3 What is bullying?It is one-sided (bad behavior does not go back and forth)Involves a power imbalance (older against younger, group towards individual, popular versus less popular)Repetitive/ongoingIntention to hurt
5 Why do people bully?The bullies have problems; something is bothering themSomeone has bullied them in the pastBecause they can! (No one reported the bad behavior)Poor choices were modeled by othersThey are unable to handle stress or anxietyTo gain powerBrainstorm other possible reasons with the class and add to this list. Feeling of compassion towards the person engaging in bullying behavior.
6 What role do you play? Are you a bully, target or bystander? Bully: Intentionally and repeatedly hurting othersTarget: Being humiliated, hurt, left out (over and over)Passive bystander: Seeing bullying behavior and doing nothing to stop itActive bystander: Standing up for a person who is being treated badlyJust because someone engages in bullying behavior…doesn't’t mean he/she is a bully…remember: ongoing, imbalance of power, intent to harm
7 What can we do? Try not to take it personally (stay calm) Be kind, compassionate and politeReport the bad behaviorAsk: “What’s wrong?”Use words to say:How we feelWhat we do not likePlease stopWhat we will do to be safe
8 Role PlaysScenario: Someone has been refusing to let you play at recess (this has gone on many times) 1) When you ____________________________ 2) I feel ________________________________ 3) I need _______________________________ 4) If this doesn't’t stop, I will have to __________
9 Key PointsWe want to help ourselves, our friends, our community and the person engaging in bullying behaviorBy being silent, we help no oneWe can report to: parents, teachers, educational assistants, school counsellor, principal, vice principal, supervisors, bus drivers, etc.We can help ourselves by being assertive