1. Ephesians 5:20-33 A man nailed to a tree makes marriage better.

2. What We Will Cover Today 1.What the passage meant in its original setting. 2.How the passage is misused. 3.What the passage means for us at RBC this morning.

3. Paul Windsor Wear your knowledge of the Greek and Hebrew language like you wear your underwear - it is needed for support, but it is embarrassing if you display it publically.

4. Let’s Play Find the Main Verb... be filled with the Spirit: speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit singing and making music from your heart to the Lord giving thanks always to God the Father for everything in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ the wives to their own husbands as to the Lord For the husband is the head of the wife...

5. Wives Submit to your husbands in everything. Respect your husbands.

6. The Husband is Head of the Wife 1.God created a hierarchy within the man-wife relationship, which was frustrated by sin at the Fall, and must be redeemed within the Church. 2.God created man and wife to be equal, which was frustrated by sin at the Fall, and must be reinstated in the Church.

7. Husbands Love your wives in the same way that Jesus loves the church. Love your wives in the same way you love your own body. Love your wives in the same way you love yourself.

8. Husbands and Wives You are part of the body of Jesus: [who] gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. For this reason Jesus left the Father and became united to the church and we are now “in Christ”.

9. In Answer to How it Went Wrong Marriage is an act of gracious hospitality, of unconditional openness to the other, and of self- giving. The operations of divine grace in the marriage God establishes with his people should discourage us, I think, from conceiving the marriage relationship in terms of rights. Marriage is established in virtue of the unconditional gift of oneself to the other, not on the basis of rights held over against one another.

10. People of Roslyn Take off:Put on: Being lazy, opting out of responsibilitySacrificial love Gossiping, slandering, ‘scoring points’, gathering a faction, being resentful Respect, even when it’s not wholly deserved Being selfish, meeting your own needsSacrificial love ManipulatingRespect, even when it’s costly

11. BECOME WHAT YOU ARE Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2