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What do modern families need? Jonathan Kemp Anglican YCF Ministry
My job title... Jonathan Kemp Director, Youth, Children's & Families Ministry Ministry Education Commission Milton
Families aren’t what they used to be... shapes and rhythms have changed enormously over the last 100 years, even the last 50 years households (2011 Census) families (ABS) Q: In 2013, what percentage of our families are ‘nuclear’ (married mum and dad and just their own children)? A: 33%
Modern families Rise in multi-generational households (boomerang kids) Record birth rates ( per year) Declining household size: 1911 – – ? 2.6
Modern Families 20% of our population are Dads (4.6 million) single parent dads with children stay-at-home dads grandparent-headed families Q: What percentage of young children are in grandparent care sometime during the week? A: 40% Australian children living in out-of-home care in (This number has risen every year over the last 10 years.)
Modern Families ChildCare 0-2 years: 20% in 1984; 54% in 2014 ChildCare 3-5 years: 50% in 1984; 70% in % of mothers with children <15 years employed in adoptions in 2013 (1501 in 1988); 210 Aussies Inter-country adoption process: average 5 year wait
Modern Families marriages in divorces in % of divorces involve children; children 35% of births were ex-nuptial in 2012 Q: What percentage of marriages were preceded by cohabitation in 2012? A: 78%
Families aren’t what they used to be... Many families are under pressure; others are uncertain about how to be a family. Should the Church be responding? Do we have anything to offer?
YES: WE DO The Church is (and should be) expert at bringing families together and keeping them together.
Family quality is more important than quantity or shape.
Why should we be trying to help families? Obeying God: The Scriptures tell us that families are important and that parents have responsibilities.
Childhood is important for faith development Train children in the right way, and when old, they will not stray. Proverbs 22.6
Parents are pastors But take care and watch yourselves closely, so as neither to forget the things that your eyes have seen nor to let them slip from your mind all the days of your life; make them known to your children and your children’s children. Deuteronomy 4.9
Parents are teachers He established a decree in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our ancestors to teach to their children; that the next generation might know them, the children yet unborn, and rise up and tell them to their children, so that they should set their hope in God, Psalm
Why else should we minister to families? Helping families helps our Church. Research says that: A) most Christians accepted Jesus before the age of 20, many before the age of 10. B) that children, even teenagers, are influenced in the formation of their faith by their parents more than any other group or institution. So: Church growth is most likely to come from youth and children – from families.
The Church should be helping families... But not doing all the work for them!
We need to shift from the church doing all the ‘faith stuff’ to supporting parents so they can be doing it too.
We need to “lead from alongside”. Create opportunities for families to be together (e.g. events, camps...) where parents can interact with their children in spiritual ways. Educate, train, model, show how to make ‘family time’ a priority, and what they could do within that time.
4 Habits for Home A living, loving Christian role model in the home is by far the best delivery system for passing on the Christian faith. We can encourage families to adopt habits to help do this. Closeness/stories/rituals / service
Closeness: Talking / sharing Taking an interest in each other’s activities Planning calendars together Mealtimes with no TV / technology
Fitting into the family story/history Fitting into the Bible story Going through photos Watching wedding or baby videos
Family rituals Going to Church Visiting grandparents / relatives Holidays / camping Birthdays / Baptism candles Rites of Passage
Why is it good for families to perform acts of service together? The ‘service ethic’ seems to be inherited Makes ‘family time’ a priority Reduces screen time Builds and serves the wider community Allows family members to see each other in a new light Gives young people opportunity to lead Gives a stimulus to talk about and teach values
Ask: “If one person is doing it alone today... Could a family be doing it together next time?”
Do we roster on individuals or families? Welcoming Reading Intercessions Flowers / silver Bringing up the elements Morning tea service Gardening Etc...
Resources for home “The Faith 5” (Faith Inkubators: Share – each other’s highs and lows Read – a Bible passage Talk – about how the passage relates to our lives Pray – for each other’s needs Bless – each other in a simple way
Faithful-Families Weekly Anglican resources for families: Closeness Game Sharing Story and Discussion (sermons4kids.com) Prayer and Celebration Service activity Family Time
Facebook: “Messy Church – Brisbane and Beyond!” 3. Or contact me directly.
Messy Church isn’t sloppy. Messy Church values are: Christ-centred Messy Church is a church, not a craft club, that helps people encounter Jesus as Lord and Saviour. All-age It is for adults and children to enjoy together - every element should be relevant and accessible to all ages.
Messy Church Values Creativity It uses hands-on activities to explore Bible stories, to reflect a God of creativity and to give people a chance to play together. Hospitality It reflects a God of unconditional love and is a church for people outside church, providing an oasis of welcome and a safe space in which to thrive. Messy Church is about hospitality, expressed most evidently by eating together – whether it’s a plate of sandwiches to share, or sausage and mash. Celebration It reflects a God of joy who wants his people to have life in all its fullness.
Workshops “Messy Church” seminars (Sherwood, early September)
Summing up: Families need help. Our Church can and should help. Helping doesn’t mean doing all the parenting for parents. Our Church can provide expertise, resources and experiences to make families strong and happy.
Last thought... The passing on of the faith to the next generation is much too important a task to be left in the hands of those who are paid to do it. (April Ulrich Larsen)
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