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1 BASIC COUNSELING IN THE CHURCH CONTEXT Sound Baptist Bible College December – February Instructor: Pastor Marvin McKenzie

2 Course Times: The 2rd Saturday of the month, December – February from 9:00 AM- 3:00 PM Course Description: This course will cover basic counseling techniques any mature Christian may employ. It will also deal with philosophy of Christian counseling and the practice of referrals to professional Christian counselors. Course Requirements: Students will be expected to 1. Attend all classes. 2. Read the textbook and prepare a class paper (due the final Saturday) outlining common biblical themes discovered throughout the Scriptures presented in the text and how these common themes might be used in basic counseling 3. Take notes during lessons and participate in class discussions 5. A test will be given at the end of the course. Grades will be based on 50% attendance 30% participation 20% test

3 Philosophy of Church Bible Counseling Titus 2:1-8 But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded. In all things shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity, Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you. (KJV) Mature members of the church training less mature Discipleship a form of counseling Ladies counseling ladies, men counseling men –Protecting yourself from sexual questions

4 BIBLE BAPTIST CHURCH of Puyallup COUNSELING POLICY Bible Baptist Church offers counseling under certain conditions: 1. Our counseling sessions normally maximum of 7 weeks. If the counselee desires further counseling I refer them to a professional Biblical counselor. The counselee must understand that we are a Bible based ministry with distinctive Biblical values. We teach and stress these values in counseling sessions. We do not use traditionally accepted counseling methods during our sessions. The counselee should not expect these sessions to resemble typical counseling practices. 2. We require the counselee to attend each of our services at the church while counseling sessions are underway. We have church services Sunday morning, Sunday evening and Wednesday night. If the counselee is a member of another independent Baptist Church it will be acceptable for them to attend services there, but the same condition exists; they must attend all services unless providentially hindered.

5 BIBLE BAPTIST CHURCH of Puyallup COUNSELING POLICY Bible Baptist Church offers counseling under certain conditions: 3. If the counselee is unable to attend all of the services during any one of the weeks of counseling, the session for that week will cost $15.00 per hour to be paid in advance. 4. We often give assignments to be performed before the next session. If the assignment is not completed the above fee applies for the session following the assignment. 5. The counselee must understand we are not registered as counselors in the state of Washington. The counselee must agree to not hold Pastor Marvin McKenzie, Bible Baptist Church of Puyallup, WA, or any of its members liable for any perceived or real problems connected with our counseling sessions. 6. The sessions should be scheduled for Tuesday or Thursday afternoons. On occasion I can schedule other days and times but I like to make them the exception rather than the rule.

6 BIBLE BAPTIST CHURCH of Puyallup COUNSELING POLICY Bible Baptist Church offers counseling under certain conditions: I, __________________________________, acknowledge and understand that Pastor Marvin McKenzie is not a licensed counselor in the state of Washington, but is rather a preacher of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. I agree that by receiving counseling from Pastor McKenzie I will strive to complete any assignments he may give. I further agree that I will not hold Pastor McKenzie, Bible Baptist Church, or any of its members liable for any perceived or real problems connected with any counseling sessions received. ________________________________ Counselee Date

7 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR Isaiah 9:6 Some people believe that Isaiah 9:6 has only four names, not five. Wonderful counselor Mighty God Everlasting Father Prince of Peace

8 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR I personally believe that wonderful and counselor should be separated into two different names for Christ, and I intend to demonstrate why today. But there is no doubt that Christ is a wonderful counselor. And it is He that we need to run to for counsel and direction for our lives. Not the therapists Not the psychologists Not even the Christian counselors and pastors

9 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR The only kind of human counselor I think is worth his salt is the kind whose believes all he can do is take you by the hand and lead you to the Wonderful Counselor, Jesus Christ.

10 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR A. The passages Romans 15:14 KJV And I myself also am persuaded of you, my brethren, that ye also are full of goodness, filled with all knowledge, able also to admonish one another. Colossians 3:16 KJV Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.

11 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR A. The passages The Hebrew word counselor in Isaiah 9 means "to advise, to deliberate or resolve." The word admonish means "to put in mind, to caution, rebuke or warn."

12 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR A. The passages The purpose of counsel is to put things before a person's mind to bring about a resolution for them.

13 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR B. The principles From these two passages three qualifications have been suggested: 1. A knowledge of the Scriptures as they apply to personal life 2. A concern for others 3. An enthusiasm and zeal for life

14 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR You have to care for others (full of goodness, empathy) You have to have the tools to help others (Word of Christ dwell in your richly, filled with all knowledge) You need to enjoy and love life (richly, songs and hymns and spiritual songs) Without the concern you will not be motivated Without the knowledge of the Scriptures you will not be equipped Without the zest for life you will be overcome with the trials of the work (if you are not an overcomer, you will be overcome!)

15 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR C. The application to Jesus If these are in fact appropriate qualifications for counselors, Christ fills the requirements above any other.

16 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE QUALIFICATION OF THIS COUNSELOR His concern Romans 5:8 KJV But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. His knowledge John 13:3 KJV Jesus knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he was come from God, and went to God; His zeal for life John 1:4 KJV In him was life; and the life was the light of men.

17 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE CHARACTER OF THIS COUNSELOR A. His counsel guides Psalms 73:24 KJV Thou shalt guide me with thy counsel, and afterward receive me to glory. It both protects and controls. Guidance is restrictive. A guide tells you where you may go, but he also tells you where you may not.

18 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE CHARACTER OF THIS COUNSELOR B. His counsel instructs Isaiah 40:13-14 KJV Who hath directed the Spirit of the LORD, or being his counsellor hath taught him? With whom took he counsel, and who instructed him, and taught him in the path of judgment, and taught him knowledge, and shewed to him the way of understanding? Counsel requires we come to understand truth and judgment.

19 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE CHARACTER OF THIS COUNSELOR C. His counsel comforts Proverbs 27:9 KJV Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a man's friend by hearty counsel. Does this mean that everything Christ says to us is easy to take and pleasant to the ears? No. John 6.. the hard sayings and how many turned away from Him because of them. Nevertheless, those very hard sayings are an immense comfort to those who submit to them.

