2 Stack the Deck! WITHOUT talking or showing your card to anyone - get into groups of the same card suit. Then once in your suit groups, get in order from highest to lowest (ace can be high or low)
3 How do we communicate?!What are different modes of communication we use?VerbalWords, tone, inflectionNon-VerbalHand gestures, eyes, body movements, facial expressions, distance zones, silence, postureWrittenText, symbols, stories, alphabet, directions
4 What percent of our communication to others is based on each? The 3 levels of communication:What we actually say (vocabulary)How we say it (vocal inflection)Non-verbal communications (body language)
5 How We Really Communicate 7% of what we communicate is based on vocabulary 38% of what we communicate is based on voice Inflections 55% of what we communicate is based on nonverbal behavior
6 Daily CommunicationOn average, on a daily basis you spend _______ % of your waking hours communicating to others.What percent do you spend communicating via:Reading _______%Writing _______%Talking _______%Listening _______%
7 Are you surprised by these estimates of how people spend time communicating?
8 Non-Verbal Communication “O.K” In some Middle Eastern countries the okay sign signifies the evil eye.This gesture can be taken as highly vulgar“Pointing” with your finger is rude in so many countries it's probably wise just to abandon the gesture altogether overseas.
9 Non-Verbal Communication Slurping your soup - or indeed your coffee or tea - indicates you're enjoying the meal.“The Dog Call”This hand gesture could get you arrested in Philippines
10 Non-Verbal Communication The “victory sign” is considered to be rude in Italy and if you are showing the back of your hand with your fingers forming 'V', then it is an insult.The “Corna” Historically means “cuckold” (or rather, “your wife is cheating on you”), and its origins are possibly dating back to Ancient Greece
11 Do YOU Understand? -Richard Nixon “I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I am not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant!”-Richard Nixon
12 The Listening DilemmaWe speak at a rate of about 150 words per minute (wpm)But we can hear at a rate of about 1,000 wpmThis gives us a lot of extra time!What do we do with this time?!
13 Listening Tips• Paraphrase the message to the speaker in order to confirm your understanding. • Repeat the message to help you remember what was said. • Probe for missing information. • Clarify any points that you might not completely understand. • Remember the important points of the message for future application.
14 Seven Levels of Listening Not listening: Not paying attention to or ignoring theother person’s communications.2. Pretend listening: Acting like or giving the impression that you are paying attention to another person’s communications, but in actuality not really paying attention to that individual.3. Partially listening: Only focusing on part of the other person’s communication or only giving it your divided attention.4. Focused listening: Giving the other person your undivided attention to his or her communication.
15 Seven Levels of Listening 5. Interpretive listening: Going beyond just paying attention but really trying to understand what the other person is communicating.6. Interactive listening: Being involved in the communications byasking clarifying questions or acknowledging understanding of the communication.7. Engaged listening: Being fully engaged in communicationsinvolves listening to the other person’s views, feelings, interpretations, values, etc. In engaged listening, both parties are given the opportunity to fully express their views, feelings, and ideas.
17 Train Story… Why might you have focused on the wrong criteria while listening to this story?*Often our assumptions cause us to focus onthe wrong things when we communicate with othersWe need to keep an open mindabout what message the communicator might be trying to conveyTrain Story…
18 The Laws of ForgettingWe forget 50% of what we hear immediately. We forget 75% of what we hear within two months. Of the 25% we do remember, only 60% is correct, plus we add things that were never said in the first place!
19 Q and A Example: Answer: Poke. Poke. Poke. I am going to give you 4 questions to answer.*Each time you answer you will say the answer three times in a row*Example:You carry your lunch in a ___ ___ ___Answer: Poke. Poke. Poke.* Poke= Old term used to describe a bagThe other answers will be more obvious.
21 -People answer “yoke” to the last question because it rhymes with the other answers and seems to fit in the pattern. -We need to be careful that we don’t always fall into this trap when communicating with others. Sometimes we think something is correct because it seems to fit a pattern. -We make assumptions and begin to listen less and just answer based off of prior knowledge and expectations.
22 Voice Inflictions or Emphasis “We are not going to take a test today”Statement indicating surprise2. Statement of factStatement indicating that we will be doingsomething other than taking a test today4. Statement indicating some other group will be taking a test today5. Statement indicating we absolutely will not be taking a test today6. Statement indicating that we will have more than one test today
23 Leadership Skills! What traits make a GREAT leader?!
25 Three basic principles of leadership are: Knowing Being Doing Knowing - You must know - yourself, how change occurs, and how others view things differently than you do. Being - You must be - ethical, principled, open, caring, and inclusive. Doing - You must act - in socially responsible ways, consistently and congruently, as a participant in a community and on your commitments and passions
26 Leadership SkillsEffective Communicator – Listens and responds in a precise and non-judgmental mannerCritical Thinker – Can apply reason, cause and effect, and extend thinking “outside the box”Personable – Can get along well with othersEthical – makes choices based on moral integrityDecisive- Can make decisions in a timely and reliable mannerReflective- Learns from mistakes and can make progress with change
27 Great leaders are supposed to have GREAT critical thinking skills…Let’s put those written communication, reasoning and critical thinking skills to test…
28 Wedding Riddle Who is the: Bride: ______________________________ The best man is the brother of the usher.The best man and the bridesmaid went to college with the groom.The usher went into the army after high school.Ann’s college roommate took Sally to a family reunion in August.Steve and Jerry had to give up going on their fraternity Spring Break trip to attend the wedding.Dan and Steve’s mother attended the wedding, but didn’t sit with her sons.Who is the:Bride: ______________________________Bridesmaid: ______________________________Groom: ______________________________Best Man: ______________________________Usher: ______________________________
29 Riddle Me This What do you bring to a table to cut, but never eat? Is it legal for a man from New Jersey to marry his widow’s sister? Why or why not?What is not inside or outside a house, yet no house would be complete without it?A clerk in the butcher shop is 6 feet ten inches tall. What does he weigh?3. A man and a dog were walking down the street. The man rode, yet walked. What was the dog's name?5. How do you make "seven" even?