Presentation on theme: "Assisting Others In Breaking The Cycle"— Presentation transcript:
1Assisting Others In Breaking The Cycle Paul Mavrogeorge M. A. LMFTMavrogeorge ConsultingWith input from Alan H. Siggelkow, MSW
2Repentance Model 1. Listen Give the courage to confess 2. Speak Specific Law3. Listen to contrition4. Speak the Gospel5. Speak Absolution*6. Fruits of Repentance*Speak the Law as a GuideMotivate with the GospelDeal with changes and tools to help overcome addiction problemsA process of Sanctification
3All written material copyright@ Paul Mavrogeorge M.A. Key PointsAddiction ParadigmCommon BeliefsTreatment StagesIntervention : Breaking the CycleApplication of the model…cases?All written material Paul Mavrogeorge M.A.
4All written material copyright@ Paul Mavrogeorge M.A. Addiction ParadigmAddiction is a unhealthy attachment to objects, behaviors, or peopleThe purpose of this attachment is to bring temporary comfort or security during a period of deprivationIndividuals will attach to unhealthy object in order to avoid the pain of emotional deprivationAll written material Paul Mavrogeorge M.A.
5How we think and the shame that binds us! Common BeliefsHow we think and the shame that binds us!
6All written material copyright@ Paul Mavrogeorge M.A. Belief SystemSelf-image—I am a flawed and unworthy person.Relationships: If people knew me, they wouldn’t love me.Needs: They will never be met if I have to count on others.Hurts, habits, and hang-ups: ______ is my most important need.All written material Paul Mavrogeorge M.A.
7INTERVENTIONS BREAKING THE CYCLE Original Material by Paul Mavrogeorge Adapted by Alan SiggelkowHere and following I think you are talking about the continuing struggle: Romans 7 – Old Man vs. New Man
8Acting Out Cycle Unhealthy Functioning Triggers Outcomes Ongoing SusceptibilitiesOutcomes
9Acting Out Cycle Unhealthy Functioning Triggers Outcomes Ongoing SusceptibilitiesOutcomes
10Ongoing Susceptibilities Childhood abuse (sexual, physical, emotional)Emotionally rigid or detached familyDevelopment of shame based thinking through childhoodNegative core beliefs about oneself and relationshipsUnhealthy attachmentAll written material Paul Mavrogeorge M.A.
11Ongoing Susceptibilities Core beliefsI am unworthyIf you really knew me, you would not love meNo one will care for my needs but meThese are areas that will be addressed in therapy
12Acting Out Cycle Unhealthy Functioning Triggers Outcomes Ongoing SusceptibilitiesOutcomes
13Unhealthy Functioning H.A.L.T violated (Hungry-Angry-Lonely-Tired)Depression/Anxiety increase“Ongoing Susceptibilities” are touchedIntense anxiety leads to the desire for reliefReason and sanity begin to decrease“All or nothing” thinking stylesSTINKING THINKINGAll written material Paul Mavrogeorge M.A.
14Unhealthy Functioning Help them identify behavior patterns that are unhealthyIdentify the behaviors that contribute to their patternIdentify their key warning signsThoughtsFeelingsPhysical responsesBehaviors
15Unhealthy Functioning What are the lifestyle choices that contribute to their unhealthy functioningIdentify the key choices that must happen to move out of unhealthy functioning
16Acting Out Cycle Unhealthy Functioning Triggers Outcomes Ongoing SusceptibilitiesOutcomes
17All written material copyright@ Paul Mavrogeorge M.A. TriggersPeoplePlacesThingsStimulus“The pull to act out”All written material Paul Mavrogeorge M.A.
18TriggersWhat are the specific things that activate their desire to engage in their destructive behaviorIndicatorsThoughtsFeelingsActionsPhysical Reactions
19Acting Out Cycle Unhealthy Functioning Triggers Outcomes Ongoing SusceptibilitiesOutcomes
20All written material copyright@ Paul Mavrogeorge M.A. Acting OutBegins with ongoing thinking of acting outBehavior spirals out of control (Engage in acting out behaviors)May involve:Behaviors that are unhelpful and must be stopped to avoid acting outBehaviors that individual said they would not do againBehaviors that could cause one to lose a job or primary relationshipBehaviors that risk physical safetyAll written material Paul Mavrogeorge M.A.
21Acting Out Assist individual in identifying when thinking starts Key questionsWhen did the thoughts first enter your mindIdentify their key warning signsThoughtsFeelingsPhysical responsesBehaviors
22Acting Out Understanding the intensity is critical Green Light Thoughts are normalYellow LightThoughts have startedDrifting into dangerous territoryNow is the time to reach outRed LightObsessive thinkingLocked onto obtaining reliefMay require external intervention
23Acting Out Cycle Unhealthy Functioning Triggers Outcomes Ongoing SusceptibilitiesOutcomes
24All written material copyright@ Paul Mavrogeorge M.A. OutcomesPositiveShort term gainPay-off for the useMust be identifiedNegativeLong term impactCounting the costSpirituallyEarthlyAdd: Counting the cost – earthly; counting the cost -- spirituallyAll written material Paul Mavrogeorge M.A.
25Outcomes Identification of the payoff is critical The short term gain is what can drive themIn many cases the payoffs meets a deeper needIdentify their key responsesThoughtsFeelingsPhysical responsesBehaviors
26Acting Out Cycle Unhealthy Functioning Probably need to refer to a TriggersOngoingSusceptibilitiesOutcomesProbably needto refer to aMental HealthProfessionalFruits ofRepentanceFruits of RepentanceGospelLawStart