Unit 3 Daily Communication (II) Case Analysis Compliments and Compliment Responses Gift-giving and gift-receiving Exercises
Compliments and Compliment Responses Main point: Chinese modesty Social functions of compliments Differences between Chinese compliments and English compliments Cultural assumption Expressions for gratitude in English and Chinese Common expressions for apology in English
Compliments and Compliment Responses Compliments and compliment responses are an essential part of daily verbal communication.Various expressions of compliment and compliment response manfifest the cultural variations and different cultural roots.
Chinese Modesty Oh, it’s an ordinary dress I bought in China. Should I blush, or should I tell him you don’t really mean it? Growing flowers is my hobby, but I’m not much good at it. I really know so little about the subject....
Social functions of compliments Creating or reinforcing solidarity greeting people expressing thanks congratulation encouraging people softening criticism starting a conversation getting over embarrassment
Differences between Chinese compliments and English compliments The Semantic formula The Syntactic Formula Common responses formula in E- and C- compliments
The Semantic Formula English: This was a great meal. Bill, you look so nice today. I love your dresses. About 80% adj. 16%verbs Chinese: 你的房间不错。 你待人真好。 你该受表扬。. Mainly adj. Adv. verbs
The Syntactic formula English: NP is/looks adj. 53% e.g.You are so efficient. I like/love NP. 16.2% e.g. I really like your hardwood floors. PRO is (really) (a) ADJ NP (14.9%) That’s really a beautiful car. Chinese compliments You V ADV.41% 你干得不错！ (You)NP is ADV Adj 35% 你穿这件外套真 漂亮。 PRO is ADJ NP (9%) 那是一幅不错的画。 PRO (you) V NP Y 5% 你该受表彰。 PRO (I) V (like) NP 4%. 我喜欢你的房子。
Common Responses Formula in English and Chinese Compliment American English A: This is really a nice sweater. B: I’m glad you like it. A: You did a good job. B: Thank you/Thanks. Chinese A:Your sweater is very good. 你的毛衣 不错。 B: I bought is only for ten yuan. 才花了我十 元钱。 A: You did the job very well. 你干得不错。 B: That’s the result of joint efforts. 大家努力 的结果。
I do envy you. You are so beautiful! I do think that’s charming. I must say the soup is really very good. I should say this shirt matches your trousers fabulously. Its’ an unforgettable experience. It’s lovely! It’s so brilliantly beautiful! Oh, how nice. Compliment
Compliment Oh, isn’t that lovely! Oh, wouldn’t that be nice! That’s a very nice hairstyle you’re wearing. The hat suits you very well. You have a good taste. You look really wonderful in that blue skirt. You look very smart.
Informal Compliment Informal Compliment I like the design! I love your coat! I must take my hat off to you for your good show. I say, I like your brooch. I’ve got to hand it to you; you really did a good job.
Informal Compliment Informal Compliment Just look at it. Isn’t amazing! Mm! You look great. Wonderful! / You really look sharp today. Your presentation is smashing. Now that’s absolutely super!
Formal Compliment Formal Compliment I really must express my admiration for your competence. I think you deserve the highest praise. If I may say so, the crispy fried duck is delicious. I like to express my admiration for your generosity. May I say how charming you look?
Responding to Compliments Responding to Compliments Do you really think so? I’m very glad you like it / think so. It’s very nice of you to say so. Oh, thank you, but I have a lot to learn yet. Thank you, but it’s not really all that good. Thank you very much for saying so. That’s very kind of you.
Responding to Compliments Responding to Compliments Informally Oh, I’m flattered. Oh, thanks!
Responding to Compliments Responding to Compliments Formally How very kind of you to say so. That’s very kind of you, but in all truth I feel the credit should go to Mr Harrod. I appreciate your remarks, but I honestly don't think it was anything to shout about.
The students are divided into groups of five or six, one is supposed to be the host or hostess who is holding a dinner party, and the other would be either the Chinese guests or English speaking guests. Provide some probable problem situations as concerned with compliments, politeness, hospitality, gifts, and some offensive questions etc. Simulation game: Dinner Party
Cultural Assumption You have lost weight. You’ve put on weight./You’ve gained weight.
