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1 Empowering Women Toward Long-Term Recovery Kathleen Tavenner Mitchell, MHS, LCADC Vice President and International Spokesperson National Organization on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (NOFAS)

2 2 Things Necessary for Life:  water  women

3 FASD; AN UNEXAMINED CAUSE OF RELAPSE IN WOMEN  Women that have used during pregnancy have severe guilt and shame that needs to be addressed in order to prevent relapse  Women that have children with unidentified FASD are at high risk for relapse due to the behaviors of their children and the belief that they are poor parents  Women that were exposed to alcohol prenatally may have FASD putting them at high risk for relapse

4 Key Clinical Practices  Ask: All women of childbearing age about alcohol use All women of childbearing age about alcohol use All pregnant women about alcohol use All pregnant women about alcohol use  Advise: All women planning a pregnancy that no alcohol is the safest choice All women planning a pregnancy that no alcohol is the safest choice All pregnant women that no alcohol is the safest choice All pregnant women that no alcohol is the safest choice women who consumed alcohol during their pregnancy to contact local resources and services women who consumed alcohol during their pregnancy to contact local resources and services  Assist: assist women to stop drinking through information, counseling, care and referral to appropriate programs and services assist women to stop drinking through information, counseling, care and referral to appropriate programs and services

5 Opportunity  Pregnancy is an opportunity for change  Women who are pregnant are more receptive to intervention programs and treatment than women who are not currently pregnant

6 Discuss Birth Experiences with Women : Red Flags:  Two or more miscarriages?  Stillbirths?  Infant/child deaths (SIDS)?  Children with LD, ADHD, MH or behavioral disorders ?  Children diagnosed with FASD? Positive response to any of the above questions should warrant a screening of all children for possible FASD (where substance use is known or suspected) K Mitchell, 2004 K Mitchell, 2004

7 During Screening  Follow up the screening questions with probes  Be non-judgmental  Listen attentively to her concerns  Refrain from negative comments or reactions  Focus on your patient as well as her baby  Be sensitive to broader issues and contexts such as poverty or abuse  Make positive statements about the woman seeking prenatal care  Make positive statements about progress during each visit

8 Refer to Treatment!

9 Locate Treatment that provides Feminine Focused Recovery: Address the unthinkable:  Sexuality  Biological differences  Menstruation  Abuse  Substance use during pregnancy and possible consequences  Secrets  Desires, dreams and fantasies

10 3 Things that Keep and Addict Using 1. Stigma 2. Family Enabling (Guilt) 3. Defense Mechanisms

11 Women and Addiction  The center of the addict’s life is no longer God, the family, and/or her job/career, it is her addiction  All of her behavior has the ultimate goal of feeding the addiction  The family members become objects, means to an end, rather than “real people”  This causes the alcoholic to become their entire focus and center, or they abandon her

12 Stage 1 Tolerance Stage 2 Physical Dependency Stage 3 Major Organ Change high tolerance with occasional use increased tolerance/possible a.m. use possible daily or maintenance use (reduced tolerance) occasional hangovers withdrawal: headaches/nausea (anorexia, high BP, loss of concentration, weakness) migrainesVomiting rapid pulse, BP disorientation disrupted sleep patterns sleeplessness insomnia insomnia Colds/ infections disease pathology developing major organ damage Irritability-mood swings-mild depression- isolation MH diagnosis (depression, anxiety, panic) institutions and rx suicidal ideation or attempts K. Mitchell, 2004 K. Mitchell, 2004 Progression of Alcoholism

13 Stage 1 Tolerance Stage 2 Physical Dependency Stage 3 Major Organ Change memories of how nice use was preoccupation/ craving use despite consequences one-two gateway drugs variety of drug use multiple drug addictions mild tremors intentional tremors seizures or D.T’s sexual pleasure sexual problems impotence family problems school & work problems loss of family, job & school trouble with the law (close calls) DWI-DUI / possession incarcerations K. Mitchell, 2004

14 Empowering and Honoring the Feminine  Intuitive wisdom  Motherhood / life- giving  Healers  Caretakers  Artisans  Visionaries

