Presentation on theme: "Darlene J. Harris San Diego City College World Cultures Program 9/23/14 RECLAIMING ONE’S LIFE AFTER ABUSE."— Presentation transcript:
Darlene J. Harris San Diego City College World Cultures Program 9/23/14 RECLAIMING ONE’S LIFE AFTER ABUSE
DEFINITIONS Reclaiming ● To recover, ● To take back what was taken
IDENTIFYING CRIMES WHAT IS RAPE / SEXUAL ABUSE Rape is any kind of sexual intercourse (vaginal, oral, or anal) that is committed against a person's will or is committed with physical force or with a threat to hurt the victim or another person. It is also considered rape if the victim is intoxicated or unconscious and unable to give consent. Rape and sexual assault are not about sexual desire--they are about power and control.
IDENTIFYING CRIMES Molestation is the crime of sexual acts with children up to the age of 18, including touching of private parts or exposure Babies as young as 1 to 8 days old have been reported to have been sexually penetrated and sodomized by teenage and adult abusers
IDENTIFYING CRIMES Child abuse (maltreatment) physical abuse molestation psychological abuse (what are some examples) neglect
WHO ARE THE ABUSERS? Abusers can be parents or other family members, caregivers such as teachers or babysitters, acquaintances (including other children), and (in very rare instances) strangers
IDENTIFYING CRIMES Domestic Violence The willful intimidation, physical assault, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior perpetrated by an intimate partner against another
WHO IS AFFECTED Women are attacked about six times more often by offenders with whom they had an intimate relationship than are male violence victims Nearly 32 percent of all female homicide victims are killed by their husbands, former husbands or boyfriends
WHO IS AFFECTED In contrast, only 3 percent of male homicide victims are killed by their wives, former wives or girlfriends Everyday in the US, more than three women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends
WHO IS AFFECTED BY DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is assaulted or beaten Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend threatened violence or self- harm if presented with a breakup Studies suggest that up to 10 million children witness some form of domestic violence annually
WARNING SIGNS The existence of emotional, mental and verbal abuse Threats and intimidation Isolation from family and friends
WARNING SIGNS ● Controls all the family finances ● Violence may escalate when alcohol / drugs are used ● Gives expensive gifts after violent acts ● Uses electronic devices to keep track of your location
TRUE OR FALSE Children make up stories about being sexually assaulted People who sexually assault children are strangers to the child Most sexual assaults happen in the home or in the home of people the child knows
TRUE OR FALSE 30% to 60% of perpetrators of intimate partner violence also abuse children in the household The cost of intimate partner violence exceeds $5.8 billion each year, $4.1 billion of which is for direct medical and mental health services Domestic violence is one of the most chronically under reported crimes
INJURIES DUE TO INTIMATE-PARTNER VIOLENCE scratches, bruises, broken bones, dislocated joints head or spinal cord injuries chipped or broken teeth internal injuries Nearly 80% of those who receive medical care are treated in a hospital, and 43.6% of those victims spend one or more nights there rape.http://www.whitehouse.gov/sites/default/files/docs/sexual_assault_report_1-21-14.pdf
DAMAGES CAUSED BY DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Emotional/Mental Blackmail Loss of Safety, Loss of boundaries, fear Abandonment – when incest is the crime Depression – psychological imbalance Sadness, overwhelmed Feelings of Betrayal – especially when the crime involves someone the victim knows or when a parent is the perpetrator Guilt – blaming oneself Shame Death – as a result of the crime
THE ECONOMIC IMPACT- COSTS Studies indicate from $87,000 to $240,776 per rape The cost of domestic violence to the US economy is more than $8.3 This cost includes medical care, mental health services, and lost of productivity http://www.whitehohttp://www.caepv.org/getinfo/facts_stats.php?factsec=2 use.gov/sites/default/files/docs/sexual_assault_report_1-21-14.pdf
FEDERAL SENTENCING A favorable decision from the courts does not bring healing Federal law maximum sentence for sexual assault is 20 years + monetary fines Federal law provides compensation to victims for expenses directly related to the crime such as medical, physical and occupational therapy, attorney fees and other related expenses See more at: http://criminal.findlaw.com/criminal-charges/sexual-assault-penalties-and-entencinghttp://criminal.findlaw.com/criminal-charges/sexual-assault-penalties-and-entencing
PENALTY FOR RAPE IN CALIFORNIA Victim over 14 years of age (but not age of consent) the potential sentence seven to eleven years Victim under 14 years of age the potential sentence nine to thirteen years (this is Statutory Rape)
PENALTY FOR THE CRIME Domestic Violence Prosecution Attorney determines if the crime is a Misdemeanor vs.Felony Please consult an attorney specializing in Domestic Violence Law.
PENALTY FOR THE CRIME The state might also consider the defendant's prior or current criminal record and decide whether to pursue enhanced sentencing Note: State laws are constantly changing -- please contact a California criminal defense attorney or conduct your own legal research to verify the state law(s) you are researching
WHAT CAN WE DO? A Home is ALWAYS meant for a family to live peacefully. Healing means acknowledging, accepting that we were hurt. And that that hurt involved three areas: body, mind, and spirit So, is healing possible? YES! If YES then HOW?
HEALING Healing is not an overnight process. It takes time….. A Safety Plan - A prevention center can help with this Center For Community Solutions www.ccssd.org Therapy - Choose carefully (recommendations/ referrals)
Healing - Continued Beyond Survivor - Is a Three Stage Process for healing developed by Rachel Grant Coach@rachelgrantcoaching.com or 415-513-0700 Network - Develop a strong network of trusted friends/family to help you through Groups - Joining a recommended group is very helpful because you don’t feel so alone. http://www.rachelgrantcoaching.com/more-media/ http://rachelgrantcoaching.com/media/beyond-surving-guidebook-excerpt.pdf
DEVELOPING A NEW MIND-SET Parents - Make an effort to know children's friends and their families. Boundaries - Teach, communicate and set Education - parents, schools, higher education Create and develop - listening communication skills Demonstrate RESPECT in the HOME
DATING ETIQUETTE TO REMEMBER! Trust your instincts and Trust yourself and act accordingly Examine your own feelings about sex Non-verbals signals- these are 70% to 90% of our communication Be Independent and Aware of your Surroundings
The soul is a lot more fragile than the human flesh.” So Be Kind To YOU! Thank you it has been my pleasure to be in your presence.