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1Sexual Purity as God Intended Presented byStephen LangaExecutive DirectorFamily Life Network:
2Situational Analysis We live in a sex saturated world Sexual immorality is on the increase in UgandaThe mass media is full of scandalous reports of cases of adulteryDon’t need to be rocket scientist to know that as a nation we have serious problems with out sexualityWhen we were growing up the saying used to be “Love without kisses is like tea without sugar” today it is “Love without sex is like tea without sugar”
3DefinitionsSexuality: The quality of possessing a sexual character or potencyPotency: - The quality or state of being potent- Inherent capacity for growth and development
4Definitions Cont’d Sex Education: Sex Education is the education designed to develop understanding of the biological, socio-cultural, economic, psychological, ethical, political and spiritual aspects of human sexual behavior.
5Definitions Cont’d Morality: - Virtuous conduct, especially in compliance with approved codes of sexual behavior(Virtuous: possessing or characterized by chastity)- A set of customs of a given society, class or social group which regulate relationships and prescribe modes of behaviour to enhance the groups survival
6Study on Major Civilizations Dr. D.J. Unwin, British Anthropologist, 1934 Book “Sex & Culture”Spiritual CorruptionMoral CorruptionPitirim Sorokin, Russian Born Sociologist, 1950s
7Study on Major Civilizations Cont’d Dr. D.J. Unwin, British Anthropologist, 1934 Book “Sex & Culture”, studied 86 cultures spanning 5,000 years of recorded human history"In human records, there is no instance of a society retaining its energy after a complete new generation has inherited a tradition which does not insist on pre-nuptial and post-nuptial continence."
8Study on Major Civilizations Cont’d Pitirim Sorokin, Russian Born Sociologist, late 60s “The American Sex Revolution”America was committing “voluntary suicide” through unrestrained sexual indulgencePredicted population decline, increase in divorce, family desertion and epidemic of sexual promiscuity resulting in a rise of illegitimate childrenConvinced by studies he carried out, that society can only survive if strong families exist and sexual activities are restricted to within marriage.
9Quotation“The foundation of any “human” civilization is a moral and healthy sexual constitution, everything else is window-dressing”The Jerusalem Post, May 21, 1996
10Is it possible to Honor God Is sexual purity possible?Can a man/woman be faithful?
11Understanding Sexuality Begins with understanding who we are! (Man)i. Made in the image of Godii. Made male and femaleMan has BODY/SOUL/SPIRIT- BODY = flesh, blood & bones- SOUL = mind, will & emotions- SPIRIT = worship, intuition, conscience
12Understanding Sexuality Cont’d God made sex, relationships & marriage- Attractions between male & female)- Adolescence (Physical & Psychological changes)v. Sex is pure, clean, holy, spiritual, sacred- A great gift from God to mankind- Sex should be viewed from a positive viewpoint (Some cultures portray sex from a negative view point)
13Understanding Sexuality Cont’d Purpose of sex(Reproduction/Pleasure/Bind)[Proverbs 5:17-19]Nature of sex(Sex takes place in all the three components of a human being)BODY <=> BODYSOUL <=> SOULSPIRIT <=> SPIRIT
14Understanding Sexuality Cont’d viii. Sex was designed to be experienced in MARRIAGE- In context of a secure, committed and intimate relationship of marriageSex is SAFE only within the context of MARRIAGE where faithfulness is practiced by both husband & wife- It is like a river which is only safe when water is within the boundary
15Prohibited Sexual Practices Adultery: Exodus 20:14,Fornication: Exodus 20:14,Prostitution: Deut. 23:17Homosexuality/Lesbianism: Lev. 18:22Sex with close relative (by Blood & Marriage) Lev. 18 & 20Bestiality: Lev 18:23Deviant or un-natural sexual practices: Rom. 1:26-28
16Consequences of Sex out of Marriage SpiritualPsychological/MindHealth/MedicalSocialEconomic
17Spiritual Consequences Breaks God’s commandmentEx. 20:14 – Adultery1Cor 6:9-10God’s judgment1Cor. 6:9-10, Heb. 13:4Curse from GodDuet 28:15 – 68d. Risk demon possession (STDs)Malachi 2:15c. Spirits/souls are connectedLaw of sexual union: Gen. 2:24
18Psychological Consequences a. Guiltb. Low self esteemc. Regretd. Haunt you – can’t forgetMay lead to sexual complications: -impotence/frigidityloss of desire for sexdeviant sexual desires
19Medical/Health Consequences Mingling of blood streamsLev 17:11 “…life of the flesh is in the blood”STDs – Cancer of the cervics, gonorrhea, syphilis, AIDS etc– 5 STDs; 1990 – 37 STDs; – 58 STDs;- Some STDs are incurable and can be contracted even if a condom is used.
