Presentation on theme: "Addressing Fatherhood with Men Who Batter"— Presentation transcript:
1 Addressing Fatherhood with Men Who Batter Melissa Scaia, John Downing, and Laura Connelly– Advocates for Family PeaceScott Miller – Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs
2 History of working with men who batter and addressing fatherhood
3 Fatherhood GoalsGoal for the curriculum: Add curricula and sessions to BIP programming that focuses on men as fathers and parenting partnersCommunity / Systemic Goal: Every man who uses supervised visitation and exchange for battering will also participate in the IPMF
4 Goal for the development of this curriculum: To help end violence against women and children by motivating men to become better fathers (or father figures) and more supportive parenting partners.
5 Introduction to the beliefs about men who batter and fatherhood Most men who batter are fathersMost of the men have developed belief systems similar to their own fathersLast 30 years, BIPs have developed around the country to address men’s violence against womenVery little time has been spent on men as fathers and as co-parents/parallel-parentsGreater empathy by men toward their children’s experiences of the violence than toward their partners’ experiences
6 Why Should We Focus on Fathers? Most men who batter have some level of contact with their children Many battered mothers report that their abusers purposefully involve children in violent events (Edelson, 2006).
7 Men who batter systematically undermine and interfere with battered mothers’ parenting in multiple ways (Bancroft, 2002). The violence perpetrated in the home is used to control the behavior of the other members in the family. Battered women want their children to have “safe” contact with the father.
8 On average, children exposed to adult domestic violence exhibit more difficulties than those not exposed. The difficulties can vary in range and extremity in behavioral and emotional functioning and cognitive functioning and attitudes (Edleson, 2006). Most men in a batterers intervention program (BIP) are fathers. Many men who batter are visiting parents in a supervised visitation center.
9 History of the Fathering After Violence (FAV) Project AFFP was chosen as a pilot site by the Family Violence Prevention Fund as part of the Safe Havens: Supervised Visitation and Safe Exchange grant program of OVWFacilitators’ experiences in groups with men who have been abusiveBlandin Foundation, Northland Foundation, Minneapolis Foundation and Bush Foundation FundingResearch, Focus Groups, and Interviews
10 A Shared Understanding of Domestic Violence Theory and Fatherhood
11 A Shared Understanding: The Blueprint for Safety Adhere to an interagency approach and collective intervention goalsBuild attention to the context and severity of abuse into each interventionRecognize that most domestic violence is a patterned crime requiring continuing engagement with victims and offendersEnsure sure and swift consequences for continued abuseUse the power of the criminal justice system to send messages of help and accountabilityAct in ways that reduce unintended consequences and the disparity of impact on victims and offenders
12 A Shared Understanding (cont’d) Men's use of violence towards their current/ex- partner should be considered when determining access to their children.All intervention practices must reflect an understanding of the interdependence of mother's and children's safety.
13 Theoretical Framework for understanding fathering by men who batter Men who batter parent differently than other fathers and systematically undermine and interfere with battered mothers’ parenting in multiple ways (Bancroft, 2002).Most battered women want the children to have contact with the father – as long as it is safe for the children.Our culture closely ties fatherhood to dominance and strengthMen who batter often believe that the children’s mother and children should provide unquestioning compliance.Most men who batter to do not believe that if they have harmed the mother that they have harmed the children
14 Why Does Domestic Violence Happen? Diagnosable pathologiesIt’s the relationship isn’t it?Lenora Walker’s Cycle of ViolenceMaintaining a system of dominance
15 Diagnosable Pathology The offender’s violence is explained through the diagnosisThe focus is the individual rather than social constructionTherapy, chemical dependency treatment or parenting evaluations and treatment
16 It’s the Relationship Isn’t It? The violence is a product of each person’s choicesInterventions could be couple’s therapy, family therapy, and/or parent/child therapy.
17 The Cycle of Violence Psychological explanation for domestic violence tension-buildingexplosionhoneymoonSince anger is the driving force, managing it becomes the intervention. Child management techniques to address anger with children.
18 System of Dominance System of power and control tactics Includes: Physical violenceSexual violenceOther tactics on Power and Control WheelMen battering their family is socially constructedNeed to balance power differential by using power of the stateDomestic Abuse Intervention Programs
19 Men’s vs. Women’s Use of Violence Types of violence usedIntent of violenceImpact of the violenceAddressing parenting
24 Learning Critical Dialogue: The Impact of My Parents on Me Triad groups – learn from each other; ask questions to have a deeper understanding; practice dialogue
25 Not a “parenting” curriculum and addressing fatherhood work with men who batter
26 Not a parenting curriculum Traditional parenting curriculum seeks to provide parents with skills to parent children as circumstances arise (child management techniques) and to increase men’s knowledge of stages of “normal” child developmentKnowing child development stages + entitlement WILL STILL EQUAL = batteringThis curriculum focuses on the entitlement that men have in relationships to their children and the children’s mother as a parenting partnerIntended to be incorporated into and/or with a BIP
27 Example of Missy and Scott If Randy’s beliefs aren’t non-violent, then any skill taught will be used with entitlement and violent beliefs behind it
28 Coordinating a Response to Fathers Who Batter When are parenting skills classes appropriate? What are the risks? What beliefs does a father need to implement skills? Who should skills programs be connected to?
29 The Four Themes of the Fatherhood Work with Men Who Batter from curriculum “Addressing Fatherhood with Men Who Batter”Theme One: Examining Men’s Own Childhood Experiences with their Father Theme Two: The Impact and Effects of Men’s Abusive Behaviors on their Children Theme Three: Becoming a Child-Centered Father Theme Four: Examining How Men Can Be Respectful and Non-abusive of Their Children’s Mother and of the Mother-Child Relationship
30 Fatherhood Log Addresses each theme 1) Childhood experiences with your own father2) Impact of your children and your children’s mother3) Becoming a more nurturing, child-centered father4) Respecting and supporting the woman as a parenting partner
31 Implementing practice, philosophy, and principles with men who batter as fathers
32 Written Curriculum, DVD, and future Trainings Written curriculum, “Addressing Fatherhood with Men Who Batter” = $100Written by Melissa Scaia, MPA, Laura Connelly, and John DowningForward by: Ellen Pence, PhDEdited by: John Connelly, Scott Miller, and Jane SaduskyDVD = $125Four vignettes911 callPurchase Curriculum and DVD at:or
33 Contact informationAdvocates for Family Peace1611 NW 4th StreetGrand Rapids, MN 55744Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs202 East Superior StreetDuluth, MN 55802
34 ResourcesMending the Sacred Hoop Battered Women’s Justice Project Domestic Abuse Intervention Project Praxis International Advocates for Family Peace