15 The Natural Order of the Universe  To live in tune with the Earth we need to remember that we too are a precious natural resource to be cared for and valued just as we value the trees or the sea. Like them we live in the rhythms of the seasons and the days. Addiction is a hurricane; an earthquake: These events can bring balance to Mother Nature

16 Feminine and Masculine Balance  Yin and Yang  Shakti and Shiva  The basis for harmony in all of life.

17 Change Perception: linear to circular

18 Yin Energy  Taoist term for the Feminine force.  The receptive, the watery, the earth.  Associated with the negative magnetic pole, with the moon, with coolness, with attraction rather than assertion.  The power of Yin comes from natural responsiveness, nurturing and support not direct independent action.  The receptive force is sensual, flowing, accepting and allowing.  Yin energy moves through feelings rather than thoughts, it is diffuse, spacious, and open.

19 The Feminine represents fertility, and is often seen symbolically as a chalice, cup, container, valley or womb.  She is the earth, the ground, the mother, the maiden, and the crone.

20 Honoring the Feminine  The essence of the Feminine is Love.  The pure white light of the Divine Mother’s unconditional love for all her children.  The Feminine is also the power of unity, of connection, of relatedness, which weaves all of creation together.  The Feminine emphasizes togetherness, similarities, correspondences, and Oneness.

21 Biological Differences  Women’s bodies have less body water than men of similar body weight Achieve higher concentrations of alcohol in the blood with equivalent amounts of alcohol Achieve higher concentrations of alcohol in the blood with equivalent amounts of alcohol NIAAA Alcohol Alert 1999NIAAA Alcohol Alert 1999

22 Biological Differences Women experience major organ complications more rapidly than men:  Liver damage Cirrhosis  Brain damage  Heart disease High blood pressure Stroke  Breast cancer  Gastrointestinal hemorrhage  Anemia  Malnutrition  Colon cancer NIAAA, Alcohol Alert 1999

23 Menstrual Cycle  Calendar to chart bleeding, cravings, moods, behavioral reactions, depression  Discuss ovulation Half-way through cycle Half-way through cycle Increase in vaginal discharge Increase in vaginal discharge Slight cramping in abdomen Slight cramping in abdomen May augment moods May augment moods

24 PMS Emotional Symptoms (Relapse Vulnerability)  Mood swings  Critical of loved ones  Negative thinking  Crying spells  Depression  Controlling attitudes/behaviors  Forgetfulness  Indecision  Panic attacks-Suicidal ideation

25 PMS Wellness  Reduce sugar & salt (diet soda’s)  Reduce or eliminate caffeine  Increase soy  Consider natural hormones (perimenapause or menopause)  Good Quality Multi-vitamin  Vitamin B compound & vitamin E  Calcium with magnesium  Limit dairy/increase green leafy vegetables  More AA, naps, relaxation, yoga

26 Honoring our cycle  Let others know what your needs are.  Indulge your creativity; it is keenest now.  Take a nap.  Take a nap.  Have a piece of chocolate.  Cook if you want to, or don’t.  If you need to cry…go ahead (set a time limit though, no all night pity parties allowed!)  Wear loose comfortable clothes.  Listen to your body, your inner wisdom knows best.

27 Honor Thy Bitch! All women have a dark goddess; she holds the power of the feminine! The dark goddess is the creator and the destroyer. She is depicted as one who cuts off the heads of men. This is a symbolic representation of her challenging the Ego. Embrace her POWER….She will lead her to Healing….to Recovery!

