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JOBTALKS THE ART OF INFLUENCING OTHERS Indiana University Kelley School of Business C. Randall Powell, Ph.D Contents used in this presentation are adapted from Career Planning Strategies and used with the permission of the author.
THE ART OF INFLUENCING OTHERS Your Network Partners
What do these people have in common? Madonna Bill Gates Mother Theresa Adolf Hitler Pablo Picasso
Everyone is a person of influence…. Even though we have an impact on nearly everyone around us, our level of influence is not the same with everyone
There are two basic ways of influencing people…. Number 1: REWARDS Number 2: PUNISHMENTS
Rewards will work for awhile…. How much is enough?
Fear will also work for awhile…. People Can Be Influenced If They Think You Can Punish Them
Crude reliance on either the lash or the cash is self-defeating-
A balanced use of negative and positive reinforcements works best…
Subtlety enhances the influence of rewards and punishments You act consistently and show credibility You show integrity You have bonded with the person or people you are trying to influence Your Level Of Influence Increases When:
Never Assume People Believe You but be truthful by habit anyway Never Assume People Understand You but explain things as clearly as you can Downplay Any Benefits To Yourself but be ready to acknowledge the effects of enlightened self-interest Credibility Love truth, but pardon error ~ Voltaire
Integrity is not determined by circumstances You are responsible for the choices you make Your character is not determined by circumstances Integrity is not based on credentials Character is who we are Character is permanent, credentials are transient Reputation is not integrity Words are cheap, actions have weight Integrity Integrity is the essence of everything successful ~ R. Buckminster FullerR. Buckminster Fuller
Credible behavior and a personal integrity will allow others to trust you… The key to successfully influencing people over the long term is winning their trust and bonding with them….
Nurture People Show Genuine Concern for Others Commit To People Believe In Others Give People Opportunities
Accentuate the Positive Don’t criticize, complain about, or condemn people. Do make people feel important Show sincere appreciation Think of other people’s good points – and point them out!
Three Types of People Well- Poisoners: People who discourage others, stomp on creativity and tell people they can’t do it. Lawn-Mowers: People who have good intentions, but are self absorbed Life-Enhancers: People who enrich the lives of others and lift other people up
Have Faith In People Most people don’t have faith in themselves, and believe they will fail Most people don’t have someone who has faith in them Most people will do anything to live up to your faith in them If you think you can win, you can win. Faith is necessary to victory. ~ William Hazlitt (1778 - 1830)
Always Listen To Other People This Shows Respect And Generates Ideas Listening Builds Loyalty And Increases Knowledge “You can’t hear the song if you don’t listen to the notes…”
Practice seeing things from the other person’s viewpoint Talk About the things that they desire and enjoy Empathy This is an effective strategy because: Each of us spends 95% of our time thinking about ourselves Everyone is interested in the things they want, but few really care about the things you want People aren’t interested in me, they don’t care about you - they’re interested in themselves The most frequently used word – “I”
Smile! If you have fun meeting people they will have fun meeting you. Remember people’s names!! Names are Unique and Set People Apart A Person’s Name is One of the Most Important Sounds in any Language You’re On…. “…all the world’s a stage, where each must play a part….”
How to fail… 1.FEAR - People fear what they don’t immediately understand and this fear hampers their ability to perceive 2.SELF-CENTEREDNESS - People naturally think of their own interests first 3.PROVINCIALISM – The failure to appreciate differences, and recognize and respect everyone’s unique qualities There are three main reasons people fail at understanding others: Conquer fear, self-centeredness and provincialism in yourself.
Sympathetic success “Three-fourths of all the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy. Give it to them, and they will love you.” – Dale Carnegie Be sympathetic to the other person’s ideas and desires – Look at things from the other person’s perspective Look at things from the other person’s perspective Reach out to others with a strong hand and a soft heart Reach out to others with a strong hand and a soft heart Have a positive attitude about people Have a positive attitude about people
People of influence navigate for others…. Show the person their destination Exercise foresight to predict and compensate for obstacles in the path Show the person what steps to take on the path to their goal
Show the person their destination Listen to a person’s aspirations Ask about a person’s desires Help a person define the goals that will achieve these aspirations and desires
Show the person what steps to take on the path to their goal Define where the person is now Identify the person’s abilities and talents Choose a pragmatic path
Exercise foresight to predict and compensate for obstacles in the path Everybody faces problems Successful people face more obstacles than unsuccessful people obstacles than unsuccessful people Problems provide an opportunity for growth for growth
People of influence connect with other people…. Don’t Take People For Granted - Value People Possess the Attitude That You Can Make a Difference and You Will Be Able To Make A Difference Find the Key to Others’ Lives What is Important to the Person? What has the Person Achieved? What Does the Person Desire to do? Communicate From the Heart Be Genuine, Share From your Heart, and Be Yourself
Important Factors In Influencing Others Show Credibility and Integrity Make People Feel Important See Things From the Other Person’s Viewpoint Nurture People by Showing Genuine Concern for Others Have Faith in People Always Listen to Other People Navigate the Path for Other People Connect with Others
Case Study: Community Greenspace 25 acres up for grabs! Housing, Commercial, Recreation, Education, Conservation Park – which will it be? How will you influence people in your group? How will you influence another group to join your cause?
Secrets of Power Persuasion, Everything You’ll Need To Get Anything You’ll Ever Want Roger Dawson How to Positively Impact The Lives of Others, Becoming a Person of Influence John C. Maxwell & Jim Dornan The Seven Secrets of Influence Elaina Zucker How To Win Friends & Influence People Dale Carnegie http://www.dale-carnegie.com Sources
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