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1 How to host a conversation on bullying in your community Michelle Alfred Vice President of Leadership Pinellas County Council PTA/PTSA

2 A person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons, and he or she has difficulty defending himself or herself. Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time.

3 Imbalance of Power Intent to HarmRepeated Behavior Rough PlayReal FightingBullying Usually friends; often repeated (same players) Usually not friends; Typically not repeated Typically not friends; Generally repeated Balance of PowerPower relatively equalUnequal power No intent to harmIntentional Harm Affect is friendly; Positive, mutual Affect negative; Aggressive, tense, hostile affect Affect negative; Aggressive and differs for victim and aggressor

4 CYBERBULLYING VERBAL PHYSICAL RELATIONAL AGGRESSION

5 A student who bullies is someone who repeatedly hurts another person on purpose. TYPES OF BULLIES Proactive: seek internal feelings of power and control, behave in a deliberate manner. Reactive: feel threatened, emotional and impulsive, feel aggression is justified. Extrovert: openly harass and use force to get their way Introvert: conform to rules, seek power through manipulation Passive: participate but do not take the lead role in bullying incidents

6 Frequent name calling and put downs Lack of empathy for others Desire to have power over others Disrespect for authority and rules Easily offended or angered Have unexplained extra money or new belongings

7 Stay calm Focus on how to help your child learn positive behaviors Make it clear that bullying behaviors are unacceptable Use consistent, respectful discipline; hold your child responsible for hurtful behavior and help your child understand the consequences of their actions Help your child see other points of view; teach empathy for others Spend quality time with your child and be a positive role model

8 A student who is repeatedly exposed to negative actions from peers in the form of physical attacks, verbal assaults, or psychological abuse. About 1 in 5 children has been a victim of bullying

9 Lonely, withdrawn or isolated Lacks social skills Has few friends Sudden changes in school performance or attendance Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares Unexplained scratches, bruises, or damage to clothing/property Nervous, anxious, worried, fearful Suddenly starts bullying others

10 Ashamed of being bullied Embarrassed that they cannot handle the bullying themselves Afraid of retaliation Do not believe anyone can help Do not believe anyone will help Have been taught bullying is part of growing up and will develop character Believe ratting on a peer is unacceptable

11 Let your child know that you are pleased they have told you and that it is not their fault Reassure your child that you will help him/her Investigate the situation by asking questions Avoid confronting the child who is bullying or his/her parents Develop a safety plan with your child that includes trusted adults your child can turn to for help Spend quality time with your child and be a positive role model Contact the school as soon as possible

12 Cyberbullying is bullying through email, instant messaging (IMing), chat room exchanges, Web site posts, or digital messages or images send to a cellular phone or personal digital assistant (PDA) Cyberbullying is bullying that takes place using electronic technology. Electronic technology includes devices and equipment such as cell phones, computers, and tablets as well as communication tools including social media sites, text messages, chat, and websites.

13 Cyberbullying has some rather unique characteristics that are different from traditional bullying. SENSE OF SAFETY VIOLATED SELF ESTEEM ERODED EMOTIONAL HARM 24/7 FEAR OF REPORTING CONCERNS

14 Harrassment Denigration Flaming Impersonation Outing and Trickery Posting Pictures - Morphing - Rating Happy Slapping

15 Tips for Parents Create rules for internet use Educate yourself and your child Know what your child is doing online Learn the language Don’t allow solitary surfing Don’t rely solely on technology to protect kids Know your child’s e-mail accounts, profiles, IM screen names, etc.

16 Tips for Kids Keep personal information to yourself Never post a picture Always use a neutral username Don’t give password to anyone but parents Tell an adult if cyberbullying occurs Keep anything sent by the person who is cyberbullying

17  Save messages and pictures as evidence.  Send one message clearly stating “Do not contact me again or I will contact the authorities.”  Contact the ISP, forward offending messages and request the account be terminated. www.whois.net  Notify the website and request removal  Trace phone number and contact phone company  Contact your local law enforcement office

18 Host a Connect For Respect Event Obtain a copy of and understand your school district’s bullying or harassment policy; including reporting procedures. Work with your School Administration/School Resource Officers to educate and inform students, parents and teachers on the school districts’ policies and prevention programs. Share resources and educational materials on bullying.

19 Go to National PTA’s website at www.pta.org/bullying for more information. 1.Develop Goals and Objectives 2.Determine the Type of Event. 3.Select a Date and Time. 4.Determine a Location. 5.Consider the Needs of Your Community. 6.Develop an Agenda and Invite Guest Speakers. 7.Communicate About Your Event 8.Develop Materials to Hand Out at Your Event. 9.Host Your Connect For Respect Event. 10.Evaluate Your Event 11.Plan for the Future.

20 Website Resources on Bullying and Prevention www.pta.org/bullying www.stopbullying.gov www.bullying.org www.cyberbullying.org www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/youthviolence/ www.ncpc.org/newsroom/current-campaigns/bully-prevention/ Parent Surveillance SitesTranslating Web Talk www.us.trendmicro.comwww.transl8it.com www.eblaster.comwww.webopedia.com www.watchdog.com www.spectorsoft.com

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