always. 3 hupotasso, “submit to another’s control or priority.” A voluntary yielding to the needs of another. The ultimate evidence of the power of the filling of the Spirit is ability to unselfishly submit to others Philippians 2:4 Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. A heart that sings, worships, and rejoices all the time. “A song of praise to our God” (Ps 40:3). “Sing to the Lord a new song…all the earth” (Ps 96:1-2). The 24 elders sing, ”Worthy art Thou…for Thou wast slain and didst purchase for God with Thy blood men from every tribe and tongue and people and nation” (Rev 5:8-9) After being beaten and imprisoned, “about midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns of praise to God…” Acts 16:25

11 Spirit filled wives follow Examples 22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Not in the “same way”, but “as a way to serve the Lord” Colossians 3:18 Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Jesus Christ is the divine role model for husbands, who should provide for, protect, preserve, love, and lead their wives and families as Christ cares for His church. Wives are no more to be co–providers, co–protectors, or co–leaders with their husbands than the church is have such joint roles with Jesus Christ. Verb “submit” is not in Greek—it is understood from v. 21, “submit to one another”; the same construction is in v. 24— Builds off the verb hupotasso, “to be under the authority of another, to make other’s needs your priority or command”. It means relinquishing one’s rights to self and to independence. Note: wife not commanded to “obey,” hupakouō, as are children (Eph 6:1) 1)Mutual submission of husband and wife is the first model 2)Church’s submission to Christ’s needs is second model 1 Cor 11:3,:”But there is one thing I want you to know: A man is responsible to Christ, a woman is responsible to her husband, and Christ is responsible to God.” Head-Savior = Husband (Described in 5:25-33) Church-Body= Wife -- Analogy from Ephesians below: 1)Looks to Head for his beneficial rule (1:22) 2)Experiences His presence and selfless love (3:17; 3:19) 3)Receives gifts that enable her maturity as she is taught and listens to him (4:7,11-12; 15-16; 21-22; 5:2) 4)Responds in respect of him (5:21, 33)

12 Spirit filled Husbands Follow Example 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. Second half of Mutual Submission (5:21) aner, adult men. His submission is through sacrificially loving her with a love he learned from Jesus More instructions given to men, than to women! paradidomi, “to give over into the power or use of another 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. :4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. kathos, “to the degree that” Note: world’s love is object oriented (physical attraction, personality, wit, etc, thus it values someone worthy of love. Result is always fickle Christ’s love chooses those who need to be loved—not because they are attractive or deserve it. “This is how we have come to know love: Christ gave his life for us. We, too, ought to give our lives for our brothers.” 1 Jn 3:16 Key principle: Dying to self while being committed to others hagiase, “set apart, make sacred”– In Judaism, bride was symbolically bathed to show the washing away of her former life, then perfumed, anointed and dressed in wedding clothes katharizo, a ritual cleansing, making religiously pure from moral guilt, ready for worship and service en rhema, “in the sphere of the spoken word”—primarily pictures the engagement period.– Establishing values and purposes of their life through biblical priorities agreed upon previously. agapao, “giving of self to meet the needs of another, seek the highest benefit for another” Expects us to love like He loves: Rom 5:5, “…God’s love has been poured out into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us” 1 Thess 4:9, “…you have been taught by God to love one another.” Whatever we choose to love and practice love, becomes attractive to us! peristemi, “place near or beside”, metaph.: “to bring into intimate fellowship” Col 1:22, “he has now reconciled by the death of his physical body, so that he might present you holy, blameless, and without fault before him.” From without (stain) or within (wrinkle) in skin – these don’t wash off Results of the work of the bridegroom’s preparation endoxon, “glorious”, as a result of his actions, used of splendid clothing in Luke 7:25

13 How can we love like Jesus? When you are forgotten or neglected or purposely set at naught, and you sting and hurt with the insult or the oversight, but your heart is happy, being counted worthy to suffer for Christ—that is dying to self. When your good is evil spoken of, when your wishes are crossed, your advice disregarded, your

14 How can we love like Jesus? opinions ridiculed and you refuse to let anger rise in your heart, or even defend yourself, but take it all in patient loving silence—that is dying to self. When you lovingly and patiently bear any disorder, any irregularity, or any annoyance, when you can stand face to face with waste, folly, extravagance,

