4 Men’s Experience of Violence Men tend to have a different experience and understanding of violence than do womenThe impact of activists efforts to understand the dynamics of violence has meant broadening the definition of what is violent
6 Why Men Choose to be Violent A lack of identification with the victim.A perception of the situation as one that calls for violence.A decision to act violentlyThe means of doing harm to the other person.
10 Continuum of sexual Violence Threat/level of violenceSexism Gender Sexual Coerced/ Stranger Gang RapeHarassment Harassment Forced “sex” Rape Rape Murder*Based on the work of Rus Ervin Funk, Reaching Men: Strategies forPreventing Sexist Attitudes, Behavior and Violence (2006).
11 The Context… Collective impact Sexism as the core… How men’s violence (and the threat of men’s violence) impact all womenHow all men benefit from the violence that some men perpetrateSexism as the core…
12 Putting it into practice Prevention educationLeadership developmentBystander intervention and supportOrganizational level interventionCommunity organizingPolicy advocacy
14 Being Male and a “Man:“the important fact of men’s lives is not that they are biological males, but that they become men. Our sex may be male, but our identity as men is developed through a complex process of interaction with the culture in which we learn the gender scripts, and modify those scripts to make them more palatable.”Michael Kimmel and Michael Messner, 1989
15 3 Core Dimensions of Manhood How men handle life (Active and Achievement)independent, competitiveHow men handle others (dominant)aggressive, powerful, boastfulI would add competitiveHow men handle emotions (“level-headed”)unemotional, self-controlanger as men’s only allowed/supported emotion(Michael Cicone & Diane Ruble, 1976)
16 Being a “Man”What Men are CalledWhat’s Done to Men“Man Up”
21 What’s effective Gender and Context Matter! Utilize the Prevention FrameworkDefine specific groups of men to engageClarify your reason for asking this man(or group of men) to be engagedIdentify what “engagement” means (i.e. what we want them to do)Clarify roles for men in your agency/community?
29 Why do you want this man? Combating male defensiveness What is his point of entrée?What are the next steps beyond this point of entrée that are accessible to him?What supports does he need to take those next steps?Is if okay if he doesn’t?
30 If you had a group of men who were engaged and ready to work… What would you have them do???
31 What Men Can do (Michael Flood, 2011) Behave NonviolentlyTaking individual actionJoin Collective Efforts
55 And finally…What experience do men have in following women’ s leadership?What experience do women have in providing leadership to men?1) Men tend to define and experience leadership differently than women.2) Imagine women coaching men’s college or pro teams