1. Dr. Marquita Byrd Communication Studies Department San Jose State University byrd.marquita@yahoo.com

2. What’s Love Got to Do with It? What’s Love, but a Second Hand Emotion? Tina Turner, 1993

3. Human Can Respond to the Environment in Four Ways Cognitive :Think Affective: Feel Behave: Act Spiritual: Immaterial world, Other reality, Inner Life

4. Emotions are often Absent from Academic Discussions Considered inferior to intellect Uncontrollable Weak Causes Confusion Try to control, ignore or remove Impossible because emotions are a central part of our psychological filters

5. Four Components of Emotions Physiological changes in autonomic systems: hormones, respiratory, cardiovascular Nonverbal face, gestures, posture, movement, eyes Cognitive: labeling Verbal expression: what is said

6. Six Factors Influencing Emotions Personality Culture Gender: anger, vulnerability, crying, expression of Social Conventions: how to interpret, what to feel, when to express Risks in Self-Disclosure Emotional Contagion

7. Emotions Exist on a Continuum No good or bad emotions Continuum from Facilitative to Debilitative Facilitative Debilitative All emotions can be used in facilitative or debilitative manners Love, hate, fear, happiness

8. Fallacious Thinking Erroneous conclusions based upon faulty information or logic Irrational Thinking Cause us to use emotions in negative ways

9. Irrational Thinking Approval Perfection: self and others Catastrophic expectations Helplessness Control Wrongness of difficulty Overgeneralization Past is inescapable You do not matter

10. Rational Emotive Responses Does it do harm: self or others Why should it change Must you always be right Is it within your power to change it Is it your responsibility or right to change it Are you perfect enough to cast a stone Is it still relevant today Can you ignore the small stuff

11. Guidelines for Expressing Emotions Recognize them Difference between thinking, feeling and acting Expand emotional vocabulary Share multiple Right time, place, person, and motive Take responsibility: use “I” language not “You” language Mindful of how you communicate it Take a deep breath before you start

12. Conclusion Emotions are integral to the human experience Recognition and management of them is essential for good living Increase your Emotional Quotient