28 Menapause: The Crone Wisdom: Knowing arises from direct experiences This is a valuable natural resource; a teacher…a healer Brings balance to the “family”

29 Women with Addictive Disease Many have lost their voice; have turned off their “inner wisdom”: Many have lost their voice; have turned off their “inner wisdom”: Have low self-esteem Have low self-esteem Have little self-confidence Have little self-confidence Feel powerless Feel powerless Majority have been physically and/or sexually abused Majority have been physically and/or sexually abused Are codependent Are codependent Have been living in secrecy Have been living in secrecy

30 Traits of Codependency  Over developed sense of responsibility  “Stuff” feelings from traumatic childhood  Lost ability to express feelings  Isolated/afraid people and authority figures  Addicted to approval/excitement (crisis)  Frightened by angry people or personal criticism  See themselves as victims  Judge themselves harshly

31 Traits of Codependency  Abandonment issues  Feelings of guilt when they stand up for selves  Confuse love and pity, love people they pity (rescuers)

32 Ways to Destroy the Culprit ( Codependency)  Perfectionism 3 P’s (perfectionism, procrastination, paralysis) 3 P’s (perfectionism, procrastination, paralysis)  Vocabulary Change “I can’t” to “I choose not to” or “I won’t” Change “I can’t” to “I choose not to” or “I won’t”  Decision making Make everyday decisions Make everyday decisions  Choices Every action is a chosen action Every action is a chosen action

33 Other Methods to Rescue Women from Addiction:  Relationships Consider physically separating from partner Consider physically separating from partner Detachment skills Detachment skills  Enabling Remove client from enabling family members Remove client from enabling family members Investigate “love verses enabling” Investigate “love verses enabling”  ACOA issues Educate on effects on family Educate on effects on family Treat childhood issues with relapse clients Treat childhood issues with relapse clients

34 Women need Women " How might your life have been different if there had been a place for you to go.. a place of women, to help you learn the ways of women,.. a place where you were nurtured from an ancient flow sustaining you and steadying you as you sought to become yourself. A place of women to help you find and trust the ancient flow already there within yourself.. waiting to be released.. How might your life be different?" Duerck

35 Identify or Create “Natural” Connections   Re-Connecting Women: Family: sisters, mothers, grandmothers, daughters, grand daughters AA/NA Women’s meetings, women’s retreats Women Circle’s/Clubs/Meetings Artist way meetings, inner child groups, quilting Spiritual Communities Social Activities Health Club/Physical Activities/County Recreation Art or yoga classes

36 Communication Skills: Setting Boundaries no Assertiveness not passive-not aggressive Honesty I can’t to I won’t

37 Confrontation IS: A challenge to both parties to stay open A challenge to both parties to stay open An attempt to communicate honestly An attempt to communicate honestly A courageous act of good intent to state one’s feelings and thoughts A courageous act of good intent to state one’s feelings and thoughts An effort to keep relationship growing An effort to keep relationship growing Misunderstood; It is not yelling, screaming, or guilt making Misunderstood; It is not yelling, screaming, or guilt making Part of healthy intimate relationships Part of healthy intimate relationships An act of self-affirmation An act of self-affirmation Sets a boundary Sets a boundary

38 Confrontation IS NOT: An attack An attack An effort to hurt An effort to hurt Verbal abuse when done carefully Verbal abuse when done carefully A thing to fear or avoid A thing to fear or avoid The same as criticism The same as criticism

39 Non-assertiveAssertiveAggressive Verbal Apologetic word, rambling, failure to say what you really mean Statement of wants/ needs, “I” messages, honest statement of feeling Loaded words, accusations, “You” messages, superior words Non-verbal Hoping someone will guess what you want Active listening behavior, caring, communication and strength Flippant sarcastic style VoiceEyes Weak, hesitate, soft Downcast, teary, pleading Firm, warm, relaxed Open, direct eye to eye contact, not staring Loud, authoritative, or deadly quiet Staring, not really seeing you Staring, not really seeing you StancePosture Lean for support, twisted Stooped, sagging, head nodding Well balanced, at ease Facing, relaxed Hands on hips, feet apart Stiff and ridged, rude, head bobbing

40 Non-Assertive behavior Assertive Behavior Aggressive Characteristics of the behavior  Allows others to choose for her  Permits others to infringe on her needs  Chooses for self  Expresses and asserts own needs  Emotional honest direct  Chooses for others  Expresses needs at expense of others  Inappropriate outburst Feeling when you engage in behavior Hurt, anxious, disappointment, and anger Confident, self- respecting, feels good about self Angry, righteous, superior, then guilty OutcomePayoff Doesn’t achieve desired goal Avoids conflict May achieve desired goal Honest relationships Achieve desired goal by hurting others Justifies resentment

