Specific/ What can’t be imagined (visualised), can’t be done. “What would that look like?” is a question we need to ask.
Avoid “Fuzzy” Goals We avoid “unsolvable” problems. We only set goals for solvable problems. Specific goals for specific problems. The goals can’t just be about what sounds good.
Specific/Measurable Never set a goal that can’t be broken down into smaller goals. There must always be an answer to the question, “What is half of this goal?” “What is three quarters of this goal?”
Specific/Measurable/Attractive Is this goal what the client really wants? Don’t convince the client your goal, or they won’t want to work on it. Find their sources of motivation, their “values”. Align the goals with their values to make it attractive.
Goal Alignment If goals and values are not aligned then there is confusion and eventually irritation/demoralisation.
Specific/Measurable/Attractive/Realistic Never set a goal that is unrealistic. Avoid setting a goal that you haven’t set before. Goals have to be within reasonable reach. Ideally, perhaps just out of reach. So called “stretching goals”.) Identify and Ventilate any Goal Conflict.
Goal setting? or Wishful thinking? Unrealistic, wishful thinking leads to disappointment. Goal setting is designed to lead to success.
Specific/Measurable/Attractive/Realistic/Time-framed Goals need to have proper time frames. A goal may certainly be achievable, but not in 5 days!
Goal Setting and SMART Goals Specific Measureable Attractive/Authentic Realistic Time Frame
Areas of: Concern Influence Control Realistic Goals
Approach Goals Moving away from thisMoving towards this Avoidance Goal Approach Goal
Tool: Goal Setting Vague goals produce vague efforts. “I want things to be better between my baby and me.” “I want my baby to be more settled.” OK, but what would you like to have achieved by the end of today? “Frankly, I’d like to have just tried something new. I would have liked to have stopped doing what’s not working.”
Tool: Reframing Reframe each “problem” into an approach goal i.e. a desired outcome. Has the client seen any times when the desired outcome has already occurred, or when the problem is less intense?
Tool: Writing Action Steps Keep action steps simple and small. Are they really do-able? Or just a wish list? Can they be written down? “What can’t be written, can’t be done.” “If it ain’t written, it ain’t coachin’ !”
Goal Setting Strategies Early goals vs. Later goals T1 T2 T3 T4 T5 T6 T7 Long Term (Distal) Short Term (Proximal)
Moving on. Trying something different. Is the client having no success? Are you getting into a struggle with the client? Move On: “This doesn’t seem to be working. Is there something else we could be working on?” Don’t ask why is this happening? We don’t imply that there is something more relevant or useful we just ask, “Should we move on?”
Scaling Used to measure how close we are to our goals. But also: To motivate clients To help plan the next steps We use a scale of 1…….10
Scaling Where are you now on the scale? “About a 4” Using small steps, we ask, How would you know if you had got to a “5”? What would be different? What would you notice with just a small improvement from 4 to 5? What would you need to do to get there. By the way how did you get from 3 to 4? What has helped so far?