15 How can we love like Jesus? spiritual insensibility, and endure it as Jesus endured it—that is dying to self. When you are content with any food, any offering, any raiment, any climate, any society, any attitude, any interruption by the will of God—that is dying to self. When you never care to refer to yourself in conversation, or to record your

16 How can we love like Jesus? own good works, or itch after commendation, when you can truly love to be unknown—that is dying to self. When you see your brother prosper and have his needs met and can honestly rejoice with him in spirit and feel no envy nor question God, while your own needs are

17 How can we love like Jesus? far greater and in desperate circumstances—that is dying to self. When you can receive correction and reproof from one of less stature than yourself, can humbly submit inwardly as well as

18 How can we love like Jesus? as well as outwardly, finding no rebellion or resentment rising up within your heart—that is dying to self. MacArthur, J. 1996, c1986. Ephesians. Includes indexes. Moody Press: Chicago MacArthur, J. 1996, c1986. Ephesians. Includes indexes. Moody Press: Chicago

19 The Manner of Love 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. houto, makes reference back to the sacrificial love of Christ for the Church With the same care and concern he meets his own needs, now he must meet her needs In Gen 2:27 man and wife were made “one flesh”— what one does to the other, he does to himself! Feeds, provides whatever needed internally—to grow, be healthy, mature and fulfill her purpose Cares for, provides whatever is needed externally—giving her tender love, physical affection, warmth, comfort and security Christ provides for His church, because we are “members of His body.” If He were not to provide for His church, He would not provide for His body! “The one who joins himself to the Lord is one spirit with Him” (1 Cor 6:17)

20 kataleipo, “leave behind, depart from.” One of the greatest barriers to a good marriage is the failure of both partners to “leave” their parents. 1 Motive for Unbreakable Bond 31 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." 32 This is a profound mystery– but I am talking about Christ and the church. 23 proskollao, fut.ind., “cleave, be cemented together” – God’s intent is that only death would break this bond. God determined to love Israel with an “everlasting love” (Jer 31:3). Only after unending spiritual adultery and rejection did He finally divorce Israel (Jer 3:8) Due to human hardness of hardness of heart in unrepentant adultery (Mt 5:31-32; 19:4-10) and abandonment of an unbelieving spouse (1 Cor 7:15) God made provision for divorce, though His desire is that only death separate the marriage bond A key verse: 1 Peter 3:7 “You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” – 3 commands: 1)BE CONSIDERATE, understanding, sensitive, communicative, 2) BE COURTEOUS, serving, respecting her limits, uniqueness 3) GIVE HER HONOR, make her feel like a princess or queen

21 Church Father John Chrysostom “Hast thou seen the measure of obedience? Here also is the measure of love. Wouldst thou that thy wife shouldst obey thee as the church doth love Christ? Then have care thyself for her as Christ does for the church, and if it be needful that thou shouldst give thy life for her, or be cut to pieces a thousand times, or endure anything whatsoever, refuse it not. Christ brought His church to His feet by His great love, not by threats or any such thing, and so do thou conduct thyself toward thy wife.”

22 Church Father John Chrysostom “Hast thou seen the measure of obedience? Here also is the measure of love. Wouldst thou that thy wife shouldst obey thee as the church doth love Christ? Then have care thyself for her as Christ does for the church,

23 Church Father John Chrysostom and if it be needful that thou shouldst give thy life for her, or be cut to pieces a thousand times, or endure anything whatsoever, refuse it not. Christ brought His church to His feet by His great love, not by threats or any such thing, and so do thou conduct thyself toward thy wife.”

24 Mutual Commitment 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. and the wife must respect her husband. An emphatic inclusion of every husband, “severally each one…” – contrasted with “and the wife” in a generic fashion or a collective view of the wife’s response Show him that … You take his word and decisions seriously, You desire to follow his leadership and show your submission You respect him for his qualities that motivate your submission agapao, Argument: as Christ made Himself one Body with the Church, He can be seen as loving the Church as Himself – in the same way, a husband is one with his wife, so loving her is loving himself. Note: the love of self is present in all (v. 29), and this natural self-centered love be focused on your made– Requires commitment, focus, understanding of oneness of two persons

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