Presentation on theme: "Get Savi. An introduction. Being a bystander Have you been a ‘passive bystander’? Most likely, even without thinking about it e.g. walked past an accident,"— Presentation transcript:
Being a bystander Have you been a ‘passive bystander’? Most likely, even without thinking about it e.g. walked past an accident, heard an alarm go off? Why don’t we intervene?
‘The Bystander Effect’ “Someone else will do something about it” “It’s not my problem” Safety (paramount) Social/peer pressure (esp. amongst men) What do we do or say? Where do we go to ask? …similar to gender based violence
What is gender based violence? Gender Based Violence is used by the GET SAVI reference group as an umbrella term to describe acts, behaviour and attitudes that undermine, threaten or hurt others due to their (real or perceived) gender or sexual orientation
Statistics 81% of LGBT people experience verbal abuse 1 in 5 women will experience gender based violence 1 in 4 women students has been subjected to an unwanted sexual experience while at university or college
Gender Based Violence Bystander Programmes Traditionally focus is on victims or perpetrators Bystander programmes an innovative approach to challenging attitudes All bystanders potential allies in preventing gender based violence
Gender Based Violence Bystander Programmes Bystander does not commit or condone violence …however inaction may contribute to the violence
‘Get Savi’ Successful programmes in American Universities (Jackson Katz, Kentucky Green Dot) 12 hour course, online resources and a short taster session developed by LGBT Youth, White Ribbon Scotland, Rape Crisis Scotland, Scottish Women’s Aid and Zero Tolerance University groups undertook pilot of Bystander Programme
The music we listen to And I love your lack of self respect. While you're passed out on the deck.I love my hands around your neck Nickleback Ha-ha, that bitch though I was gonna feed her Turnt out I feed the fuckin' crew know what I'm sayin' My wolves gotta eat know what I'm sayin', fuck it Odd Future Wolf Gang Kill Them All
The jokes we tell: What's the odd thing out: meat, eggs, wife, blowjob? Blowjob - because you can beat your meat, eggs or wife, but you can't beat a blowjob. Life with a woman is like a pack of cards - you need a heart to love one, you need a diamond to marry one, you need club to beat her and a spade to bury the bitch
Or…not at all Symbolic annihilation When do we see trans people in the media? Or gay people? Or women?
Types of GBV - Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual people - Trans people - Women
Intervention is more than do or don’t If a friend is unhappy we might ask what’s wrong If someone has taken their turn out of line we might stop them If we see someone struggling with a push chair, we might ask if they need help If someone’s being unfair, we might tell them they’re out of order We intervene all the time, but we might not see it as intervention
RECOGNISE Acknowledge the situation is making you uncomfortable ASSESS What is happening? Is it safe for those involved? Is it safe for you? Emotionally and physically? RESPOND What can you do? Anything? Nothing? Something in between?
Intervention can mean: Directly challenging Distracting Delegating Delaying Your safety is paramount. intervention DirectDelayDelegatedistract
Directly challenge Approach someone directly and challenge their behaviourApproach someone directly and challenge their behaviour Distract Try to distract the person from the situation Delegate Contact an authority figure Delay Look for a time when it’s more appropriate to challenge Directly challenge Approach someone directly and challenge their behaviourApproach someone directly and challenge their behaviour Distract Try to distract the person from the situation Delegate Contact an authority figure Delay Look for a time when it’s more appropriate to challenge
A friend of yours has just started seeing someone new. You meet them for the first time and notice that they make quite a lot of jokes about your friends weight. What could you do?
You’re at a football match with your family and your team are losing-badly. When the star player falls over, you hear a close relative shouting “Get up you fairy!”. Their homophobic abuse gets worse and worse and you’re feeling pretty upset by all this. You know this relative is a kind person normally.
You’re walking home and a young woman is walking in front of you, you stop at the traffic lights. A car pulls up and three men lean out and start shouting at her. She is clearly upset. What do you do?
You’re having dinner with your grandparents and your Grandmother starts talking about the clothes that young women wear. She says that “they look like they’re asking for it” what do could you say?
What people told us “it has made me think a lot more on how best to handle potentially volatile situations and how to be more safe without having to compromise on how I socialise” “I would definitely recommend the course to other people as I think it's really important and significant to discuss the ways in which negative attitudes and jokes really have a larger impact on society's values and opinions”