1. True Men & True Women are physical signs of an invisible reality. Lecture 3: Biblical Masculinity and Femininity: www.prshockley.org

2. Outline: I.True Masculinity II.True Femininity III.Harmony of God-Given Sexuality

3. A Real Man is a True Man: Ephesians 5; 2 Timothy 2:4; Matt. 11:29 1. He realizes that he is ultimately responsible to God for the way he conducts and leads. 2. He is created to the head, provider, protector, lover, and friend. 3. In sum, he is to distinctly reflect the person and activities of Jesus Christ. 4. His true mannishness is actualized to the extent that He represents Jesus Christ (Ephesians 5:21). 5The more Christ is realized in his life, the more his God- given masculinity is manifested. A real man is obedient to Jesus Christ. Created to be heads, providers, protectors, lovers, and friends; you represent Christ! (Eph. 5:21): Men are subject to Christ. The man is the head of the woman just AS Christ is the head of the church. You cant be a real man unless your obedient to Christ. A real man is utterly given to God in his purpose, work, and love. God takes us as we are; A man is made in the image of God, made to serve Him. He is a man under authority.

4. A Real Man is a True Man: Ephesians 5; 2 Timothy 2:4; Matt. 11:29 6. The man is the head of the woman just AS Christ is the head of the church. 7. A real man is utterly given to God in his purpose, work, and love. 8. As we obey Christ, Gods image reflects Him. 9. We are made to serve Him. The more serve Him His ways, the more our designed nature is realized.

5. A Real Man is a True Man: Ephesians 5; 2 Timothy 2:4; Matt. 11:29 10. Ultimate decision a true man needs to make is that that Jesus Christ is his commanding officer: 2 Timothy 2:4. 11.He must be under the authority of Christ in order that his office may fully function. 12. Christ is the head of the church. Just as Jesus is the initiator, provider, and one who sacrifices Himself, men are to do the same. 13.It is a total sacrifice; it is a bloody sacrifice. 14. There will be no success in a marriage without sacrifice.

6. A Real Man is a True Man: Ephesians 5; 2 Timothy 2:4; Matt. 11:29 15.Try to understand your wife: 1 Peter 3:7 16.God didnt make it optional for the man to be the head of the house. 17.Jesus is the first and ultimate archetype 18. What did Joseph do to reveal his mannish character? 19. Taken both Jesus and Joseph together, what type of men are we to be? 20.Just as Jesus didnt abdicate His authority, he became the bond-slave; we are called to be the same thing.

7. A Real Man is a True Man: Ephesians 5; 2 Timothy 2:4; Matt. 11:29 21. Just as Jesus was going to the cross, our job, as men, you wash the feet of our spouse? 22.Joyous acceptance; worshipful obedience. A true man is a real man and a real man mirrors the character of Christ and a true woman is a real woman who mirrors the bride of Christ. Elizabeth Elliott

8. Biblical Femininity: I.Central Passages: 1 Timothy 5:10; Titus 2:3-5 II.Archetypes: A.How is it that Eve is the physical archetype (Genesis 1-3) for femininity? B.How is Mary, mother of Jesus, a spiritual archetype for biblical femininity? 1.How is that Mary was fit to be a mother to Jesus Christ? What qualities of femininity did she possess? 2.Is modesty and humility central characteristics of biblical femininity? (1 Tim. 5:10; Titus 2:3-5) 3.Are these cultural qualities or timeless virtues a woman of God is to follow?

9. A Womans Fulfillment: According to Elizabeth Elliott, a womans fulfillment is found in the acceptance of her design, calling, and giftedness and in her submission to her husband. Submission to Husband: –Why? Because my submission to Christ requires it; –Because of the harmony of differences: He is the operator, and she is the co-operator. He is the initiator and she is the receiver. He reflects Christ and she represents the church. –If it is YOUR will you will not find fulfillment but you will find fulfillment when you follow Gods Will. –The essence of femininity is surrender. The Holy Spirit witnesses to the Son and the Son witnesses to the Father; All are equal, co-substantial, yet the Son submits to the will of the Father and the Holy Spirit submits to the will of Christ; it is functional subordination.

10. 11 Characteristics of True Womanliness: 1 Tim. 5:10; Titus 2:3-5 A faithful marriage Care of Children Hospitality Washing Feet of Gods People Supporting those in Distress Presiding over a home Being reverent in our bearing Not scandalmongers or gossips Not slaves to drink Setting High Standards Schooling Younger Women

11. Schooling Younger Woman means teaching them to be… Loving Wives Loving Mothers TemperateKindChaste Busy at home

12. Masculinity/Femininity as it relates to Sexuality: 1. Biblical attractiveness occurs when we live out our God- giving identities in Gods ways. 2. Delight in our God-given roles. 3. Proper submission to authority. 4. When we are subject to one another out of reverence to Christ. 5.The treatment of the other spouse should be pleasing to God.

13. One Final Thought: Surrender: If you (both genders) will be committed followers of God, following His ways rather than your own, then you will fulfill your God-given roles in a way that will honor Him and bring out your very best.