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Promises I Can Keep Reading Guide Roderick Graham
Promises I Can Keep Lecture Outline 1. Discussion of Chapter 2 2. Discussion of Conclusion 3. Comparing Theories
Chapter 2 Several women are profiled, and they discuss their mates reactions to their pregnancy Womens Reactions Women tended to become more mature after they become pregnant Women demanded more from their boyfriends (moving from buddies and friends to provider and protector) Mens Reactions Men tended to deny paternity (or act with shock and fear) Men continued to act irresponsibly (with some exceptions)
Chapter 2 The Naming of the Child The day of childbirth can bring together man and woman (although this may be temporary) The authors state that one of the barometers (measures) of the relationship between partners is the naming of the child Men want their child to have their last name…if a woman chooses not to do it, it is a public slap in the face
Chapter 2 Key Quote Even in poor communities where nonmarital childbearing is the statistical norm, most still view early pregnancy as something of a tragedy, and girls in this situation may face censure from teachers, preacher, neighbors, and kin. But a pregnancy also galvanizes those same adults to help and support herif not for her sake, then for the unborn childs. p. 65
Chapter 2 Key Quote Many of these young women believe that children, not jobs or relationships with men, are their lifes work, and they face pregnancy with the strong determination to do the right thingto have the child and embrace the role of the mothereven if it means giving up other opportunities. P. 68
Conclusion Sexual Revolution Birth Control Acceptance of Cohabitation Decline in the belief of marriage for kids sake Cultural Demand for Marriage has declined For the poor and affluent alike, marriage is now much less about sex, coresidence, and raising children than it used to be. In a cultural context where everyone had to marry to achieve a minimal level of social acceptance – as well as to have sex, live openly together, and bear children – womens and mens expectations for marriage had to be limited to the actual pool of those partners available to them. p. 200
Conclusion Sexual Revolution Birth Control Acceptance of Cohabitation Decline in the belief of marriage for kids sake Cultural Demand for Marriage has declined Because of the change in Americas cultural orientation to marriage, the institution of marriage is no longer practical, but is instead more symbolic. Marriage has become more a symbol of success because less people have successful marriages The bar for marriage is now very high Now, the point of marriage is not to start building a life…but is instead the prize one attempts to get after individual success (education, career, etc).
Conclusion Both middle class and poor women hold the same contemporary values towards marriage However, because the structural conditions that these two groups face are different, the reactions to the changes in society are different Middle Class 1. Delay marriage longer 2. Have trial marriages that dont last 3. Ultimately middle class people are able to reach their white picket fence dream
Conclusion Both middle class and poor women hold the same contemporary values towards marriage However, because the structural conditions in which these two groups face are different, the reactions to the changes in society are different Working Class/Poor 1. Associate marrying with making it 2. Never give up on that dream because that would mean giving up on making it. 3. Lack of suitable partners for women, financial difficulties, etc. make is harder for these women to reach that dream
Conclusion Ironically, working class and poor people revere marriage so much, that they wont get in one (make a promise they cant keep) unless they are confident it will work!