Presentation on theme: "Talking With Youth Listening with your heart Bob Lewis Sue Badeau Permanent Family Connections."— Presentation transcript:
Talking With Youth Listening with your heart Bob Lewis Sue Badeau Permanent Family Connections
& Workshop Introduction This is an interactive workshop Youth development Permanence Is … Looking at the Issues Thinking about a specific youth Identifiable Tasks Public media & other Recruitment Practice Exercise Wrap-up
& Youth Development for Success Power Competence Usefulness Belonging
& Permanence is everyones job 1.Permanence is for All Youth 2.Permanence Can Be Created 3.Permanence is for Now 4.Permanence is for The Future
& Permanence is for the future Terry, 19, college JD, 20, grandchildren Peggys daughter, 34, jail Lus son, 16, RTC THINK AHEAD 5,10,20 YEARS
& Permanence can be created The highest level of physical, legal and emotional safety and security for each youth within a family relationship.
& Permanence Can Be Created A parent or two – A parenting relationship with at least one adult Intent – a mutual understanding that this relationship is intended to last forever Unconditional commitment on the part of the adult Participation of all parties in the relationship Lifelong and mutual support and involvement Intimacy & Belonging ICBSICBS
& Range of legal connections Adoption Guardianship Custody Legal Name Change Other Permanent Living Arrangement Adoption deferred to adulthood
& Comparing legal permanence Birth parents rights Caregiver Rights Legal Documentation Decision Making for Child/ren Relationship with the Birth Parent/s Financial Assistance Eligibility for Medicaid Childs Legal Name Inheritance Returning a Child
& Power Competence Usefulness Belonging Youth Development for Success
& Identify the Accessible Time/Place The office? On the phone? Whos there in the living space? Preparing the ground around Plant the seeds Make opportunities. All the time & everywhere
& Listen with Respect Listen beyond the words Repeat actions and messages of empowerment Allow for disagreement without triggering oppositional behavior Find areas of agreement Dont expect full buy-in Keep at it
& Know Your Goal and Focus Talk softly and often about family connection. Present thoughts and ideas for them to consider in their media. Partialize the process to the point of acceptance. Imagine and help the youth imagine a family connection. Dont expect them to take all the risks. Go over it again.
& Using the Media
& And Your Teens View … What has been his/her experience of removal and re-removal? How has s/he experienced the system? Does s/he have any fears of rejection? What messages of independent living has s/he received? What is his/her concept of family, and family relationships? Keep thinking about it.
& Preparing for Family Living Deinstitutionalization Mutual responsibilities in family living Teaching the art of asking questions PTSD Remembered relationships Fantasized relationships Hopes and dreams Fear of rejection Keep teaching about family experiences
& Identifying a Youths Network Record search Asking the youth Eco-map/Genogram Remembered people Asking around Keep looking
& Preparing a Youth for Publicity And other youth-specific family recruitment Describe the event Explain your role & the youths Prepare: role play, practice Debrief immediately Stay in touch; continue to follow up
& Engaging the Youths Network Youth involvement Invitations Meetings Follow up and follow up
& Maya & PJ Exercise
& Persist There is no reason to stop. Weave it into the fabric of your work: whatever else youre doing, youre working on permanence. Have a plan with each youth in your caseload. Start with a broad plan and get specific in each case. Return to the broadest focus when necessary. Focus x Competence x Passion = Adherence