Building Stronger Kids Choices They can make decisions Listen and respect what they say Saying No - encourage them to set limits about personal safety Express feelings Trust instincts and gut feelings
Victim Language Empowering Language We need to think about Victim language Eg “He made me feel so mad”; “You make me feel great”; I statements are more empowering – –I felt lonely when she said – –I felt upset when ” Promoting responsibility language encourages problem solving thinking Gently challenging victim stance and promoting solutions: – –you got angry when this happened… what can you do about being angry?
Touching Safety Skills to stop bad or confusing touching Establish who/when can touch private parts Secrets Tell an adult Anytime you feel mixed up about a touch tell the person to Stop and talk about it with a grown up you can trust
Early Warning Signs Explores concept of unsafe/danger Identify Early Warning signs: Where is your early warning sign? – –Recognise the difference between fun and risk and danger and risk Yes feelings tell us we are safe No feelings tell us we are unsafe or unsure