2. Parents with their heads in the sand miss a lot more than parents who look. “Not my child!”
3. When parents talk to kids about real issues kids face, the kids are more likely to make the right choices.
Parenting/School Concerns in 2011 Society has changed. All the ills of society are present in the world through which students must navigate. The issues students come in contact with span all demographic, economic, and social classes. These are societal issues that are of concern both in the communities and in the schools.
Would you know? If you found a bunch of these pills, would you know what they are? What about if you saw a text where your student was talking about 4:20 or Rolling? 4:20
Would you know? If your child wore this necklace or this shirt, would you think anything of it?
Would you know? That your middle school daughter could be arrested and convicted as a sex offender for sending a photo of herself to her boyfriend?
What do I do? Ignorance or denial will not serve you or your child. Knowledge and active parenting are your best defense. Therefore, it is important that parents know as much as possible about the sometimes frightening world that surrounds their children
Discuss the Parent/Student Handbook with your child. Make sure you and your child understand the rules for which they will be held accountable. This handbook is available in several different languages.
Important Information about Student Discipline (p. 13-14) Not allowed on school property during suspension (#1) Accomplice rule (#6) TAADRA- (#13) DJJ and YDC transitions (#14) New Bullying law (p. 17)
Brookwood High School Statistics Even the best schools and communities face the same issues.
DELINQUENCY Have you: HS 2008 HS 2010 Brookwood HS 2008 Brookwood HS 2010 Lied to parents about whereabouts at least once within past 12 months?56.1%45.9%57.2%41.2% Skipped school without parent permission at least once within past 12 months?26.4%19.8%14.4%8.1% Been bullied or threatened by other youth within past 30 days?7.4%9.4%8.9%8.2% Bullied or threatened other youth?6.5%8.1%6.8%6.7% Sent a threatening or intimidating message to someone using an electronic device? * 14.1%*8.7% Stolen from a store within past 12 months?25.7%30.0%20.2%14.1% Driven a car without owner’s permission?14.0%11.3%13.9%7.1%
Longitudinal study of bullies reveal that: 60% of boys who were bullies in middle school had at least one criminal conviction by age 24. 40% had three or more convictions. Bullies were 4 times as likely as peers to have multiple convictions. And for the bully
GANG ACTIVITY & ATTITUDES HS 2008 HS 2010 Brookwood HS 2008 Brookwood HS 2010 I would worry if a sibling or friend joined a gang. 83.4%81.1%84.5%81.7% I have heard of gang activity in my neighborhood or school.68.9%56.2%51.6%42.3% I have witnessed gang activity in my neighborhood or school.43.1%33.3%23.0%18.3% I have been asked to join a gang.25.3%23.4%17.9%13.3% I have participated in illegal gang related activity within the past 30 days.5.4%5.1%3.9%3.4% I have friends who have participated in illegal gang activities within the past 30 days. 23.7%20.3%14.9%10.9% I believe it is possible for gang members to leave a gang safely.17.7%17.4%17.7%13.7% I would consider joining a gang.8.5%7.1%6.8%7.4% I feel no one would care if I joined a gang.9.0% 8.9%8.0% I have been initiated into a gang.7.4%6.5%5.7%6.5%
Gangs are not a part of any culture. Gangs are part of Criminal Culture.
Is this guy a “real” gang member? Who cares? At this point, the difference between a “Wannabe” and a “Real” gang member is totally irrelevant.
PHYSICAL VIOLENCE In the past 12 months, have you: HS 2008 HS 2010 Brookwo od HS 2008 Brookwoo d HS 2010 Hit or beaten someone?33.1%31.7%27.9%22.0% Taken part in a group fight?16.8%14.2%12.2%9.0% Carried a knife, gun or weapon for protection? 9.7%16.5%4.5%12.8% Used a knife, gun or weapon to scare someone? 9.9%9.2%6.3%6.1% Brought a weapon to school?9.5%8.4% 6.8%
Drugs Drugs issues are not new; however, the seriousness of the drugs students are confronted with has increased. Drugs are present in schools regardless of location, demographics, affluence, etc.