20 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL How do we know the counsel of Christ? How does He do it?

21 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL A. Through the Scriptures 2 Timothy 3:16-17 KJV All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works. Colossians says to let the Word of Christ dwell in you richly. During those times when we need guidance and counsel from the Lord we need to follow the counsel of

22 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL A. Through the Scriptures Psalms 1:1-3 KJV Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful. But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. Especially when you need to know what to do, get away from the ungodly and get into your Bible.

23 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL B. Through prayer Judges 20:18 KJV And the children of Israel arose, and went up to the house of God, and asked counsel of God, and said, Which of us shall go up first to the battle against the children of Benjamin? And the LORD said, Judah shall go up first. Judges 20:23 KJV (And the children of Israel went up and wept before the LORD until even, and asked counsel of the LORD, saying, Shall I go up again to battle against the children of Benjamin my brother? And the LORD said, Go up against him.)

24 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL B. Through prayer This sort of prayer requires that we not only ask, but that we also know how to hear the Lord. First: Be still, stop and wait Second: Be persistent; keep asking until you sense the answer Third: be aware, He isn't going to answer in the wind, the earthquake or the fire but in the still small voice (1 Kings 19:12) There was a wind There was an earthquake and There was a fire But God wasn't in them. You will have to be aware of spiritual things to wait for God while all those crashing sounds pass.

25 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL C. Through the counsel of mature saints/pastor Titus 2:15 KJV These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee. God gives us the local church, the mature saints in the church and the pastor of the church to give counsel. We do not well whenever we make major life choices without seeking our pastor's input

26 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL D. Through circumstances Genesis 24:27 KJV And he said, Blessed be the LORD God of my master Abraham, who hath not left destitute my master of his mercy and his truth: I being in the way, the LORD led me to the house of my master's brethren. Eliezar was Abraham's servant, sent to find a bride of Isaac. He has asked God for certain things to line up in order to help him discern the Lord's will. Being in the way, allowing God to work out the circumstances, Eliezar was able to know the will of God.

27 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL E. Through the confirmation of the Holy Spirit Acts 16:6-10 KJV Now when they had gone throughout Phrygia and the region of Galatia, and were forbidden of the Holy Ghost to preach the word in Asia, After they were come to Mysia, they assayed to go into Bithynia: but the Spirit suffered them not. And they passing by Mysia came down to Troas. And a vision appeared to Paul in the night; There stood a man of Macedonia, and prayed him, saying, Come over into Macedonia, and help us. And after he had seen the vision, immediately we endeavoured to go into Macedonia, assuredly gathering that the Lord had called us for to preach the gospel unto them.

28 THE NAMES OF GOD COUNSELLOR THE DISCERNING OF HIS COUNSEL Pay attention to that still small voice inside you. It is amazing how many times God will be telling us either we should do something or we should not and we ignore the leadership of the Holy Spirit. Learn to tell the difference between your flesh's desires and the voice of the Holy Ghost within you and Learn to obey that voice.

29 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Most people are in trouble because they haven't been doing the basics. Three major areas of life Physical Psychological Spiritual Help people be sound in all three areas.

30 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life We are not Christian counselors we are Biblical counselors. We tell people what the Bible says.

31 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Once we have trusted Christ our goal is to become healthier Christians.

32 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Go through your difficult circumstances so that someone else may be blessed. The things we go through and have been through are the tools God will use to help us help others. You may not tell them how you have been through a trouble but you will know how to relate because you have experienced difficulties. Treasure up those experiences to be used of the Lord.

33 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Paul and Silas knew how to live above their circumstances. Acts 16 "You cannot choose your circumstances. All you can choose is how you react to your circumstances." They went through their difficulty that God might show His power on their behalf.

34 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Soul Personality Body Spirit Intuition, Conscience and Communion 1. Inferiority 2. Insecurity 3. Inadequacy 4. Guilt: real (sin) Imagined 5. Worry: Doubts Fears Tension headache or migraine, nervous stomach, Ulcer, hives, rashes, allergies, asthma, some arthritis, spastic colon, palpitation of heart, severe hysteria, repiratory ailments, compulsive eating, fatigue, insomnia, escape in sleep, depression, etc. 1. Salvation 2. Assurance 3. Security 4. Acceptance 5. Total Commitment Romans 12:1 S Hostility Fear Family, work, etc Emotion 1. Depression 2. Anxiety Mind 1. Fantasy 2. Paranoia 3. Obsessive thoughts 4. Schizophrenia C

35 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Soul: Relations to man personality, feelings Inferiority, insecurity, etc. because of the input of the world. Spirit: relates to God - consciousness, intuition. Knowing, no feeling Assurance Body: Relates to environment Self is in the center of it all and it comes out in several ways: Hostility - violence Emotions - depression, anxiety Problems in the body, illness, heart issues, tension, stress because we haven't talked out our frustrations and problems.

36 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems come because of Stupidity Sin Serving God

37 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Body Four reasons why people get sick 1. Because of the natural weakness of the flesh - because of Adamic sin 2. Because of the chastening of God 3. Because of (for) the glory of God man born blind. 4. Because it is appointed unto man to die. A release from this life into the next.

38 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the mind Fantasize Detach through TV, Radio, etc. Most people can't hear God because of the noises in their life. Paranoia Obsessive thoughts Schizophrenia

39 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Number one goal is to love the Lord If you love someone you don’t want to displease them. Spirit filled Christians do not burn out. If they burn out they are serving in the energy of the flesh.

40 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Some people only serve God out of fear. When the fear goes away they quit. Love is the number one motive He wants us to love Him. We will serve Him because we fear Him but his desire is for us to love Him. He can get His work done (donkey, cock) but He wants us to love Him.

41 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit God wants our love People need our love

42 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Second goal is to help others love God Obedience will come if we love God properly. Too many people teach their children commandments but the kids grow up to leave God because we did not teach them to love God.

