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Tobin Bakkedahl Professional School Counselor October 2013
Provide knowledge, practical application and resources to educators who work with the LGBTQIA community. Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Questioning Intersexed Allies
What do you think caused your heterosexuality? When and how did you first decide you were heterosexual? Could it be a phase and you will grow out of it? If you have never had an intimate relationship with the same sex how do you know you wouldn’t prefer it? Who have you told? How did they react? Why are you always flaunting your heterosexuality? Most child molesters are heterosexual men, is it safe to expose your children to these people?
9 million Americans self-identify as LGBT (The Williams Institute, 2011) Attended Supporting Students, Saving Lives Conference in February Unwelcoming educational environments Uncomfortable topic for educators Support educators in systemic change National recognition vs. local districts DOMA
10% identify or have important LGBT people in their lives 4 times more likely to attempt suicide 8 times more likely to attempt suicide with highly rejecting families 62%-89% frequently heard derogatory remarks at school 61% felt unsafe at school because of orientation 20% to 40% of homeless youth identify as LGBT www.fortytonone.org www.fortytonone.org
Not well understood Greater acceptance of biological vs. choice Reparative or conversion therapy Ineffective Potentially harmful Not a result of trauma or abuse Existence around the world and throughout time Identification of the community is a modern development
How do you validate/mirror something you can’t see?
Heterosexism Limited validation of identity, values, challenges Validation and mirroring Important in self esteem Self-identity Disassociation is effect of targeted trauma Compounded when LGBT person of color Internalized Homophobia Denial, self hate, dislike of same sex attraction Contaminates identify formation How might you recognize this?
Self-Disclosure Come out or identify Null-Environment Talk! Educate Heteronormativity “Normal” social activity, modern shift Heterosexual roles romanticized vs. sexualized Heterosexism Superiority Rights and privileges denied Oppression Orientation doesn’t cause depression, homophobia does.
Welcoming, safe, and inclusive school climate Encourage policies that include sexual orientation, gender identity and gender expression Establish a Gay Straight Club (GSA) Develop comprehensive staff development Free from www.nea.orgwww.nea.org Include LGBT people and topics in curriculum In-depth training for specialty staff Unlock key LGBT websites from firewall
Be a visible ally and identify other allies www.glsen.org www.glsen.org Human Rights Campaign Identify outside school resources www.thetrevorproject.com www.thetrevorproject.com www.itgetsbetter.org www.itgetsbetter.org Be the GSA advisor www.gsanetwork.org www.gsanetwork.org Share relevant data with administration for PD Include LGBT Individual/Family books in library Use all inclusive language Get involved in your community
Be yourself, be sincere Use terms the student uses Respect confidentiality Deal with feelings first Be supportive Anticipate confusion Help but don’t force Don’t guess Offer to help Be aware of depression Use role playing for societal situations Provide accurate sexual health information Be informed when making referrals