Presentation on theme: "Safety organized, trauma-informed and solution-focused domestic violence practice in child protection: Engaging families to promote change Christine Minerva."— Presentation transcript:
1Safety organized, trauma-informed and solution-focused domestic violence practice in child protection: Engaging families to promote changeChristine MinervaConsultant, National Resource Center for Child Protective ServicesFernando MederosConsultant and Trainer,Fatherhood, Domestic Violence and Child WelfareJuly 16, 2013
2Learning objectivesUnderstand what constitutes a safety organized, trauma informed, solution focused approach to engaging individual family members in domestic violence (DV) cases in child welfareKnow the resources available to support continued learning about these approaches and enhance development of DV practice
3Webinars in this series June: Focused on key issues for intake, assessment and intervention; organizational capacityAvailable atTODAY: Focus on engagement of the children, non-offending parent and DV offenderAugust 20, 2013: Focus on safety planning and case planning
4AgendaOverview: Safety organized, trauma informed, solution focused approachesEngagement of the non-offending parent (adult victim of domestic violence)Engagement of childrenEngagement of the DV offender (person using violence and abuse in the relationship)
5Framework for Engagement Trauma Informed: “Acknowledges and responds to the varying impact of traumatic stress on children, caregivers, families, and those who have contact with the system.”Safety Organized: Ongoing and continuous engagement that explores risks, protective factors, and strategies to create safety.Solution Focused: Individualized, case-specific. Utilizes Miracle questions, Exception questions, Coping questions, Scaling questions to generate planning and change.References:Chadwick Trauma-Informed Systems Project
6Domestic ViolenceDomestic violence (DV) is a pattern of coercive and violent behavior used by a person to establish control over an intimate partner.May include: physical violence, sexual violence/coercion, economic abuse, verbal/emotional abuse, psychological abuse/threats, using children, using systems such as CPS/courts.
8Lack of Social Supports NOPCPS/ otherSystemsCoping AbuseActive AbuseOppressionLack of Social SupportsMulti-abuse TraumaReferences:National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health“Real Tools: Responding to Multi-Abuse Trauma” Edmund and Bland, Alaska Network and Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault.
9Trauma ResponsesIn response to a danger or perceived risk, a person may experience a Fight- Flight- Freeze Response (National Resource Center on PTSD).Survivors may have re-experiencing symptoms, avoidance symptoms, or hyper-arousal symptoms (National Resource Center on PTSD).How a survivor acts when triggered or in the context of DV might not make sense to an outsider and may seem counterintuitive.References:National Resource Center on PTSD
10How Non-Offending Parent May Present Laughing or nonchalantDistraught or flooded with emotionIndecisive or ambivilantCollected and calmAngryExpressing that the abuse is her faultDissociative, numb, or "flat“May appear to be "lying about abuse"May appear to be "minimizing abuse"References:National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health
11Goals of Engagement with Non-Offending Parents Identify risks, safety strategies/protective factors, and supports.Understand how DV is impacting the child and identify what’s helping promote the child’s resiliency.Partner with NOP around CPS involvement in order to minimize risks.