43 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Love is more caught than taught. They will learn to love God by seeing us love God Talk of Him Praise Him Express His blessings Pray for answers and point out the solution and praise Him Romans 11:36 Of Him Through Him To Him Everything rises and falls on God. (Not on leadership)

44 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit 1 Corinthians 3:11-15 If we do the work for God and have the wrong motives we are building wood hay and stubble. Sing Teaching class Soul winning Desiring position With wrong motives

45 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Do what we do because we are Christ directed. Pray about what we give (above the tithe) Pray about where we serve the Lord Pray about day to day duties. How much communication do we have with God.

46 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit If we love God we will love our neighbor Mean Cold Bitter If you are characterized by these you don’t love God.

47 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Cannot manufacture Christ love. Revelation 2:1

48 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Problems in the Spirit Love for God is first Matthew 22:35-40 First work is to love Jesus Second work is to help others Love the Lord

49 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Four things unfulfilled in sinner's life Love Acceptance Care Purpose in life Purpose in life is your worth, the ability to feel important.

50 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Five emotional needs Acceptance Approval Admiration Application Assurance

51 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Three ways people try to fill emotional needs Thrills (roller coasters etc) Things (buying stuff) Theories (trying to prove something or discover something new.)

52 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life People seek to get their needs met In the home Out of the home: drugs, alcohol, sex, etc Through Jesus Christ

53 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Purpose in life is your worth, the ability to feel important. We get our worth from two places God Others

54 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life We are best off when we get our worth from God because if we get it from others we will be let down. Children sense of adequacy of inferiority because they didn’t get the right sense of worth from their parents. Most need to be reprogrammed. We need to find out what God's sense of value is.

55 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Ecclesiastes 1:17 - chapter two Looking for knowledge Looking for pleasure Looking for chemicals Looking for materials Looking for self worth But none of it satisfied.

56 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Marriage definition: Marriage is a man and woman joining hand in hand together to work out life's problems. (The helpmate relationship) Definition of love: The sacrificial giving of oneself to meet the needs of another.

57 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Performance Based Acceptance pg “Performance Based Acceptance" people want to be loved and will run with anyone that will let them because they want to be accepted. You will not have everyone's acceptance no matter what we do so we have to choose to find acceptance in Christ.

58 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Us Christ We are just as accepted by God as Jesus is! Performance Based Acceptance pg 156

59 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Performance Based Acceptance We have the favor of God as Christ had it. He does not always approve of my behavior but He always accepts me.

60 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Performance Based Acceptance Parents should not speak of behavior and acceptance as the same thing. Correct behavior but always express love and acceptance.

61 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Performance Based Acceptance "Your mom and I can't stand lying. We hate liars. And you lied" That tells the child you hate them. "Son you mom and I decided we won't tolerate lying. We love you but we will not let you behave this way." That separates the behavior from the acceptance of his parents.

62 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Performance Based Acceptance Four things God offers us in His love Eternal life Forgiveness of sins Unconditional acceptance Home in heaven

63 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Performance Based Acceptance I know that God loves me but that He can't stand sinful behaviour.

64 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Performance Based Acceptance Basis of acceptance 2 Corinthians 5:21 1 John 4:10 How far did God go in demonstrating his love for us? Jesus died for us.

65 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Positional truth pg157 Revelation 1:6 Romans 8:1 Romans 8:17 1 John 3:2-3 Ps 119:105 John 1:12 For Time John 3:36 For Eternity In Heaven On Earth

66 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Positional truth Pg 158 Revelation 1:6 Romans 8:1 Romans 8:17 1 John 3:2-3 Ps 119:105 John 1:12 For Time John 3:36 For Eternity In Heaven On Earth Your position in Christ: You are a King Rev 1:6 Your position on earth: You are a priest and servant. Rev 1:6, Mk 10:44-45 Your name is written in Heaven Lk 10:20 You are glorified with Christ Rom 8:17 You are blessed in Christ Eph 1:3 It is an eternal fellowship Rom 8:38-39 You are an adult Son of God 1 John 3:2 You will not answer for your sins Rom 8:1 You will receive an inheritance Eph 1:11-14, 1 Cor 3:11-15 It is temporal fellowship Hebrews 11:13 In the circle you are spiritual and protected 1 Jn 1:7, Job 1:8-10, Rom 8:10. Ps 119:105 You are earning your rewards 2 Cor 5:10, Mt 25:21 Getting you into God's the circle is God's goal

67 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Positional truth pg 159 Revelation 1:6 Romans 8:1 Romans 8:17 1 John 3:2-3 Ps 119:105 John 1:12 For Time John 3:36 For Eternity In Heaven On Earth Your position in Christ: You are a King Rev 1:6 Children receive discipline but once they are an adult son they do not. You are a child of God becoming what God already considers you to be in heaven. A son of God. Your name is written in Heaven Lk 10:20 You are glorified with Christ Rom 8:17 You are blessed in Christ Eph 1:3 It is an eternal fellowship Rom 8:38-39 You are an adult Son of God 1 John 3:2 You will not answer for your sins Rom 8:1 You will receive an inheritance Eph 1:11-14, 1 Cor 3:11-15 Outside the circle you are tested Job 1:11- 12, 13:15, 42: Outside the circle because of carnality you are disciplined Heb 12:6-17, 10: Discipline is for our time on earth as a child of God. It will cause you to want to be back in the circle. Wrath is for the lost and is for eternity. 1 Thes 5:9, Rev 6:17 Getting you into God's the circle is God's goal Outside the circle you may be losing part of your inheritance or rewards. 1 Cor 3:11-15, 1 Sam 15:23, 2 Jn 8

68 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Positional truth Pg 160 The Christian’s “I Am’s” Pg 169 Revelation 1:6 Romans 8:1 Romans 8:17 1 John 3:2-3 Ps 119:105 John 1:12 For Time John 3:36 For Eternity In Heaven On Earth Your position in Christ: You are a King Rev 1:6 How to stay in the circle. 1 John 1:7 Your name is written in Heaven Lk 10:20 You are glorified with Christ Rom 8:17 You are blessed in Christ Eph 1:3 It is an eternal fellowship Rom 8:38-39 You are an adult Son of God 1 John 3:2 You will not answer for your sins Rom 8:1 You will receive an inheritance Eph 1:11-14, 1 Cor 3: Jn 1:9Rom 8:1 Getting you into God's the circle is God's goal Ps119:105 1 Jn 3:3 Eph 5:18 Rom 6:11 Rom 7:4-6 Are you in the circle?

