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TONY ISSENMANN, PH.D., LMFT FAMILY SERVICES DIRECTOR, CLINICAL THERAPIST OPEN SKY WILDERNESS THERAPY Differentiation: A model for understanding adolescent development, presenting problems and determining treatment goals
Overview Differentiation defined and explained Benefits of increasing level of differentiation How differentiation is developed Common barriers to increasing differentiation Treatment goals Students Families
Defining Terms Differentiation: Concept related to inter- and intrapersonal development Increased differentiation necessary for true independence the ability to remain oneself in the face of group influences, especially the intense influence of family life
Theoretical scale 0 – High scores represent most healthy Low scores represents least healthy 0
Defining Terms Basic and Functional Levels Basic Level 100 Not directly observable Stable Not dependant on daily relational factors Higher basic level yields: Consistently high functional level 0
Defining Terms Functional Level Observable 100 Dependant on relational factors Closely related to individual and relational anxiety and stress Influenced by chronic anxiety in one’s important relationships = Functional Level = Basic Level 0
Low Basic Level of Differentiation Effect of low basic level of differentiation on functional level 100 Extreme variance in actions = Functional Level = Basic Level 0
High Basic Level of Differentiation Effect of high basic level of differentiation on functional level 100 Little variance in actions = Functional Level = Basic Level 0
Differentiation - Implications Fluctuating functional levels is an indicator of one’s basic level of differentiation Can only befriend someone with similar basic level of differentiation As one’s basic level of differentiation increases, one’s friends and family will grow with or apart from growing individual
Differentiation – Individual Task Individual Continuum Rational Thought (RT) Emotional Belief (EB) 100 (RT) (EB) Role of stress on ability to balance task
Differentiation – Relational Task Relational Continuum Individuality (I) Connectedness (C) Adolescent development Role of stress on ability to balance task 100 (I) (C)
Benefits of Differentiating Individual level Actions match values Ability to think before acting Less emotionally reactive More intent behind actions Greater ability to manage unforeseen difficulties Increased ability to distinguish beliefs from emotions I believe this is the right thing to do versus I feel this is the best thing to do.
Benefits of Differentiating Relational level Increase intimacy in relationships Thinking and acting for oneself (less susceptible to peer pressure) Not running away from relational problems Not over-functioning (enabling) Solid sense-of-self Desire to be fully present in relationships and for others to be fully present Ability to cope in times of high stress More easily adaptable to new situations Increased health in relationships
How does differentiation develop? The basic building blocks of a "self" are inborn, but… Family relationships during childhood and adolescence primarily determine how much "self" s/he develops. Parenting styles Family patterns of dealing with stress/anxiety Family patterns of relating to oneself and others Increasing level of differentiation requires intent to change patterns No intent = no increase in level of differentiation
Maintaining healthy (emotional) connection with others, especially when in anxiety provoking situations is vital to a successful differentiation effort (Ault-Riche, 1986; McGoldrick & Carter, 1999; Walsh & Scheinkman, 1989).
Common Barriers to Differentiation Unhealthy management of anxiety and stress: Triangulation Enabling patterns Avoidance Drugs and alcohol Online gaming Overeating and under-eating Authoritarian and permissive parenting styles Unhealthy belief systems (cognitive distortions)
Behaviors Explained Adolescent’s desire Differentiate: Separate from Family of Origin Establish an identity - assert oneself Avoid anxiety – family, social, academic Parental desire Safety of child Healthy separation Results in: Successful differentiation Problematic behaviors
Problem behaviors leading to Open Sky Drugs and Alcohol Excessive video game, internet use Defying rules/expectations School work Curfew House rules Violent behaviors Withdrawn behaviors School avoidance Self harm actions Losing self in relationships
Treatment Goals Initial stage of therapeutic relationship: Normalization - raise understanding of differentiation Encourage student and parents to identify their position on the differentiation continuums Help parents and teens/young adults to understand how behaviors relate to attempts to differentiate Explore multigenerational patterns Explore family patterns of managing stressful situations
Treatment Goals Individual Continuum Rational Thought Emotional Belief Increase awareness of ineffective decision making patterns Address connection between emotional functioning and ability to think clearly Awareness wheel Event + Expectation = Emotion (E+E=E)
Treatment Goals Individual Continuum Rational Thought Emotional Belief Teach emotional regulation Cognitive, behavioral, physical cues of emotions Relaxation techniques Primary versus secondary emotions Research emotional reactivity of adolescent males Strengthen cognitive process Thought stopping techniques Confront cognitive distortions Positive self-talk Problems solving techniques
Treatment Goals Relational Continuum Individuality Connectedness Highlight and contrast relationships (Open Sky vs. past relationships Highlight differences in peer (connectedness) and family (autonomy) relationships Value driven decisions
Individuality Connection Assignments related to individuality and self- efficacy Exploring personal and family values Solos LOR Leadership roles Bow-drilling Wilderness and survival skills Focus on connection Practice empathy Receive support Communicate openly Intentional family correspondence Treatment Goals: Relational Continuum
Individual Continuum Relational Continuum Help parents: separate emotional and intellectual process increase emotional awareness and tolerance address own reactivity, depression, anxiety, etc. Highlight parents are modeling for their children Long-term vs. short-term thinking Magical thinking Educate parents regarding attunement enmeshment – control circumstance or others cutoff – separate identity beyond parent Highlight parents are modeling for their children Treatment Goals with Family
Adjusted families: are connected across generations to extended family. have little emotional fusion and distance. have dyads that can deal with problems between them without pulling others into their difficulties. tolerate and support members who have different values and feelings, and thus can support differentiation. have members who use each other for feedback and support rather than for emotional crutches. allow each member to have their own emptiness and periods of pain, without rushing to resolve or protect them from the pain and thus prohibit growth.
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