Presentation on theme: "0 Protective Behaviours “All children have the right to feel safe all of the time!” HCK: Supporting your children."— Presentation transcript:
0 Protective Behaviours “All children have the right to feel safe all of the time!” HCK: Supporting your children
Tonights Aims: -To support ongoing work in class. -To give information and supportive tips when talking to your child. -To support your children in developing their own protective behaviour skills. 1
2 Our Background: Who are we? Why are we talking to you tonight?
3 The PB Process - Themes The PB Process consists of two themes and five strategies (or steps) designed to encourage us to act on our feelings if we feel unsafe. Theme One: We all have the right to feel safe all of the time… and others have the right to feel safe with us. Theme Two: We can talk with someone we trust about anything, no matter how awful or small.
4 The PB Process - Steps Step One: Talk about feeling safe, adventurous and unsafe. Step Two: Identify early warning signs. Step Three: Encourage talk about feelings. Step Four: Create a network. Step Five: Persist until early warnings signs go away.
5 The PB Process – Step One As children, we learn to identify the difference between the excitement of adventure and the bitter taste of danger. We agree that it is important to understand that as we grow older, the situations in which we become involved will change, but our right to feel safe will not. There is a big difference between healthy excitement and being frightened more than we want to be. Safe, Adventurous, Unsafe Safe Unsafe Adventurous
6 The PB Process – Step Two How does it feel when we know we are safe vs. when we know we are in danger? Our bodies don’t lie. Because we are children, we are able to learn quickly to identify and trust our feelings. Paying attention to our EWS helps us to protect ourselves. We need to identify and trust our feelings. Early Warning Signs (EWS) What our bodies say: “There are butterflies in my stomach!” “My heart is beating so fast!” “My knees are so wobbly!” “My mouth is so dry!”
7 The PB Process – Step Three- Talking An important part of trusting our feelings means that it’s okay to share feelings. Encouraging us to talk about our feelings helps us feel safe again- story books of everyday situations help support empathy for characters and help adults gain insight to children's minds and feelings- This can be eye opening! Body Parts- recognising what belongs to you and accurately naming. Whats Private?- be clear your body belongs to you. Bathers covers what’s private. No body can put anything in your mouth, sand, an allergen etc Your mouth is a private part too! Secrets V Surprises- the power of language. Always trust your instincts
8 The PB Process As adults telling a child not to be scared doesn’t take the fear away just makes the child stop telling. How often are children, especially boys told not to cry, to just get on with it? Ignoring a child’s warning sign due to adult peer pressure. Conversations that can close doors…
9 The PB Process – Step Four This is my Network – My “Helping Hand” Ask yourself, “Are these people I can trust?” Mom, Dad, Grandma School Counselor Uncle Joe Piano Teacher Mary’s Mom we are encouraged to “share” feelings with adults – especially our Early Warning Signs.
10 The PB Process – Step Five Persistence When we learn to ride a bicycle, we keep trying until we succeed – this is persistence. Persist in talking to as many people in your network as it takes for you to feel safe again; until your EWS go away.
11 Where to start the talking??????? I’m locked out at home I’m lost in store My ride doesn’t show up My friend’s shoplifting Family adults are fighting Someone bully’s me I’m approached by stranger False alarms I’m touched in way that feels uncomfortable An adult needs emergency help How can I start the conversation process with my child? Having a Plan What if …
12 The PB Process Their telephone number Their address Their parent(s) work number How to reach you or someone you trust How to help equip your child…
13 The PB Process Take them seriously Get professional help What if My Child is Sexually Abused?
14 The PB Process Children are strong and smart and have the right to feel safe.