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Sexual Purity as God Intended Presented by Stephen Langa Executive Director Family Life Network :
Situational Analysis We live in a sex saturated world Sexual immorality is on the increase in Uganda The mass media is full of scandalous reports of cases of adultery Dont need to be rocket scientist to know that as a nation we have serious problems with out sexuality When we were growing up the saying used to be Love without kisses is like tea without sugar today it is Love without sex is like tea without sugar
Definitions Sexuality: The quality of possessing a sexual character or potency Potency:-The quality or state of being potent -Inherent capacity for growth and development
Definitions Contd Sex Education: Sex Education is the education designed to develop understanding of the biological, socio-cultural, economic, psychological, ethical, political and spiritual aspects of human sexual behavior.
Definitions Contd Morality: -Virtuous conduct, especially in compliance with approved codes of sexual behavior (Virtuous: possessing or characterized by chastity) -A set of customs of a given society, class or social group which regulate relationships and prescribe modes of behaviour to enhance the groups survival
Study on Major Civilizations Spiritual Corruption Moral Corruption Pitirim Sorokin, Russian Born Sociologist, 1950s Dr. D.J. Unwin, British Anthropologist, 1934 Book Sex & Culture
Study on Major Civilizations Contd Dr. D.J. Unwin, British Anthropologist, 1934 Book Sex & Culture, studied 86 cultures spanning 5,000 years of recorded human history "In human records, there is no instance of a society retaining its energy after a complete new generation has inherited a tradition which does not insist on pre-nuptial and post-nuptial continence."
Study on Major Civilizations Contd Pitirim Sorokin, Russian Born Sociologist, late 60s The American Sex Revolution America was committing voluntary suicide through unrestrained sexual indulgence Predicted population decline, increase in divorce, family desertion and epidemic of sexual promiscuity resulting in a rise of illegitimate children Convinced by studies he carried out, that society can only survive if strong families exist and sexual activities are restricted to within marriage.
Quotation The foundation of any human civilization is a moral and healthy sexual constitution, everything else is window-dressing The Jerusalem Post, May 21, 1996
Is it possible to Honor God Is sexual purity possible? Can a man/woman be faithful?
Understanding Sexuality Begins with understanding who we are! (Man) i.Made in the image of God ii.Made male and female iii.Man has BODY/SOUL/SPIRIT -BODY = flesh, blood & bones -SOUL = mind, will & emotions - SPIRIT = worship, intuition, conscience
Understanding Sexuality Contd iv.God made sex, relationships & marriage - Attractions between male & female) - Adolescence (Physical & Psychological changes) v.Sex is pure, clean, holy, spiritual, sacred - A great gift from God to mankind - Sex should be viewed from a positive viewpoint (Some cultures portray sex from a negative view point)
Understanding Sexuality Contd vi.Purpose of sex (Reproduction/Pleasure/Bind) [Proverbs 5:17-19] vii.Nature of sex (Sex takes place in all the three components of a human being) BODY BODY SOUL SPIRIT
Understanding Sexuality Contd viii.Sex was designed to be experienced in MARRIAGE -In context of a secure, committed and intimate relationship of marriage ix.Sex is SAFE only within the context of MARRIAGE where faithfulness is practiced by both husband & wife -It is like a river which is only safe when water is within the boundary
Prohibited Sexual Practices Adultery: Exodus 20:14, Fornication: Exodus 20:14, Prostitution: Deut. 23:17 Homosexuality/Lesbianism: Lev. 18:22 Sex with close relative (by Blood & Marriage) Lev. 18 & 20 Bestiality: Lev 18:23 Deviant or un-natural sexual practices: Rom. 1:26-28
Consequences of Sex out of Marriage i.Spiritual ii.Psychological/Mind iii.Health/Medical iv.Social v.Economic
Spiritual Consequences a.Breaks Gods commandment Ex. 20:14 – Adultery1Cor 6:9-10 b.Gods judgment 1Cor. 6:9-10, Heb. 13:4 c.Curse from God Duet 28:15 – 68 d.Risk demon possession (STDs) Malachi 2:15 c.Spirits/souls are connected Law of sexual union: Gen. 2:24
Psychological Consequences a. Guilt b.Low self esteem c.Regret d.Haunt you – cant forget e.May lead to sexual complications: - –impotence/frigidity –loss of desire for sex –deviant sexual desires
Medical/Health Consequences a.Mingling of blood streams Lev 17:11 …life of the flesh is in the blood a.STDs – Cancer of the cervics, gonorrhea, syphilis, AIDS etc – 5 STDs;1990 – 37 STDs; 1999 – 58 STDs; -Some STDs are incurable and can be contracted even if a condom is used.