69 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Guilt Two types of guilt Real guilt -sin Imaginary guilt –Something the devil puts in your mind but has no substance. –Confessed sin coming up again

70 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Guilt Confession of sin involves repentance. Being in agreement with God about the sin and turning away from it. When Satan accuses you of already confessed sin Pray Plead the blood and Praise God for victory Out loud

71 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Guilt Galatians 2:20 Is it proper to personalize Christ's love? Yes. Personal in that he lives in me Personal that I live in Him. To the extent that you understand the price Christ paid and to the degree you recognize your sinfulness, you will comprehend Christ's sacrifice for you and you will love Him.

72 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Guilt To whom much is forgiven….. We are personally responsible for our sins Romans 3:23

73 Basics to counseling are the basics of the Christian life Guilt Remember that you will have people that will try to blame everybody for their problems you will need to bring them back to the place where they are accountable.

74 Anger CASES The two most powerful human emotions are LOVE and ANGER Love is health-producing, while anger is health-destroying. · JACOB, the anger of a spouse against a spouse, Gen. 30:2. · MOSES, the anger of a leader against followers, Ex. 32:19. · BALAAM, the anger of a man against an animal, Num. 22:27. · ELIAB, the anger of a sibling against a sibling, 1 Sam. 17:28. · SAUL, the anger of a parent against his child, 1 Sam. 20:30.

75 Anger CASES "Over and over in the literature on the subject, depression is described as anger turned inside" (Happiness is a Choice, p. 99).

76 Anger CASES Various levels of anger. Rage Fury Wrath Indignation Mild Irritation

77 Anger CAUSES Anger and aggression always occur in response to frustration! A frustration is an obstacle (an event, a physical barrier, some person) which hinders our progress toward a goal.

78 Anger CAUSES You can get angry in response to... A flat tire on the way to church. A sickness that comes as you are beginning a vacation. A telephone that rings while you are trying to get a bath or eat a meal. A job promotion that is given to someone else. A Yale University study states when people are frustrated they always become aggressive.

79 Anger CONSEOUENCES Anger Destroys Home-Life, Gen. 4:5-8. Anger Destroys Health. "Approximately 97% of the cases of bleeding ulcers without organic origin I have dealt with are caused by anger" (Dr. Henry Brandt). Anger Destroys Holiness Eph. 4:30. Anger short circuits more Christians and makes more spiritual pygmies than any other sin. It has caused more church strife and "turned off" more young converts than anything else. It also grieves the Holy Spirit.

80 Anger How do people deal with anger? 1. Some DENY their anger. 2. Some DEFLECT their anger, by withdrawal. 3. Some DISPLACE their anger. 4. Some DOWNPLAY their anger. "It's not that bad. It's all over in just a few moments." You could also say that of an explosion! 5. Some DETEST their anger. This takes the form of self-criticism, physical ailments, feelings of inferiority, even self-destruction.

81 Anger CURE The Word of God indicates we are capable of deliberate action. Each of us is to deal with our anger in the light of God's truth.

82 Anger CURE 1. Admit your anger is sin.  Anger is sin when it is hasty, Prov. 14:17; 16:32; Jam. 1:19.  Anger is sin when it is without cause, Matt.5:22.  Anger is sin when it is long lasting, Eccl.7:9.

83 Anger CURE 2. Agree with God - confess your anger to God, 1 John 1:9. 3. Avail yourself of the power of the Holy Spirit to conquer your uncontrolled anger. The power of the Spirit is available, but not automatic, Gal. 5:16, Avoid keeping company with furious and perpetually angry people, Prov. 22:24, Accept God's mercy, grace, and power.

84 Anger CURE Repeat this formula as needed.

85 Anger Ephesians 4:26-27 Be ye angry and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath; Neither give place to the devil. "Internalization" Anger turned inward Depression Gets Into: 1. Despair 2. Despondency 3. Discouragement 4. Death wishes (BUILD-UP) How will handling your anger this way help the problem? PROBLEM I'm angry! Attack's self Destroys self Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

86 Anger Ephesians 4:26-27 Be ye angry and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath; Neither give place to the devil. "Ventilation" Anger turned outward Throwing a fit! (Blow-UP) How will handling you anger this way help the problem? PROBLEM I'm angry! Destroys relationships Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

87 Anger Ephesians 4:26-27 Be ye angry and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath; Neither give place to the devil. "Ventilation" Anger turned outward Throwing a fit! (Blow-UP) How will handling you anger this way help the problem? PROBLEM I'm angry! Destroys relationships Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Attack's self Destroys self "Internalization" Anger turned inward Depression Gets Into: 1. Despair 2. Despondency 3. Discouragement 4. Death wishes How will handling you anger this way help the problem? (BUILD-UP)

88 Anger Ephesians 4:26-27 Be ye angry and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath; Neither give place to the devil. Solution 1. Attack the problems not people. 2. The problem very seldom is a person other than yourself. Proverbs 16:7 KJV When a man's ways please the LORD, he maketh even his enemies to be at peace with him. 3. The problem is very seldom what someone did or did not do. 4. The problem is why did they do or not do it? Until you find out why they do what the do you cannot root out the real problem. Mark 7:21-23 KJV For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: All these evil things come from within, and defile the man. PROBLEM I'm angry! Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

89 Administer Spiritual Gifts Test

90 ANXIOUS CASE MARTHA, Luke 10:37-42 And he said, He that shewed mercy on him. Then said Jesus unto him, Go, and do thou likewise. Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain village: and a certain woman named Martha received him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Jesus' feet, and heard his word. 40 But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? bid her therefore that she help me. 41 And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: 42 But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her. (KJV)

