1.Error and losing happens, it’s NORMAL. Make it OK! 2.Ignore it on game day 3.Understand disappointment/frustration/ anger 4.Manage your unmet expectations 5.“What would you do differently next time?” #1 mental obstacle to success Fear of failure
problem in past resist – justify - blame – explain shuts ears - blocks learning breaks confidence does it work for you? solution in future engage solution opens mind – creativity - learning builds confidence could it work for you? uitkak solution!
In summary 1.Focus on process, NOT results 2.Model your best coach/teacher 3.Coach (ask + listen) tops instructing (telling) (650% better retention) 4.Create intelligent athletes (promote thinking) 5.Focus on + celebrate success 6.Mistakes happens a)Make them OK – don’t perpetuate FEAR OF FAILURE b)Ignore on game day (no uitkak) – address later c)Manage yourself d)Solution in future 7.Strategy about technique
SuccessError / loss During gameApplaud (authentically)Bite your tongue! Curb your reactions! Manage your expectations After gameCelebrate success (AAABAA) during game preparation for participating Support person. Ignore errors. Avoid judgment, criticism and error analysis “What would you do differently next time” Plan for next game Create excitement to succeed Athlete to participate in planning! Accept failure/ mistakes will happen. This is NORMAL! PracticeHighlight and work on strengths Ask (650% more effective) more than tell? Have fun Strategy (outcome) above technique Ignore random/ isolated errors Teach that error and loss happens. It’s normal, accept and be OK (you need to become OK with this)
1.DO NOT over-focus on weaknesses (the B in AAABAA) 2.DO NOT instruct too much (be over-controlling) 3.DO NOT focus on, dissect or analyse errors of the past 4.DO NOT speak, judge or act out at errors/ loss (the disappointment, frustration or anger is your unmet expectation) 4 DO NOT’s