Medical/Health Consequences c.Pregnancy Young girls – cant deliver normally c.Abortion/murder d.Unable to have children (Barren – 80% barrenness in Uganda is caused by sexually transmitted diseases)
Social Consequences a.Nobody wants second hand – Lose market b.Damage Reputation c.Damage relationships with loved ones d.If diseased, no one will want to associate with you e.Betrayed parents f.Betrayed future spouse g.Betrayed future children h.Betrayed your country/religion
Social Consequences Contd i.Ruin future/studies/potential j.Boys will spread the news k.Man will not respect; woman will not trust l.Can lead to sexual addiction & perversions such as: Homosexuality/Lesbianism Masturbation Addictions to pornography m.Social evils such as prostitution and other related vices will escalate n.Crime rate and social disorder is likely to ensure
Economic Consequences a.High medical bills b.Spend on sex related expenses c.Lower standard of living
Is it possible to Honor God Is sexual purity possible? Can a man/woman be faithful?
What Does God Say? i.God has already provided EVERTHING we need to live pure and victorious lives – II Peter 1:3 ii.We are KEPT by the POWER of God through faith – I Peter 1:5 iii.God is faithful and will NOT let you be TEMPTED beyond your strength – I Cor 10:13 v.God will provide a way of ESCAPE so that you can stand I Cor 10:13 –Anyone who falls into sexual sin has chosen to do so vi.God is able to keep you from falling – Jude 24
So, YES it is possible to be sexually pure and to honor God in our sexuality, if we follow His plans & strategies
Why is Sexual Purity Elusive? i.LIES FROM SATAN –It is impossible to be sexually pure –It is not easy but it is possible –Is it easy to pass exams, get a job, get married? –Everybody is doing it –If you dont have sex early, you will become impotent or will not have children later –Practice makes perfect, so you must practice sex so that you know what to do when you get married –Sex is everything in life, so get it by hook or crook –You can get away with and nobody will find out –It is unreasonable to expect youth to abstain –A man cannot be satisfied by one woman, he must have more than one. –If you have already committed sexual sin then there is no hope for you
Why is Sexual Purity Elusive? ii.IGNORANCE OF SATANS DEVICES II Cor. 2:11 Lest Satan should get an advantage over us for we are not ignorant of his devices –Christians should not be naïve, but need to be aware of Satans tricks iii.GIVING CHANCE TO THE FLESH Make no provision for the flesh – Romans 13:14 –The flesh is constantly at war with the Spirit –If you allow the flesh to rule your life, you will end up in sexual sin
Why is Sexual Purity Elusive? IGNORANCE OF GOD Paul warns Christians who are ignorant of God – I Cor 15:34 –Come back to your senses as you ought, STOP SINNING, for there are some of you who are ignorant of God –Ignorance of God will lead to sexual sin LACK OF THE FEAR OF GOD Moses tells the Israelites that God was showing His miraculous power for the intent that …the fear of God will be with you to keep you from SINNING Exodus 20:20 –If your heart is callous and insensitive to God you need to repent of a heart that is not soft towards the things of God –You need to ask God to deal with you and your hard heart –Check your heart for a rebellious spirit – The Spirit of the Lord will not always strive with man – Genesis 6
Why is Sexual Purity Elusive? LACK OF GODS WORD IN US –How can a Youngman keep his way pure? By living according to your word Psalm 119:9 –I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you Psalm 119:11 IGNORING OUR CONSCIENCE –John says …if our heart condemn us not, then we have confidence… I John 3:21 – Paul used a clear conscience as part of his defense – Acts 23:1 –As a Christian, the Holy Spirit sometimes uses our conscious to keep us from sin and trouble. Ignoring your conscience can be very dangerous.