41 Parenting Issues  Guilt/shame  Child neglect and/or abuse  Feelings of inadequacy  Difficult past with care-taking of family  Legal/foster care

42 Sexuality  Promiscuity  Prostitution  Rape  Fear of sex  Incest and/or sexual abuse  Loss of orgasm  Painful sex  Sexual orientation  Value conflicts  Sexuality as a relapse trigger

43 Use Spiritual Concepts: (No longer in charge) “ Breathe God in and me out”

44 Developing a Sense of Self  Kill the critics: Whose voice is that?  Discover the rule makers: Whose rules are those?

45 Meet the Committee  Have client focus on childhood (i.e. year 0 to 3) Who were the people who nurtured you and supported you? Who were the people who nurtured you and supported you? Who were the people that were not kind to you, hurt your feelings or hurt you in other ways? Who were the people that were not kind to you, hurt your feelings or hurt you in other ways?  List them, list the behaviors

46 Meeting Yourself  Investigate accomplishments: “Things I do really well” list  Long term goals- Do not let client limit themselves in reality  Short term goals- achievable, measurable, simple  Lists of needs/wants/likes

47 Clearing Negativity ; Releasing Attachments  Stuff Everything is borrowed, I own nothing Everything is borrowed, I own nothing  People It’s okay to love someone and celebrate connectedness It’s okay to love someone and celebrate connectedness Wanting to possess another = misery Wanting to possess another = misery The less you try to control, the closer you become The less you try to control, the closer you become

48 Releasing Attachments  Past  living in “shoulds”  living in “what ifs?”  self pity  criticism  criticism  Form  preoccupation with appearance  guilt  can’t- they won’t  never- have to

49  Being right prevents communication prevents communication inability to listen inability to listen competitive competitive aggressive aggressive don’t answer every remark don’t answer every remark don’t give opinion unless asked don’t give opinion unless asked Releasing Attachments

50 When life gives you lemons: Make lemonade

51 Lemons to Lemonade Self centered fear………………..…ability to work a selfish program Self reliance……………………………………….………independence Self doubt………………………………willingness to listen to others Self pity……………………………………………..ability to self nurture People pleaser…….successful, wants to excel, desire for approval Sneaky…………………………………………….….opportunity seeker Manipulative…………………….ability to obtain trust, people listen Experiences……………………………………….…………….…wisdom Extreme negativity……………………………….…extreme positivists Chameleon……………………………………….……………..chameleonLiar……………………………………………….………….……..creativity Con artist………………………………………………innovative, thinker

52 Achieving Abundance Abundance does not mean having and wanting things. It means understanding that eternity and the universe are endless

53  Be thankful for each experience  Repeat and surround yourself with daily affirmations  Go the extra mile  Suspend thoughts of separateness  Be “for” things and people  Be conscious and selfish with your daily time  Identify goals (write them) intention converts to conscious action  Trust your intuition  Spend time with nature  Walk and eat Achieving Abundance

54 You are responsible for your own recovery! H.A.L.T. HUNGRY*ANGRY*LONELY*TIRED  3-6 Meals a Day  Exercise (walking)  8-9 Hours of Sleep (naps okay!)  Practice Prayer and meditation  Talk to sponsor, be around positive people

55 Children with FASD are a blessing, but they will always need a sober mom to advocate for them…….

56 Recovery is Honoring the Feminine  Dance like no-one is watching!  Play-create-dress-up!  Immerse yourself in water, play in the snow, lay in the sunshine, and jump in the leaves.  Open your heart, help others…it is the way of the feminine.  Allow the tears come, so that the sun will shine brightly.  Meditate, listen…your inner wisdom is speaking to you.  Sing, hug tree’s, scream with the wind, and howl at the moon.  Fill your house with flowers.  Paint your walls in colors.  Make love; scream and howl if you want to!

57 Contact Info:  Kathy Mitchell  x 205  


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