91 ANXIOUS CASE 1. MARTHA FRETTING, v MARTHA RESENTING, v MARTHA DICTATING, v. 40.

92 ANXIOUS CASE According to Dr. Gary Collins, in Overcoming Anxiety, anxiety can have several dimensions, in regard to depth and degree. A person's anxiety may be... Specific (the barking of a dog) or Free-floating(does not know why) Acute (comes quickly, high intensity, short duration) or Chronic (lower intensity, longer lasting) Normal (when there is real danger) or Neurotic (abnormal feelings of discomfort when danger is mild or non-existent)

93 ANXIOUS CASE A neurotic is a person who worries about things that never happened in the past, unlike A normal person worries about things that never happen in the future

94 ANXIOUS CAUSES What causes anxiety? Lack of FACTS, Rom 10:17 So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. (KJV) Worry is the result of a basic lack of trust in God. It stems from a lack of knowledge of God - who He is and what He is like. It finally and ultimately can be linked to a deficiency of divine truth.

95 ANXIOUS CAUSES What causes anxiety? FEAR. "Worry is emotional distress caused by anticipating unknown adversity." "Worry is a thin stream of fear that trickles through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a wind channel that drains away all other thoughts."

96 ANXIOUS CAUSES What causes anxiety? Lack of FAITH, Romans 14:23 And he that doubteth is damned if he eat, because he eateth not of faith: for whatsoever is not of faith is sin. (KJV)

97 ANXIOUS CAUSES What causes anxiety? FOOLISHNESS, Matthew 6: Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they? Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature? And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith? (KJV)

98 ANXIOUS CAUSES What causes anxiety? The Birds teach us worry is unnecessary when it comes to food, v. 26. The Body teaches us worry is unavailing when it comes to longevity, v.27. The Blossoms teach us worry is unbecoming when it comes to clothes, v

99 ANXIOUS CONSEQUENCES EMOTIONAL damage. The person who is anxious is robbed of joy and peace.

100 ANXIOUS CONSEQUENCES PHYSICAL damage. Anxiety can result in... butterflies in the stomach, a lump in the throat, cotton in the mouth, rapid heart beat, shortness of breath, inability to sleep, and loss of appetite.

101 ANXIOUS CONSEQUENCES SOCIAL damage. A person who is a chronic worrier is not much fun to be around. Friendships cannot flourish in an atmosphere of anxiety.

102 ANXIOUS CONSEQUENCES SPIRITUAL damage, Matt 13:22 He also that received seed among the thorns is he that heareth the word; and the care of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, choke the word, and he becometh unfruitful. (KJV)

103 ANXIOUS CURE 1. Learn to Trust in the Lord, Prov 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. (KJV)

104 ANXIOUS CURE 2. Learn to Cast your care on the Lord, 1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. (KJV) You may have heard about John, who hired a man to do all his worrying for him. When asked how much it cost him, he disclosed, "A thousand dollars a week." "How could you possibly afford to pay him $1,000 a week?" To which John answered, "That's his first worry."

105 ANXIOUS CURE 3. Learn to Pray, Phil 4:6-7 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. (KJV)

106 ANXIOUS CURE 4. Learn to Share and Bear your burdens, Gal 6:1-2 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ. (KJV)

107 ANXIOUS CURE 5. Learn to Live one day at a time, Matt 6:34 Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof. (KJV) "By the yard life is hard. By the inch life's a cinch." "You've got to learn to relax."

108 UNFORGIVING Case AHITHOPHEL'S refusal to forgive DAVID. His counsel 2 Sam 16:23 And the counsel of Ahithophel, which he counselled in those days, was as if a man had inquired at the oracle of God: so was all the counsel of Ahithophel both with David and with Absalom. (KJV)

109 UNFORGIVING Case AHITHOPHEL'S refusal to forgive DAVID. His children, 2 Sam 23:23-34 He was more honourable than the thirty, but he attained not to the first three. And David set him over his guard.… Eliphelet the son of Ahasbai, the son of the Maachathite, Eliam the son of Ahithophel the Gilonite, (KJV)

110 UNFORGIVING Case AHITHOPHEL'S refusal to forgive DAVID. AHITHOPHEL'S GRIEF. Bathsheba was Ahithophel's granddaughter. (2 Samuel 11:3) What an awful grief to him for his friend, David, to take his granddaughter.

111 UNFORGIVING Case AHITHOPHEL'S refusal to forgive DAVID. AHlTHOPHEL'S GUILT. David forgiven by God, 2 Sam 12:13 And David said unto Nathan,I have sinned against the LORD. And Nathan said unto David, The LORD also hath put away thy sin; thou shalt not die. (KJV) However, Ahithophel would not forgive David.

112 UNFORGIVING Case AHITHOPHEL'S refusal to forgive DAVID. AHlTHOPHEL'S GUILT. Ahithophel... Joined a conspiracy against David, 2 Sam. 15:12. Gave wicked counsel, 2 Sam. 16: Wanted to kill David, 2 Sam. 17:1, 2.

113 UNFORGIVING Case AHITHOPHEL'S refusal to forgive DAVID. AHITHOPHEL'S GRAVE. 2 Sam 17:23 And when Ahithophel saw that his counsel was not followed, he saddled his ass, and arose, and gat him home to his house, to his city, and put his household in order, and hanged himself, and died, and was buried in the sepulchre of his father. (KJV)

114 UNFORGIVING "Here lies Ahithophel --­the man who would not forgive!"

115 UNFORGIVING The cause of God is always greater than the men who represent it, and no one is ever justified in leaving his place of service because of another person's failure.

116 UNFORGIVING Cause Why do some people refuse to forgive others of their sins and failures? The Superiority of unforgiveness. When a person refuses to forgive another person, that person is placing himself above God and Jesus Christ who says, "I forgive." This is a not so subtle form of pride and rebellion against God. It is a way of feeling, "I don't deserve this kind of treatment."