SUBSTANCE ABUSE Have you: HS 2008 HS 2010 Brookwood HS 2008 Brookwood HS 2010 Used alcohol in the last 30 days?23.2%18.8%20.3% 13.8% Used marijuana in the last 30 days?13.1%13.4%12.8% 9.8% Used cocaine in the last 30 days? 2.3%3.6%2.8%3.0% Used methamphetamines in the last 30 days? 1.5%3.0%.7%2.7% Ever used alcohol?36.0%27.1%33.5%22.6% Ever used cigarettes?18.7%13.6%19.2%10.1% Ever used chewing tobacco?4.7%5.2%4.9%3.9% Ever used marijuana?20.7%18.8% 14.0% Ever used inhalants?2.8%3.5%2.8%2.0% Ever used steroids?1.7%2.7%1.0%1.5% Ever used ecstasy?3.5%3.9%2.5%3.2% Ever abused prescription drugs?6.4% 5.3%5.2%
Drugs Cont’HS 2008 HS 2010 Brookwood 2008 Brookwood 2010 Sold or given drugs or alcohol within past 12 months?13.6%10.5%12.2%8.0% Bought, sold or given drugs or alcohol to someone while on school property during the last 12 months? 10.7%8.7%9.0%5.9% Been under the influence of drugs or alcohol while on school property during the last 12 months? 19.9%15.6%21.3%11.6%
Alcohol A student’s first introduction to drugs often comes from parents/family members who allow their children to use alcohol. (31% of teens report getting alcohol from family or other adults). Alcohol is not only illegal for people under 21, but research clearly shows the negative health consequences of alcohol on the developing brain as well as greatly increasing the risk of alcoholism.
Marijuana Marijuana is usually the next drug with which a student will experiment. Marijuana today is often much more potent than marijuana of the past. This increases the danger of the drug as it lowers inhibitions and makes poor decisions more likely. It is also the drug your child is most likely to be offered.
Drugs Cont' Prescription/OTC Drugs This is probably where parents most often make a mistake. Nationwide, 1 in 5 teens abuse prescription drugs. Old Prescriptions- Percocet, OxyContin, Xanax, etc. Ritalin/Adderall- “Kiddie Cocaine” Schedule II OTC drugs – Skittles-Coricidin Virtually any pills even if they do not know what they do
Drugs Cont’ Methamphetamines This is a drug that is rampant today. Made from ingredients that can be purchased at any grocery store with an internet recipe, it is highly addictive and ruins lives. Commonly referred to as “Ice”, Crystal Meth. is a frightening drug that usually requires professional help to quit.
Drugs Cont' Cocaine, Ecstasy, LSD, Heroin Use of these drugs usually signal a person has progressed through a series of drugs, constantly seeking a bigger and bigger high. Obviously, use of these drugs signals a need for professional help.
Sexual Activity Children today are becoming sexually active at a shockingly young age. Parents not talking to their children about sex does not mean their peers are not talking to them about sex.
SEXUAL ACTIVITY Have you: HS 2008 HS 2010 Brookwood HS 2008 Brookwood HS 2010 Ever had consensual sexual contact?38.5%30.0%34.0%21.9% Ever had consensual contact with 3+ partners? 19.6%14.9%15.3%8.5% Ever had sexual intercourse?26.7%19.0%20.4%13.0% Ever been pregnant or gotten someone pregnant?3.5%2.7%1.5%1.6% Ever had an abortion?1.2%.8%.3%.7% Ever contracted a sexually transmitted disease? 2.6%2.2%1.8%2.5% Had intercourse with 3+ partners?12.9%9.2%7.9%4.8% If sexually active, used alcohol or drugs at the time of last intercourse?21.9%3.8%18.8%4.0% Ever sent a sexually explicit picture or video of yourself or someone else using a computer, phone or other electronic device? *29.2%*15.0%
Sexual Activity Cont' 16% of MS students and 40% of HS students have had sexual activity Of those who report being sexually active, 33% of middle school youth report they had their first sexual experience by the completion of 6 th grade.
Sexting One of the newest trend involves the sending and receiving of sexual photos over cell phones. Approximately 1 in 4 teenagers are involved in “sexting”. Around the country, this has let to some teens being charged with child pornography charges.
The Internet The Internet is a frightening place. Parents who would never let their students go to the mall alone will commonly let them go out unsupervised into a virtual world that is full of danger. (myspace, facebook, chat rooms, etc.) Student on student issues Adult on student issues
Internet Cont’ Supervise what your child does on the internet. Computers with internet access are best placed in family areas where an adult can walk by at any time. Talk to your kids about the dangers of the internet.
Keeping Your Student Safe Develop and Anti-Gang/Drug Self-Concept Establish a Drug-Free and Gang-Free Home Get Involved in the Community/School Provide Supervision Provide Enrichment Teach Them Ensure School Success
Keeping Your Student Safe Be a Role Model not a Friend Positive Attention Open Lines of Communication Discipline Increase Your Knowledge Know Their Friends Wayne Sakamoto Director of School Safety Murrieta Valley Unified School District
Parents are the key! Educated/Active/Involved Parents are the key to the future of their children.