Expressions for gratitude in English and Chinese English: Thanks/Many thanks/Thanks a lot./Thank you very much./Thank you very much indeed./I really don’t know how to thank you enough./I’m thankful to you for all your kindness./ I greatly appreciate your timely help
Formulaic responses to the expressions above Not at all. You’re welcome. Don’t mention it. It’s my/our pleasure. That’s all right. That’s okay. (It doesn’t matter and Never mind are responses to apology.)
Common expressions for apology in English Excuse me. Will you excuse me for a few minutes? Excuse me for my smoking here. I’m sorry… Sorry about that. Sorry for not phoning you. I’m very /so /terribly/awfully/extremely sorry for that. I can’t tell you how sorry I am. I beg your pardon. Pardon me. Pardon me for sneezing. I do beg your pardon for the mess I’ve made. A thousand pardons for taking up so much of your time. Please forgive me. Please forgive my carelessness. Please forgive me for having lost your book. I apologize. I must apologize for my rudeness/fault/mistake, etc. I must make an apology for losing my temper. May I offer you my profoundest apologies for the wrongs I’ve done you.
Formulaic responses It doesn’t matter at all. Never mind. No harm done. No problem. Forget it. Please don’t worry. That’s quite all right. I quite understand. It’s not your fault. It’s nothing. Please don’t blame yourself. There is no reason to apologize. It’s really not necessary.
Activity 3 Differences in Accepting the Gifts In the West, it is regarded as polite to open _______as soon as they are given to you to express ___________. In China, the situation is quite the________. Normally we Chinese feel that if you open the gift as soon as it is given, you might ___________the person who gives the gift and you might be thought _________. So Chinese people tend to open the gifts_______ the visitors have left. appreciation gifts reverse embarrass greedy after
What’s more, many people send gifts without _______ them, and if they wrap them, they usually tell the receiver_______________, and the receiver will ________the sender and put the gift aside without __________ them since they already know what is inside. Differences in Accepting the Gifts wrapping what is inside thank unwrapping
Differences in Bringing Gifts In China,it is quite _______to present _______ bottles of wine rather than one. Apart from being more generous even numbers of gifts suggest_________. As to types of gifts, _______ is common one to bring with when visiting a family. usual two good luck fruit
However, things are quite different in the West. Guests invited to dinner in the West frequently bring _____bottle of wine with them. One is quite enough, two are of course welcome but _______and not expected. As they are expected to be consumed at the meal bringing two might even give the impression that the giver is a ______ drinker who fears she will not have enough to drink. Taking ______to such an occasion is unusual. Traditionally gifts of fruit are thought of as only appropriate for visits to people who are_______ one unusual heavy fruit ill. Differences in Bringing Gifts
Research Topics Compare the invitation differences between Western culture and Chinese culture. Pay particular attention to the differences between “genuine invitation” and “false invitation” in American culture. Compare the similarities and differences between the Chinese way and the American way in gift giving and gift-receiving. 补充阅读
1. Sometimes the Chinese way of showing modesty may be condidered as fishing for compliments. 2.The social functions of Chinese and English compliments are roughly the same. 3.In informal situations,a large number of complements are used to make people feel comfortable. Exerciese
4.The cultural assumption of compliments is the same between cultures. 5.Adjctive and verbs are often used to convey compliment message in English, while adjectives,adverbs and verbs are often used in Chinese. 6. English compliments often begin with the word “you” while Chinese compliments often start with the word “I”. Exerciese × × ×
7.Chinese people give more compliments in daily life than Americans. 8.Americans tend to be self-effacing in their compliment responses. 9.Compliments on othe’s belongings are sometimes an indirect way of request in American culture 10.If a guest compliments something in another person’s home, the Chinese host or hostess will probablygive that thing to the guest. Exerciese × ×
1.discuss the different semantic formulas in English and Chinese compliments 2 What is the cultural assumption ? Please give an example to illustrate your point Questions for Discussion