117 UNFORGIVING Cause Why do some people refuse to forgive others of their sins and failures? The Stupidity of unforqiveness. "He who cannot forgive others burns the bridge over which he himself must pass" (George Herbert).

118 UNFORGIVING Cause Why do some people refuse to forgive others of their sins and failures? The Spirit of unforqiveness. Forgiveness is not... a feeling.... pretending you were not hurt....saying what the other person did was not wrong.

119 UNFORGIVING Cause Why do some people refuse to forgive others of their sins and failures? The Spirit of unforqiveness. *Forgiveness is a decision I make to obey God and to live my daily life not allowing Someone else's actions or attitudes to determine by actions or attitudes.

120 UNFORGIVING Cause Why do some people refuse to forgive others of their sins and failures? The Spirit of unforqiveness. 2 Cor 2:1-11 But I determined this with myself, that I would not come again to you in heaviness. For if I make you sorry, who is he then that maketh me glad, but the same which is made sorry by me? And I wrote this same unto you, lest, when I came, I should have sorrow from them of whom I ought to rejoice; having confidence in you all, that my joy is the joy of you all. For out of much affliction and anguish of heart I wrote unto you with many tears; not that ye should be grieved, but that ye might know the love which I have more abundantly unto you. But if any have caused grief, he hath not grieved me, but in part: that I may not overcharge you all. Sufficient to such a man is this punishment, which was inflicted of many. So that contrariwise ye ought rather to forgive him, and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow. Wherefore I beseech you that ye would confirm your love toward him. For to this end also did I write, that I might know the proof of you, whether ye be obedient in all things. To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ; Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices. (KJV)

121 UNFORGIVING Cause Why do some people refuse to forgive others of their sins and failures? The Selfishness of unforgiveness. A spirit of unforgiveness is determined to have it's way, instead of yielding to God's way.

122 UNFORGIVING Consequences Dale Carnegie tells of the grizzly bears in Yellowstone Park who, allowed the skunks to eat with them. He said it was because the bears knew "the high cost of getting even."

123 UNFORGIVING Consequences What are the consequences of a person who will not easily and quickly forgive? Socially, he will have no friends. Emotionally, he will have no joy. Mentally, he will have no peace. Morally, he will have no integrity. Domestically, he will have no intimacy. Congregationally, he will have no fellowship. Physically, he will have no health Spiritually, he will have no life.

124 UNFORGIVING Consequences What are the consequences of a person who will not easily and quickly forgive? When a person will not forgive He shuts himself off from God, Matt 6:14-15 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. (KJV)

125 UNFORGIVING Consequences What are the consequences of a person who will not easily and quickly forgive? When a person will not forgive... He opens himself up to the devil, 2 Cor 2:10-11 To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ; Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices. (KJV)

126 UNFORGIVING Cure Exodus 15:23-25 And when they came to Marah, they could not drink of the waters of Marah, for they were bitter: therefore the name of it was called Marah. And the people murmured against Moses, saying, What shall we drink? And he cried unto the LORD; and the LORD shewed him a tree, which when he had cast into the waters, the waters were made sweet: there he made for them a statute and an ordinance, and there he proved them, (KJV)

127 UNFORGIVING Cure The cure for an unforgiving disposition is not found in... The process of counselling. We all may need some from time to time and that's O. K. The passing of the clock. Time does not heal all wounds. The cure is found in the... Cross, v.25. The "tree" is one of the first pictures of the cross of Christ.

128 UNFORGIVING Cure RX for an Unforgiving Disposition. 1. Compare your hurt with Jesus', Luke 23: Confess your unforgiveness as sin, Ps.66: Claim the benefits of the cross. 4. Clear the record, with a "second event" of forgiveness that is as memorable as the event of offense. This is Bible "forgetting," Gen. 41: Commit to do everything God requires to make reconciliation. 6. Conquer any reoccurrence of this disposition by staying in the Word of God, Ps. 119:165.

129 Forgiving vs Consequences Hebrews 10:26-29 KJV For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries. He that despised Moses' law died without mercy under two or three witnesses: Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace? There was no sacrifice provided in the Old Testament for willful or presumptuous sins. Certain things could not go away by merely asking for forgiveness or confessing the sin. For instance,

130 Forgiving vs Consequences When Achan took the accursed thing, Joshua admonished him to give glory to God and he did confess. Still he and his family were stoned. When the man was caught gathering sticks, they did not develop a plan of restoration. They stoned him. God said that if a man took a woman in the field and she could not cry for help, he was to be stoned, no questions asked, no opportunity for restoration

131 Forgiving vs Consequences 1 Corinthians 10:6-11 KJV Now these things were our examples, to the intent we should not lust after evil things, as they also lusted. Neither be ye idolaters, as were some of them; as it is written, The people sat down to eat and drink, and rose up to play. Neither let us commit fornication, as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand. Neither let us tempt Christ, as some of them also tempted, and were destroyed of serpents. Neither murmur ye, as some of them also murmured, and were destroyed of the destroyer. Now all these things happened unto them for ensamples: and they are written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the world are come. There is a principle from the Old Testament that applies even in our day of grace. Hebrews 10:26 gives us proof that the Old Testament principle concerning the willful sin still is in effect today. The specific issue is in regards to church attendance, but the context makes it clear that willful sin is not just church attendance.

132 Forgiving vs Consequences 1 John 5:16 KJV If any man see his brother sin a sin which is not unto death, he shall ask, and he shall give him life for them that sin not unto death. There is a sin unto death: I do not say that he shall pray for it. Barnes Notes says of the above verse, "There is a sin unto death - A sin which is of such a character that it throws the offender beyond the reach of mercy, and which is not to be pardoned. See Mar_3: The apostle does not here say what that sin is; nor how they might know what it is; nor even that in any case they could determine that it had been committed. He merely says that there is such a sin, and that he does not design that his remark about the efficacy of prayer should be understood as extending to that." There is such a thing as a sin that is inexcusable, note that I did not say unforgiveable. For instance, if a man commits a terrible murder, do we not, as Christians, advocate the death penalty over restoration? Even if the offender is a Christian brother, even if he confesses and apologizes, even if he is honestly repentant, there are certain sins for which no restoration is possible. Two years ago I preached a revival meeting at the United States Disciplinary Barracks in Ft Leavenworth. I was allowed to go in to death row and witness to the men there. One of those men, I will not give his name here, is sentenced to death from throwing a grenade into his own tent and killing the soldiers he bunked with. All in the name of Allah. He has since converted to Jesus Christ and has a sincere testimony. Do we release him now because he is a believer? No. His sin is of such a character that it throws the offender beyond the reach of such mercy.