12Building Rapport with the Non-Offending Parent Arrange a safe interview - communicate the message that CPS is concerned about the safety of both the NOP and the childrenDispel myths about CPSExplain limits of confidentialityAcknowledge that CPS involvement may increase risksCommunicate with empathy and respect
13Identifying RisksAvoid asking “Is there domestic violence?” and instead ask open-ended questions about the relationship and the abuse. “Tell me about your relationship. What happens when you disagree?”Ask about and listen for behaviors that indicate a pattern of power and control. In order to understand risk, we need to understand more than a snap shot of a DV incident.References:Child Protection in Families Experiencing Domestic Violence” National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse & Neglect“Helpful Things to Say”“Identifying Domestic Violence”
14Identifying Risks & Protective Factors Ask specific questions related to frequency, duration, and severity of abuse.Ask about and listen for indicators of dangerousness: weapons, strangulation, threats of suicide/homicide.Explore what’s helped her to stay safe in the past, what resources she may have used, and any potential barriers she may face.References:Child Protection in Families Experiencing Domestic Violence” National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse & Neglect“Identifying Domestic Violence”
15Assessing Children’s Exposure Partner with NOP to understand how the children have been impacted by witnessing DV. Normalize that it can be difficult to talk with children about abuse.“What do you think the children understand about the abuse? Did your children ever see or hear the fighting? How do you think this has affected them?”Ask about the children’s strengths.References:Child Protection in Families Experiencing Domestic Violence” National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse & Neglect“Helpful Things to Say”“Identifying Domestic Violence”
16Exploring Protective Strategies “Moms who are being abused are often doing many things to keep their kids safe and support them. Can you tell me ways you try to protect your children? How have these strategies worked?”Ask about and listen for protective strategies such as encouraging the children to go to a neighbor’s house, stay out of the argument, call 911, or staving off arguments until the children are asleep.References:Child Protection in Families Experiencing Domestic Violence” National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse & Neglect“Helpful Things to Say”“Identifying Domestic Violence”
17Safety Organized & Solution Focused CPS Partnership Explore NOP’s perspective on how CPS should intervene with her partner (what will escalate risk and what will reduce risk).Explore NOP’s perspective on how to maintain ongoing contact and how she can safely discuss concerns with you in the future.Throughout the case, recognize that CPS involvement may create additional risks for both the NOP and the child.References:Child Protection in Families Experiencing Domestic Violence” National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse & Neglect“Helpful Things to Say”“Identifying Domestic Violence”
19Children/Youth and DVIn the past year, 6.6% of US children were exposed to physical IPV, which is more than 5 million children.In the past year, 5.7% were exposed to psychological/emotional IPV, or about 4.3 million children.Futures Without ViolenceReferences:Futures Without Violence
20Effects of DV on Children/Youth PhysicalEmotionalBehavioralEffects on valuesEffects on parentingReferences:Futures Without Violence, “Connect Curriculum”
21Children/youth are impacted differently Age, GenderFrequency, Severity, & Duration of AbusePresence of Protective FactorsAdditional Traumas or Lack ofOpportunities to Build Self EsteemChild’s Coping StrategiesOverall Impact of ExposureReferences:Futures Without Violence, “Connect Curriculum”Presence or Absence of SupportsAccess to age-appropriate information about abuse
22Trauma Informed Perspective on Interviews Children/youth have various reasons for not disclosing abuse or wanting to talk about DV.Perspectives are impacted by the dynamic of DV.Children may present with disjointed and non- linear reporting, or magical thinking.Children and youth, like adults, may have experienced layers of trauma and abuse (multi-abuse trauma).References:“16 Trauma-Informed, Evidence Based Recommendations for Advocates Working with Children Exposed to Intimate Partner Violence.” Futures Without Violence
23Tips for Engaging Children/Youth Build rapport by asking about their likes/dislikes school, pets, friends, etc.Let them know it is okay to talk about what’s happening in their family and in their own relationships.Never meet with the child/youth to discuss DV in front of the DV offender.Identify risks, safety strategies, resiliency, and supports.Safety plan & check-in after the interview.References:Child Protection in Families Experiencing Domestic Violence” National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse & Neglect“Identifying Domestic Violence”
24Trauma Informed and Safety Organized Interviews Normalize that all families argue. “What happens in your family when grown-ups argue? How do the grown-ups try to keep you safe?”ALWAYS TELL CHILDREN/YOUTH THAT THE ABUSE IS NOT THEIR FAULT.Explore child’s or youth’s perspective on how his/her parents would react if they knew we were talking about the abuse in the home.References:Child Protection in Families Experiencing Domestic Violence” National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse & Neglect“Identifying Domestic Violence”
25Safety Organized Assessment “What do you do when grown-ups are arguing? How do you stay safe? How do you know to do that?”Listen for protective strategiesIf the child/youth discloses that they try to stop the argument, discuss safety and tell kids that they best way they can help is by staying safe. If child/youth discloses an appropriate safety plan, such as calling 911, reinforce.