21Medical/Health Consequences PregnancyYoung girls – can’t deliver normallyAbortion/murderUnable to have children (Barren – 80% barrenness in Uganda is caused by sexually transmitted diseases)
22Social Consequences Nobody wants second hand – Lose market Damage ReputationDamage relationships with loved onesIf diseased, no one will want to associate with youBetrayed parentsBetrayed future spouseBetrayed future childrenBetrayed your country/religion
23Social Consequences Cont’d Ruin future/studies/potentialBoys will spread the “news”Man will not respect; woman will not trustCan lead to sexual addiction & perversions such as:Homosexuality/LesbianismMasturbationAddictions to pornographySocial evils such as prostitution and other related vices will escalateCrime rate and social disorder is likely to ensure
24Economic Consequences High medical billsSpend on sex related expensesLower standard of living
25Is it possible to Honor God Is sexual purity possible?Can a man/woman be faithful?
26What Does God Say?God has already provided EVERTHING we need to live pure and victorious lives – II Peter 1:3We are KEPT by the POWER of God through faith – I Peter 1:5God is faithful and will NOT let you be TEMPTED beyond your strength – I Cor 10:13God will provide a way of ESCAPE so that you can stand I Cor 10:13Anyone who falls into sexual sin has chosen to do soGod is able to keep you from falling – Jude 24
27So, YES it is possible to be sexually pure and to honor God in our sexuality, if we follow His plans & strategies
28Why is Sexual Purity Elusive? i. LIES FROM SATANIt is impossible to be sexually pureIt is not easy but it is possibleIs it easy to pass exams, get a job, get married?Everybody is doing itIf you don’t have sex early, you will become impotent or will not have children later“Practice makes perfect”, so you must practice sex so that you know what to do when you get marriedSex is everything in life, so get it by hook or crookYou can get away with and nobody will find outIt is unreasonable to expect youth to abstainA man cannot be satisfied by one woman, he must have more than one.If you have already committed sexual sin then there is no hope for you
29Why is Sexual Purity Elusive? IGNORANCE OF SATAN’S DEVICESII Cor. 2:11 “Lest Satan should get an advantage over us for we are not ignorant of his devices”Christians should not be naïve, but need to be aware of Satan’s tricksiii. GIVING CHANCE TO THE FLESH“Make no provision for the flesh” – Romans 13:14The flesh is constantly at war with the SpiritIf you allow the flesh to rule your life, you will end up in sexual sin
30Why is Sexual Purity Elusive? IGNORANCE OF GODPaul warns Christians who are ignorant of God – I Cor 15:34“Come back to your senses as you ought, STOP SINNING, for there are some of you who are ignorant of God”Ignorance of God will lead to sexual sinLACK OF THE FEAR OF GODMoses tells the Israelites that God was showing His miraculous power for the intent that “…the fear of God will be with you to keep you from SINNING” Exodus 20:20If your heart is callous and insensitive to God you need to repent of a heart that is not “soft” towards the things of GodYou need to ask God to deal with you and your hard heartCheck your heart for a rebellious spirit – The Spirit of the Lord will not always strive with man – Genesis 6
31Why is Sexual Purity Elusive? LACK OF GOD’S WORD IN US“How can a Youngman keep his way pure? By living according to your word” Psalm 119:9“I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you” Psalm 119:11IGNORING OUR CONSCIENCEJohn says “…if our heart condemn us not, then we have confidence…” I John 3:21Paul used a clear conscience as part of his defense – Acts 23:1As a Christian, the Holy Spirit sometimes uses our conscious to keep us from sin and trouble. Ignoring your conscience can be very dangerous.
