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1Improving Workplace Relationships – Effectively Communicating with People Who Are Different Than You October 27th, 2010Presenter: Andrew SanderbeckWaynesville, North CarolinaPCI Webinars
2Foundation of Learning Share your experiences. They provide valuable insight.If you are doing something that gets the results you want, keep doing it.Take the information you learn here and put it into your own style.
3Goals and Objectives Guidelines for Effective Communication Do’s and Do not’sThe LNC’s of CommunicationEnhancing Relationships AssessmentWhat the Results Indicate About Your Communication StyleTechniques for Communicating More Effectively with People Using Different Styles
4Polling Question #1The average person listens with only 25% efficiencyTrueFalse
6DO NOT make assumptions about language proficiency DO NOT make assumptions about language proficiencyDo not assume that a patron and co-worker:Speaks English fluentlyDoes not speak English based on their appearance or the color of their skinRemember, even if a person speaks English fluently, misunderstandings can still arise, and when a person is not proficient in English, misunderstandings are even more likely.Friends of the Library $40 Benefit from an array of exclusive member-only perks and support one of New York's most magnificent treasuresConservators $1,500 Enjoy exclusive book previews, behind-the-scenes events, discussions, and forums led by the world's most prominent intellectuals
7Polling Question #2I work with a diverse population of patrons and/or coworkersYesNo
8DO NOT make assumptions about levels of understanding Assuming they don’t understand may cause a patron and co-workers to feel insulted; however, assuming that they do can also be dangerous, as it may affect communication outcomes.
9DO Respect different beliefs and attitudes When appropriate, ask them about their beliefs, attitudes, and experiences and then acknowledge your understanding of and respect for their views and ways of doing things.
10DO Take the time to explore and resolve any misunderstandings. Using phrases such as “I don’t think I understand that point”, “Could you try explaining that another way?”, “Let me explain it differently”, may help in resolving misunderstandings.
11Polling Question #3I am careful to keep my communication as simple as possibleYesNo
12DO Speak clearly and slowly using plain, straightforward language Certain words, phrases, or actions may have different meanings for different people. For example, most English-speaking Canadians use "yes" to indicate their agreement, but in some cultures “yes” can be a form of acknowledgment rather an indication of agreement.
13DO Verify that you have been understood It does not usually work to ask the other person “Do you understand?”, as most people will say “yes” whether they understood or not. If you sense that the person is unsure or confused, it may be helpful to say something like, “Just to clarify…” and then restate what you said in a slightly different manner
14DO Carefully observe nonverbal responses Be aware of the patrons and co-workers body language as it can provide useful cues. For instance, if someone looks upset even after being told something critical or constructive, he or she may not have understood your message or intention.
15L = LISTEN External Distractions Internal Distractions Trigger Words Judging
16L = LISTEN Prepare / Talking Meetings / Agenda Actively Listening Rely / InterpretMind Already Made Up
17N = NOTEBOOK Names (Why you should use them) Outcomes (Not Intentions) Outcomes (Not Intentions)Clarify (Before and After)Create Bridges (A visual)
18C = COLLABORATION What it is/is not Collaboration = working together, especially with those you sees as difficult and/or differentCollaboration isn’t inviting a bunch of people to a meeting at the beginning of a projectCollaboration isn’t working separately on the same project. It’s all about the „actually working together“, not just contributing bits to a pot
19C = COLLABORATIONWhy it is rare It’s perceived as somehow fluffy, even when the benefits are so obvious
20C = COLLABORATION When to use it at the beginning of a project, but not JUST at the beginningwhen you’re stuck, i.e. for trouble shooting and problem solving (this is collaborating with a narrow focus)when you’re looking for inspiration (yes, wide focus)regularly, well, it must be trained …
21Polling Question #4We could collaborate more effectively in our libraryYesNo
22Enhancing Daily Relationships Assessment New Relationship Strategies
23SocializersAppreciation Recognition Great Ideas Spontaneity/Fun Follow-Through People/People Influencers Positive Language
24Directors/Efficients Get it Done…Now Results Control Decision-Maker Rude and Abrasive Very Direct Be Productive
25Thinkers/FactualsGet it Right Planning/Organizing Structure Indirect Perfectionist Validated Information and DataVery Organized Work Area
26Relaters/LoyalsEverybody Get Along Caretakers Routine Very Caring Good ListenersNot Taking Care of Themselves Reassurance
27“Do Unto Others As They Would Have Done Unto Them” The Platinum Rule“Do Unto Others As They Would Have Done Unto Them”
28Thanks for Attending Training with PCI Webinars! Managing Yourself Instead of Managing Time with Andrew SanderbeckWednesday November 3rd at 1:00 pm