133 Forgiving vs Consequences Matthew 18:7-9 KJV Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh! Wherefore if thy hand or thy foot offend thee, cut them off, and cast them from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life halt or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet to be cast into everlasting fire. And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire. Once again, the New Testament teaches an extreme judgment for offending, especially little ones (children - minors).

134 Forgiving vs Consequences Specifically regarding forgiveness, we must make a difference between forgiving sin and dismissing the consequences of it. If a man is divorced and remarried is he not permanently disqualified from the pastorate? It is not that we hold ill will against him. It is not that we can find no place of service in the church for him, on the contrary some of the most blessed Christians I have ever known are divorced and remarried. They are dear friends and we hold no mean spirit toward them. But we still insist they may not pastor. King David confessed his sin with Bathsheba, but he still suffered the consequences of the act through the death of the baby conceived in that sin and the dysfunction of his children later on. When he sinned in numbering the men of Israel, he confessed the sin, but he must still be judged - and the judgment was harsh.

135 Counseling Model Rom 11:13 For I speak to you Gentiles, inasmuch as I am the apostle of the Gentiles, I magnify mine office: (KJV) These skills will help those who are having troubles with marriage, their children, on the job. If I were you, I would take these seven things, write them down clearly study them out in light of Scripture, and develop most of my counseling sessions around them.

136 Counseling Model Acknowledge Your Place (I want to change) You are “Response - Able” Too often we want to blame the situations on others. The problem with that is that you can never solve the situation if you believe it someone else's fault. If we will come to the place where we acknowledge that we have the ability to change these situations ourselves, we take a positive action stance and make a difference

137 Counseling Model Acknowledge Your Place We need to take the attitude that we are ABLE to respond To change your situation To forgive those of your past To make a difference in the World You Can Change Your Situation By determining what You’d like to be By developing a plan to make it By deciding to do it

138 Counseling Model Affix a Result When I die, I want to people to say... When I die, I want to have done....

139 Counseling Model Affix a Result Dream for the future What would you like to accomplish in your church? I used this when people came to me with problems. –I would ask, What do want counseling to do? –I would ask, What would you want your marriage to be like? –I would ask, If you could get your kids to behave a certain way, how would you want them to behave?

140 Counseling Model Acquire a Plan Priority Plan Matrix: UrgentNot Urgent ImportantPressing ProblemsPrevention, Crises Relationships Dead-linesResearch Opportunities Planning, recreation Not -Interruptions, Trivia, ImportantPopular activitiesBusy Work Some calls, mail, Pleasant and meetingsactivities

141 Counseling Model Acquire a Plan We do best to spend the majority of our time with things that are important and not urgent. The reason? Because urgent things demand you do them NOW! They drive you. Good leadership requires we learn to drive, not be driven.

142 Counseling Model Acquire a Plan Spend almost no time in the not important areas - even if they are urgent. DELEGATE THEM. Spend as little time as possible in the urgent/important areas

143 Counseling Model Acquire a Plan Many folks become trapped by the important/urgent; being driven by them to the point that, when they get a chance, they escape to the not urgent, not important (wasting time staring into space, watching TV, playing video games) waiting for the next crisis to catch them, so they can deal with it.

144 Counseling Model Attempt to Serve Others (I will strive to prefer others better than myself) Six ways to relate with people: 1. I am happy, you are not 2. You are happy, I am not 3. If I am not happy, you won’t be either 4. You do what you want; I’ll do what I want 5. Everybody is happy 6. I can’t be happy if you are not happy

145 Counseling Model Apply a Listening Ear (Work at good communication skills) Four types of Communication 1. Reading 2. Writing 3. Listening 4. Speaking Learning to use them well is the most important skill in life.

146 Counseling Model Apply a Listening Ear Two rules: 1. It is more important to Read, than to write (Reading is where you learn, writing is where you try to "learn" others.) 2. It is more important to listen than to speak. Reflective listening pg 173 (Listening is where you learn, speaking is where you attempt to “learn” others.)

147 Counseling Model Agree to Work together (I want to work together with the members of the church as one body) One purpose (Great Commission) One heart (The Love of God) One Mind (The Word of God) One Experience (a Common Salvation and baptism)

148 Counseling Model Admit You Need To Grow 1. Physically Take time to exercise, get physical activity. 2. Intellectually Read and study things that interest you. Learn a new skill. 3. Socially Make friends. While your best friends ought to be Christians, some of the most stimulating people you can be around are professional people. (Like our chief of police) 4. Spiritually Church is not something you do because you make a living at it. You do it TO WORSHIP THE LORD. Never allow yourself to get too busy to have devotions and spend quiet time with God!

149 Negative CASE THE REPORT OF THE TEN SPIES, Num 13:27-33 And they told him, and said, We came unto the land whither thou sentest us, and surely it floweth with milk and honey; and this is the fruit of it. Nevertheless the people be strong that dwell in the land, and the cities are walled, and very great: and moreover we saw the children of Anak there. The Amalekites dwell in the land of the south: and the Hittites, and the Jebusites, and the Amorites, dwell in the mountains: and the Canaanites dwell by the sea, and by the coast of Jordan. …… But the men that went up with him said, We be not able to go up against the people; for they are stronger than we. And they brought up an evil report of the land which they had searched unto the children of Israel, saying, The land, through which we have gone to search it, is a land that eateth up the inhabitants thereof; and all the people that we saw in it are men of a great stature. And there we saw the giants, the sons of Anak, which come of the giants: and we were in our own sight as grasshoppers, and so we were in their sight. (KJV)

150 Negative CASE THE REPORT OF THE TEN SPIES, No doubt about it, the land was a great land. However there were 1. GREAT WALLS, They had never seen walls around cities. They had been built for protection and to the spies they seemed impenetrable. 2. GIANTS, 13:32.