Tips of Staying Sexually Pure i.Know that you can fall –No one is too strong to fall, King David fell, Abraham fell –Paul warns us in Galatians 6:1 …if a man is overtaken in a fault… restore such in a spirit of meekness…lest you also be tempted –Even Paul was careful I Cor 9:27 …lest after proclaiming to others I myself might be rejected (disqualified) –Paul again says So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you dont fall I Cor 10:12 ii.Keep your thoughts pure - Phil 4:8 –The real battle is worn or lost in the mind –Dont allow yourself to think immoral thoughts, they are sin before God (Matt 5:28) –You can not avoid temptation but you can avoid falling into sin. Luke 17:1
Tips of Staying Sexually Pure iii.Prayerfully set your own limits and standards in accordance with Scripture –Daniel predetermined /(laid on his heart) that he would not defile himself – Daniel 1:8 –How you will behave with the opposite sex, how you socialize, should you hug, what kind of hugs, can you be in the same room with doors locked, can you sleep in the same room and you are not married, who do you give lifts etc. –Avoid people and places you know will lead you into sexual involvement –Dont avail yourself for debates on limits you have set for yourself, Satan WILL out reason you.
Tips of Staying Sexually Pure iv.Guard your eyes –Ps 101:3 I will set no wicked thing before my eyes –David knew from experience the danger of unguarded eyes. –How much blue movies, pornography, sex filled novels etc do you consume? –They eventually will affect your values, attitudes and ultimately behaviour. They are not innocent. –If you cannot handle the small temptations, you will fail when the big one comes, but if you can handle the small ones, you WILL overcome the big ones as well
Tips of Staying Sexually Pure v.Be accountable –Ecclesiastes 4:10b … But pity the man who fails and has no one to help him up –Have a person or people who hold you accountable and can ask you the hard questions about your sexual life
Restoration After Moral Failure i.Acknowledge your sin –Know that you have sinned against God (Psalm 51:4) –God has seen all you have done –Proverbs 5:21 For a mans ways are in full view of the Lord and He examines them ii.Confess your sin to God –God has promised to forgive (I John 1:9) –God has no problem forgiving the sin, but you may have to live with the consequences of your sin
Restoration After Moral Failure iii.Acknowledge Gods forgiveness –Psalm 32:5 Then I acknowledged my sin before you and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, I will confess my transgressions to the Lord and you forgave the GUILT of my sin –Jesus blood paid for our sins once and for all. (Heb.10:10-18) iv.Forgive yourself –If God has forgiven you and you dont forgive yourself, then you are essentially rejecting what God has already done for you
Restoration After Moral Failure v.Bring forth Fruit of Repentance –Matthew 3:8 Produce fruit in keeping with repentance –Take action that reflects your repentance –Breakup an immoral relationship; dont have to consult them. Inform them after your decision. –Cut off links with things that led you to sexual activity; parties/places/people/books/pornography etc –Find someone to be accountable to; Ecclesiastes 4:10b … But pity the man who fails and has no one to help him up
Restoration After Moral Failure vi.Handle the memories positively –Determine not to live in the past. Philippians 3:13-14 …forgetting what is behind …I press on … –(You cannot change history, but you can change the present and the future) –Acknowledge it, dont deny or suppress it –Turn the thought in a positive direction and thank God that you are forgiven. It will make you stronger next time you face temptation. vi.If necessary, see a counselor
Challenge to Abstinence & Faithfulness The True Love Waits Card reads: - Believing that True Love waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my country, my friends, my future mate and my future children to be sexually pure until the day I give myself only to my marriage partner in a covenant marriage relationship Name____________________________ Signature_________________________ Date_____________________________