32Tips of Staying Sexually Pure Know that you can fallNo one is too strong to fall, King David fell, Abraham fellPaul warns us in Galatians 6:1 “ …if a man is overtaken in a fault… restore such in a spirit of meekness…lest you also be tempted”Even Paul was careful I Cor 9:27 “…lest after proclaiming to others I myself might be rejected (disqualified)”Paul again says “So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall” I Cor 10:12Keep your thoughts pure - Phil 4:8The real battle is worn or lost in the mindDon’t allow yourself to think immoral thoughts, they are sin before God (Matt 5:28)You can not avoid temptation but you can avoid falling into sin. Luke 17:1
33Tips of Staying Sexually Pure iii. Prayerfully set your own limits and standards in accordance with ScriptureDaniel “predetermined /(laid on his heart) that he would not defile himself” – Daniel 1:8How you will behave with the opposite sex, how you socialize, should you hug, what kind of hugs, can you be in the same room with doors locked, can you sleep in the same room and you are not married, who do you give lifts etc.Avoid people and places you know will lead you into sexual involvementDon’t avail yourself for debates on limits you have set for yourself, Satan WILL out reason you.
34Tips of Staying Sexually Pure iv. Guard your eyesPs 101:3“ I will set no wicked thing before my eyes”David knew from experience the danger of unguarded eyes.How much blue movies, pornography, sex filled novels etc do you consume?They eventually will affect your values, attitudes and ultimately behaviour. They are not innocent.If you cannot handle the small temptations, you will fail when the big one comes, but if you can handle the small ones, you WILL overcome the big ones as well
35Tips of Staying Sexually Pure v. Be accountableEcclesiastes 4:10b “… But pity the man who fails and has no one to help him up”Have a person or people who hold you accountable and can ask you the hard questions about your sexual life
36Restoration After Moral Failure i. Acknowledge your sinKnow that you have sinned against God (Psalm 51:4)God has seen all you have doneProverbs 5:21 “For a man’s ways are in full view of the Lord and He examines them”ii. Confess your sin to GodGod has promised to forgive (I John 1:9)God has no problem forgiving the sin, but you may have to live with the consequences of your sin
37Restoration After Moral Failure iii. Acknowledge Gods forgivenessPsalm 32:5 “Then I acknowledged my sin before you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, ““I will confess my transgressions to the Lord and you forgave the GUILT of my sin””Jesus’ blood paid for our sins once and for all. (Heb.10:10-18)iv. Forgive yourselfIf God has forgiven you and you don’t forgive yourself, then you are essentially rejecting what God has already done for you
38Restoration After Moral Failure v. Bring forth Fruit of RepentanceMatthew 3:8 “Produce fruit in keeping with repentance”Take action that reflects your repentanceBreakup an immoral relationship; don’t have to consult them. Inform them after your decision.Cut off links with things that led you to sexual activity; parties/places/people/books/pornography etcFind someone to be accountable to; Ecclesiastes 4:10b “… But pity the man who fails and has no one to help him up”
39Restoration After Moral Failure Handle the memories positivelyDetermine not to live in the past. Philippians 3:13-14 “…forgetting what is behind …I press on …”(You cannot change history, but you can change the present and the future)Acknowledge it, don’t deny or suppress itTurn the thought in a positive direction and thank God that you are forgiven. It will make you stronger next time you face temptation.If necessary, see a counselor
40Challenge to Abstinence & Faithfulness The True Love Waits Card reads: -Believing that True Love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my country, my friends, my future mate and my future children to be sexually pure until the day I give myself only to my marriage partner in a covenant marriage relationshipName____________________________Signature_________________________Date_____________________________