Presentation on theme: "Winners vs Losers To understand that individuals can control their attitudes and actions by choosing their self-talk (thoughts)"— Presentation transcript:
1 Winners vs LosersTo understand that individuals can control their attitudes and actions by choosing their self-talk (thoughts)
2 Objective:To identify how negative thoughts lead to the loser’s position.To identify how positive thought lead to the winner’s position.To differentiate between winners’ and losers choices.
3 Event + Response = What you get What you get, what happens to you is a result of actions you take.Your actions are a result of your feelings or attitudes.Your feelings or attitudes are a result of your vocabulary, the words you use orally land silently (self-talk).What vocabulary you use is a choice you make
4 Winners vs Losers“Saying that winners choose positive thoughts and self-talk, does not let us know HOW they do that, because we all know that it is not always an easy choice to make.
5 Winners do 3 things:First, they recognize that every situation has a positive and negative aspect.Second, they recognize that there are always more positive aspects than negative.Third, they pick out the positives and concentrate self-talk on these.
6 Winners vs LosersKnowing those three steps, how do you think losers end up in a negative position?”“We are going to examine a few actual situations to see how people go through the steps of choosing the thoughts they will have. These will illustrate how, based on what they think, people end up either losers or winners. We will look twice at each situation; as a loser and then as a winner.”
7 Event + Your Response = What you get (example A) L You and a friend Negative thoughtsO plan to go to the -nothing ever turnsS movie on Fri. out right for me.E -he must not likeR Fri afternoon the me very much.friend calls and -he probably foundsays they aren’t someone else hegoing. wanted to be withto do something.-if I can’t go to themovie tonight Idon’t want to doanything.Feelings-bummed out-negative about self-bothered, irritatedActions-sit around the house -have a bad timeand complain -are in a bad mood-not find something have a boring eveelse fun to do -turned control of your life over tosomeone else
8 Event + Your Resonse = What you get (example A) Positive Thoughts Results:W sometimes plans have a good timeI change are in a good moodN there are lots of have a nice eveN other things I can took control ofE do this eve your lifeR there are other peopleI can be with todo fun stuffFeelings-accepting-positive about self-content-eager about finding a new activityActions-find something else to do-find someone else to do something-enjoy your own company
9 Event + Your Resonse = What you get (example B) Negative Thoughts FeelingsL Your divorced I want my real mom angryO Parent gets & dad to be together frustratedS remarried this will never hurtE work out resentfulR You now live in I’ll be left out left outa new family I am not going neglectedw/ a stepparent to like this new unhappy& stepbrothers family&stepsistersActions-withdraw from new family-not cooperative w/ new family-not friendly toward new family members-get in a lot of trouble at home-live in a family with a lot of strife and stress-are preoccupied w/ negative thoughts about your family situation & that drains your energy-don’t feel good about yourself & that keeps you from getting on with your life
10 Event + Your Resonse = What you get (example B) Positive Thoughts Results:W I understand my are not always in troubleI real parents made have an easier life at homeN a choice not to live live in a family thatN together anymore gets along better &E I wonder how we can there is less fightingR all work together - have positive thoughts-I don’t know this new about your family situationfamily very well so you have more energy& can focus that energyin ways that will help youFeelings feel good about yourself-acceptance & that allows you to get on-calm with your life-open-minded-content-cheerful-positiveActions-participate in new family-cooperative with new family-friendly toward new family members
11 Group ActivityGet into groups of two and complete the situation sheet.Fill out front and back.Then share with group.