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Understanding Interpersonal Communication
What commonly happen in interpersonal communication? Misunderstanding. Describe a personal experience in which a miscommunication occurred. – Why did the miscommunication occur? – How might the miscommunication have been avoided? – Was the miscommunication resolved? If so, how? If not, what could be done now to resolve it?
Avoiding miscommunications Situation 1. Listeners assume they understand what speakers mean, when, in fact, the speakers had intended a completely different meaning from what was understood. Solution: Just ask. I dont understand the message. I had better ask some questions about it.
Situation 2. Listeners did not make efforts to look beyond speakers actual words to find out what they mean. Example: Donna was level-headed and giddy. Donna was tiny but so large that everyone admired her.
Giddy: – O.E.: gidig "insane, mad, stupid, possessed by a spirit" – Proto-Germanic language: guthigaz "god possessed" – Nowadays: "having a confused, swimming sensation" Silly: – O.E.: gesælig "happy" (related to sæl "happiness") – West Germanic language: sæligas "happy, "good, kindhearted, "blessed, happy, blissful – Nowadays: foolish, showing little thought or judgment Large: – Old French: large "broad, wide" – Latin: "abundant, copious, plentiful, liberal generous – Nowadays: "extensive, big"
Donna was level-headed and giddy. Donna was level-headed and enthusiastic. Donna was tiny but so large that everyone admired her. Donna was tiny but so generous that everyone admired her. The examples might be too radical, but they show how important for listeners to look beyond a speakers actual words.
Situation 3. Listeners jump to conclusion too soon and blame their misunderstandings on speakers without first finding out their actual intentions. Solution: Insufficient information is usually the reason why listeners draw incorrect conclusions. So observe, hear, and read before making a conclusion!
There are three possible broad approaches to the conduct of interpersonal relations. The first is to consider ones self only and rode roughshod over others. The second is always to put others before ones self. The third approach is the golden mean. The individual places himself first but take others into account. (1915 – 1997) Joseph Wolpe
Interpersonal Communication Styles Aggressive style Submissive style Assertive style styleCharacteristic AggressiveIm important. You are not. SubmissiveIm not important. You are. AssertiveWere both important.
Example: A smoker asks if you object to his/her smoking in your car. You are allergic to smoke. Example: You are net in line at a checkout counter and are in a hurry to leave. Somebody says, Excuse me, Im late for an important meeting. May I go ahead of you? Practice Being Assertive! Role play !!
Direct & Indirect Communication Style State your feelings clearly and directly Hint at what you want (beat around the bush) Phrasing needs and wants as questions can lead to confusion and misunderstanding. People will take your request much more seriously if you express them using a direct and assertive interpersonal communication style.
Practice Being Direct! Think of five situations in which you are reluctant to speak up or take action. Rank them from 1 (the most difficult) to 5 (the least difficult). – Saying no to a friends request. – Calling attention to an overcharge in a bill. – Asking a friend to return money he/she borrowed. In group, discuss the situations you wrote down and how you would like to respond to each other. Role play !!