26Trauma Informed Tips for Engaging Children/Youth Assess how the child is being impacted by the abuse. “How do you feel when grown-ups are arguing? Do you have any worries about what might happen when grown-ups argue?”Identify coping strategies. “What kinds of things make you feel better when you feel (angry, sad, scared…)?”Child Protection in Families Experiencing Domestic Violence” National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse & Neglect“Identifying Domestic Violence”
27Solution Focused Engagement with Children/Youth Listen for existing supports. “Have you ever talked with anyone about what’s happening in your family? Who takes care of you? How can we help your family?”Look for ways to build resiliency. “What are the things that you are most proud of? What kinds of things do you think you are really good at?”References:“16 Trauma-Informed, Evidence Based Recommendations for Advocates Working with Children Exposed to Intimate Partner Violence.” Futures Without Violence
29Part I: Who are these men--CPS Low income, men of colorChallenging backgrounds—poverty, exposure to community violence, trauma in family of originPoor manhood modelingPositive fatherhood visionsDesire to do betterHave pathways for change
30Trauma Bond: Exposure To Community & Family Violence Exposure to & involvement w/violence— defensive/aggressive posture—reactivitySubstance abuse, triggers, depression, rigid manhoodShut down, withdrawal, “wearing the mask”/protecting inner worldHighly sensitive to issues of respect and coercion
31Part II: Who are these men--DV Men with history of DVVast range of dangerousness, strengths & capacity to change4070% moderate; can change3040% chronic re-assaulters—jealous, obsessed, sub abusegenerally violent15% potentially lethal—high control, high violence or both
32Implications of levels of DV & strengths Differential approaches, careful management of safetyConsider different levels of access to children, levels of supervisionAlways look for strengths as key to positive engagementPositive relationships with children can be source of strength
33Pathways to engagement Positive fatherhood visionEducation on impact of DV on children—crucial parallel engagement—impact of DV on children=impact of DV on self as childConcern for children—opening: “You cannot hurt or disrespect their mother w/out also hurting your kids. You cannot separate this.”Modeling issue: sons & daughters, powerful impact, differential
34Safety: Things to do…Speak to the father alone. If the mother is present, it can escalate things or lead to retaliation.Check your feelings. Don’t look for confession or confront him harshly or aggressively.Build a relationship with him. If he can feel a sense of respect and interest, it will pay off.At the beginning, focus on getting him to reflect on the impact of his behavior on the children.
35SafetyFocus on strengths that may help him in the change process.Figure out your approach. Are you moving toward having him engage in services that address DV and some form of safe contact/visitation with his children? Or do you think that his risk level and/or the children’s level of trauma are too high to move toward contact/visitation?
36What to Say…What is your relationship to your children? How do want them to look back at you years from now?I am concerned about what has happened. Many men don’t realize it, but knowing that your dad has hurt your mom can scar children. This is not about your intentions, but about your impact. You can change that.What was your experience with your father or father figure as a child? What do you carry now?Talk about the impact of witnessing DV on children in detail. Differentiate by age groups and by gender. You can say, “When a man hurts his partner, he hurts the children.It doesn’t matter what triggered you. You may have felt justified at the moment.
37What to say…(After he’s been violent.) What you do now will be very important to them… If you don’t change, they will feel you turned your back on them. It’s not just about your partner. Talk about getting help: attending batterer intervention program or other options…You are very important to your children. Research indicates boys will get their sense of manhood and fatherhood from you and that girls will develop a sense of what to expect from men. Both of them will get a sense of healthy relationships and of how to resolve conflict from your example. You matter a great deal. If you can change your behavior, it will make a big difference to them.
38National Resource Center on PTSD ResourcesNational Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health – practical tipsNational Resource Center on PTSD“Real Tools: Responding to Multi-Abuse Trauma” Edmund and Bland, Alaska Network and Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault.
39Resources Chadwick Trauma-Informed Systems Project Futures Without ViolenceNational Resource Center for Domestic Violence
40ResourcesNational Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges—Family Violence DeptCulturally specific DV institutes ANDState examples of DV practicesall available at
41Webinar Recording, PowerPoint Slides and Handouts The recording of the webinar, along with the PowerPoint slides used today and all of the featured handouts will be available by the end of the week at the NRCCPS website:The archived recording of the June webinar and PowerPoint handouts are currently available at the same site.