151 Negative CASE THE REPORT OF THE TEN SPIES, Caleb and Joshua viewed them as 'bread," Num 14:9 Only rebel not ye against the LORD, neither fear ye the people of the land; for they are bread for us: their defence is departed from them, and the LORD is with us: fear them not. (KJV)

152 Negative CASE THE REPORT OF THE TEN SPIES, How did the Canaanites view Israel? Joshua 2:9-11 And she said unto the men, I know that the LORD hath given you the land, and that your terror is fallen upon us, and that all the inhabitants of the land faint because of you. For we have heard how the LORD dried up the water of the Red sea for you, when ye came out of Egypt; and what ye did unto the two kings of the Amorites, that were on the other side Jordan, Sihon and Og, whom ye utterly destroyed. And as soon as we had heard these things, our hearts did melt, neither did there remain any more courage in any man, because of you: for the LORD your God, he is God in heaven above, and in earth beneath. (KJV)

153 Negative CAUSE UNBELIEF, Hebrews 3:19. So we see that they could not enter in because of unbelief. (KJV)

154 Negative CAUSE Unbelief Impeached God's Word. The people were ready to receive the report of unbelieving men, and to disbelieve God.

155 Negative CAUSE Unbelief Impugned God's Power, Num 14:3 And wherefore hath the LORD brought us unto this land, to fall by the sword, that our wives and our children should be a prey? were it not better for us to return into Egypt? (KJV)

156 Negative CAUSE Unbelief Invalidated God's Will Numbers 14:2. "Would God we had died in the wilderness..."

157 Negative CAUSE Notice this negativity: Started with a Few (only the Ten Spies). Spread to All (except two, Caleb and Joshua). Hebrews 12:15 "Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled."

158 Negative CONSEQUENCES First there were the 40 years of wilderness life Barren - no possessions. Boring - no progress or pleasure. Burden - no peace. Finally there was DEATH. Everyone of them died over the next 40 years, except Caleb and Joshua

159 GUILTY CASES PETER, Matthew 26: How he spoke, v When he slept, v Where he sat, v. 69. Peter was sure of himself. Peter was scared by a girl. Peter was saved by the Lord. Peter was hit with a load of guilt and repented of his failure. At death, he went to heaven.

160 GUILTY CAUSES CONSCIOUS-LEVEL GUILT produced by the human conscience. What is the conscience? Is it a fallible human mechanism? Is it an infallible endowment?

161 GUILTY CAUSES CONSCIOUS-LEVEL GUILT produced by the human conscience. What is the conscience? From Scripture it seems to be a special activity of the intellect and emotions which enables man to judge between good and evil, to perceive moral distinction. Even the heathen have a conscience, Romans 2:15. The conscience is more a thermometer than a thermostat

162 GUILTY CAUSES CONVICTION-LEVEL GUILT is produced by God the Holy Spirit, John 16:7-11. The Holy Spirit convicts of sin, righteousness and judgment.

163 GUILTY CAUSES CONDEMNATION-LEVEL GUILT is produced by Satan, the unholy spirit, 2 Corinthians 11:14; 1 Peter 5:8. Satan is a false representative of God. And guilt is one of his most powerful weapons, Revelation 12:10.

164 GUILTY CAUSES How can we discern the difference between... CONVICTION:CONDEMNATION: EncouragesDiscourages HelpsHinders Builds upTears down DeliversDespairs Clarifies Confuses GraceGuilt

165 GUILTY CONSEQUENCES Consider the arrows as unforgiven sins in your life that are adding to your load of guilt. Each matter that is dealt with lightens the load, makes you stand taller and enables you to handle other problems more readily.

166 GUILTY CONSEQUENCES POSITIVE. "Feelings of personal disapproval can provide powerful motivation for responsible behavior. A husband may go to work when he would rather go fishing, simply because he knows his wife and children need the money and he would feel guilty if he ignores his family obligation" (Dr. James Dobson).

167 GUILTY CONSEQUENCES NEGATIVE. By and large, guilt feelings tend to influence us adversely. Denied guilt produces serious negative consequences. Disease. Between 50% to 75% of all patients suffer from physical illness that are emotionally caused. Depression. "Feelings flow from actions." If your actions are sinful, your feelings will be sinful. Disorders (neurosis). Probably much of the nervous disorders of our day find their source in unresolved guilt. Despair. Suicide has become a national epidemic. Such despair grows in the soil of guilt.

168 GUILTY CURE There are two approaches when it comes to guilt: the worldly-humanistic approach and the heavenly-Godly approach.

169 GUILTY CURE The WORLDLY answer is simple. "Change your view of what is right and wrong. Lower your standards and learn to do as you please without feeling guilty." But the world's approach has not worked and never will! Changing the label on a bottle of poison does not make it less deadly!

170 GUILTY CURE The HEAVENLY remedy for guilt. God's answer for guilt is Repent, 2 Corinthians 7: Renounce, James 5:16; 1 John 1:9. 3. Receive God's forgiveness, Psalm 103:12; Isaiah 38: 17; 43:25; Jeremiah 31:34; Micah 7: Restore, Luke 19: Reform, John 5:14; 8:11; 2 Corinthians 5:17.

171 GUILTY CURE The HEAVENLY remedy for guilt. God's answer for guilt is Repent, 2 Corinthians 7: Renounce, James 5:16; 1 John 1:9. 3. Receive God's forgiveness, Psalm 103:12; Isaiah 38: 17; 43:25; Jeremiah 31:34; Micah 7: Restore, Luke 19: Reform, John 5:14; 8:11; 2 Corinthians 5:17.


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