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Welcome to TGIF Orientation
Why we are called
Steering Committee Created in 2001 Bylaws Chair-mistress Six other positions –Vice Chair –Secretary –Demo Coordinator –Events Coordinator –Fund Raising Coordinator –Public Relations Coordinator Term of positions Listed on TGIF website’s bylaw page TGIF Steering Committee needs you
Mission Statement The purpose of TGIF is to promote and facilitate, safe, sane and consensual BDSM for adults with those interests, by providing a discreet, safe, supportive, atmosphere through education, discussion, resources and group events.
TGIF is NOT A swinging singles club – or A dating service – or A place for sex orgies
TGIF IS A place for BDSM education
TGIF IS also A place to make nonjudgmental friends
We need you A good way to meet people is to volunteer
TGIF Membership TGIF is open to all people who have attained the age of 18 and who have not been banned from group membership by the TGIF Steering Committee. No person shall be denied membership in this organization on the basis of race, sex, color, national origin, age, marital status, political views, disability, sexual orientation or kink.
How to Become a TGIF Member 1.Attend two munches or non-play events. 2.Attend this TGIF membership orientation 3.Complete the TGIF membership agreement form 4.Pay dues
What is BDSM? (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism) BDSM is one of several names given to a collection of behaviors that involve bondage, spanking, domination and other activities that are done in an erotic context. We believe that it should be practiced in a safe, sane, consensual and non-abusive manner. BDSM is a form of erotic play that involves significant emotional and physical risks and thus requires instruction in order to ensure reasonable safety.
Recommendations for Safety 1.Know your play partner 2.Leave reality out of it 3.Try it yourself 4.Prepare for emergencies 5.Have a silent alarm (safe call)
Recommendations for Safety (cont.) 6. Negotiation
Recommendations for Safety (cont.) 7.Use safe-words 8.Check in with submissive 9. Make sure “toys” are rounded off on edges 10.Start lightly and build slowly 11.Use the one-to-ten technique 12.Strike only muscled, fleshy areas of the body
Recommendations for Safety (cont.) 13.Use soft or plain paraffin candles 14.Self experiment with clamps before using 15.Do not try piercing or breaking the skin 16.At first play with no bondage 17.Don’t tie too tight
Recommendations for Safety (cont.) 18.Never leave a person alone 19.Should be able to free someone in one minute 20.Use caution when doing self-bondage 21.Play involving suffocation CAN BE LIFE THREATENING!
FRBDSM E-Group Rules No real names, (phone numbers, address) No personal ads No flames No under 18 year old
FRDSM E-Group - Other Things Remember goes to all e-group members Personal discussion No RSVP Off topic Forward to everyone you know Jokes Subject line
E-vites Usually go out a week before the event Usually for members-only events RSVP What you will bring (per person) Guests View Map Payment via PayPal Addy Changes
RSVP Rule The TGIF steering committee has adopted a rule that states: "If a member RSVPs to a function and does not give at least 24 hours cancellation notice they will be required to pay the function fee. Until the fee is paid the person is put on a waiting list for any future functions."
TGIF Events Socials and other non-play Educational Orientation (Educational) Munch (Social)
Play Parties TGIF does not hold play parties PLAY PARTIES
Socials and Other Non-play Events NO playing NO toys NO children NO exceptions
Confirmations Usually go out the Wednesday before a Saturday event Three days before a week-day event
Educational Events Donations RSVP
Promoting BDSM Awareness & Understanding Fresno State Alliant Fresno City College (future) Other (suggestions?)
Basic Protocol Collared submissive Dominants Other couples
No means No It is ok to ask a Dominant or submissive to play Don’t keep asking over and over once you have been told “No” Don’t take “no” personally
Common Dungeon Rules 1.Ultimate Safe-words (purple) 2.Courtesy 3.No blood sports, water-sports, fire-play, wax- play, single tail, winch 4.Cleanup 5.Penetration only with barriers
Common Dungeon Rules (cont.) 6.Loud vocal response equals gag 7.No alcohol or illegal drugs 8.Time-limit on equipment (30 minutes) 9.No pictures without permission 10.Smoking in designated areas
Common Dungeon Rules (cont) 11.Social and snack area not for play 12.No voyeurs talking in the dungeon 13.Notify dungeon monitor; don’t stop play yourself 14.Do not play with other people’s toys without permission
TGIF Website About us Bylaws Contact us Members Calendar Links Books Join TGIF
TGIF Member Discounts (on member page link ) NameCompany NameAddress/AddyProductDiscount JohnMassage Therapy Van Ness, Fresno massage25% DominaThe Frugal Dommewww.frugaldomme.combondage toys15% Alan & nancySnake Pit Leather Workswww.snakepitleatherworks.comwhips & floggers15% JT ’ s Stockroom D toys10%
Fill out evaluation form Read and fill out membership application After that, you are officially a TGIF member Welcome to TGIF! We have TGIF pins, decals and t-shirts available