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1 Mark West Neighborhood Church A Vision for Men’s Ministry• Building the Believer• Equipping the Worker• Reaching the World for Christ“Calling Men into Vital Relationships”
2 What is the Purpose of a Vital Relationship? THE PURPOSE OF A VITAL MENTORING RELATIONSHIP IS FOR MEN TO HELP EACH OTHER BECOME CHRISTLIKE IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP IN A MAN’S LIFE.
3 Why Relationship???!!“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”John 13:34-35 (NIV)It’s pretty hard, if not impossible, to love someone unless you know them…
4 What about Relationships? In spite of the clear biblical mandate to “love one another” (John 13:34-35), most Christian men have very few close friends. Yet many of these men wish they had a brother in Christ whom they could really count on.We are called to committed love relationships with each other (there are more than 50 “one another” scripture references).To build a mentoring relationship requires us to be intentional. It is not easy to do, but it is scriptural and worth the rewards.As men grow relationally and spiritually, they deepen their commitment to Jesus Christ, their family, friends, church and community.
5 What is the Situation?The situation or problem is, even with enormous pressures coming from family, career, health or finances, on a typical weekend, only 1 out of 3 men attend church.During the week, roughly 27 million men read the Bible (other than at church), yet 67 million men do not open God’s Word during the week.George BarnaPresidentBarna Research Group, Ltd.
6 The Situation (continued) Why have so many men made a conscious decision to ignore Christ or His church at the same time they are seeking for meaning, purpose, significance, influence and joy? Our study among the unchurched (those who have not attended a Christian church service during the past six months) sheds light on this question.-George BarnaMost unchurched men believe that involvement with a church does not offer any value to their life.
7 The Situation (continued) As decision-makers in their sphere of influence, most men instinctively conduct a cost-benefit analysis of every opportunity they face. Their objective is to maximize benefits while minimizing costs. Our research shows that a majority of churched men arrive at this same conclusion:-George BarnaParticipation in church life cannot be justified because they perceive that the return on their investment of time, attention and energy is too slim.
8 Men’s Ministry - Definition Effective Men’s Ministry is a life-changing process that produces teams of men intentionally climbing toward spiritual maturity and bringing others with them.
9 Why a Men’s Ministry?“For the equipping of the saints for the work of service, to the building up of the body of Christ; until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a mature man to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ.”Ephesians 4:12-13 (NASB)Want to let the Lord speak directly to us here
10 Ten More Reasons for Men’s Ministry 1. Men are hungry for God.2. Men need authentic brotherhood in Christ.3. Men have valuable spiritual gifts to offer their local church.4. Men are searching for significance5. Men need to take personal responsibility and deal with personal issues.
11 Men need a spiritual mentor to provide a positive role model (the mentor’s age does not matter!). 7. Men need to be accountable to one another.Men need a safe environment to avail male relationships.Men need to learn how to serve and how to actually become foot washers.Men need something worthwhile to do and something meaningful to look forward to.
12 Principles of Men’s Ministry A Ministry focused on relationships, not programsPrinciple #2:A Ministry with clear goalsPrinciple #3:A Ministry for men onlyPrinciple #4:A Pastor-Supported MinistryPrinciple #5:A Ministry led by a core group of menPrinciple #6:A Ministry with flexibility and varietyPrinciple #7:Avoid implementing too much too soon.
13 The Purpose of our Father’s Call Christlike“… to be conformed to the likeness of His Son… the firstborn among many brothers.”Romans 8:28-29Hope–––––––––– LaborersLove–––––––––– Brothers“…we all… are being transformed into His likeness…2 Corinthians 3:18Faith–––––––––– DisciplesThe Cross
14 The Purpose of our Father’s Call (a closer look) (Our nourishing Word)Christlike“We continually remember before our God and Father your work produced by faith, your labor prompted by love, and your endurance inspired by hope in our Lord Jesus Christ.”1 Thessalonians 1:3 (NIV)HopeLaborers Christfor(Building the Body)Brothers ChristinLove(Serving the Body)FaithDisciples Christof(Being equipped by the Body)The Cross(Accept Jesus Christ)“The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few.”Matthew 9:37
15 The Relational Baseball Diamond “Let’s Play Ball!”The Relational Baseball DiamondFirst BaseSecond BaseThird BaseHome PlateBecoming AcquaintancesBuilding FriendshipsBonding as BrothersBeing Christlike(Of course to play, you firsthave to step up to the plate…)
16 “THE RELATIONAL DIAMOND” The process of building vital relationships among men can be likened to a baseball diamond in that there are four phases of development.The process starts as we “step up to the plate” with the desire and determination to become more like Christ.Most of us won’t hit a “home run” in our efforts to form relationships, most men are lucky just to get to first base!There are some guys in the dugout, but there is a whole stadium just watching, let alone the rest of the world.
17 Heading for First Becoming “Acquaintances” Focus on: • Listening to each other (implies we arespending time talking to each other)• Accepting each other• Building trust in the context of sharedexperiences and activities = IMPORTANT!• Identifying and exploring group ideas andestablishing the purpose for meeting together• Confidentiality“Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you…”Romans 15:7
18 Sliding into Second Building “Friendships” Sliding implies friction and getting soiledFocus on: • Discussing ideas & sharing opinions onmen’s subjects (deeper level of communication)• Adjusting to unmet expectations in anhonest and respectful way• Conflict resolution skills• Gaining confidence in one another“Encourage one another and build eachother up…”1 Thessalonians 5:11
19 Rounding Third Base Bonding as “Brothers in Christ” Focus on: • Team building• Worship together• The struggle for moral excellence together• Covenants and accountabilityin small groups“…teach and admonish one another…” Colossians 3:16“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.”Proverbs 27:17
20 Running for Home Being “Christlike” Focus on: • Teamwork• Our “unique contribution”• Using our spiritual gifts in the body• Influencing our world“…serve one another in love.”Galatians 5:13“By your unity the worldwill know that God sent me”John 17:23-24(Ephesians 4:3)
21 How do we Multiply our Effectiveness for Christ?
22 Men’s Ministry Definition Remember our:Men’s Ministry DefinitionEffective Men’s Ministry is a life-changing process that produces teams of men intentionally climbing toward spiritual maturity and bringing others with them.
23 Multiplying our Effectiveness “Stepping Up to the Plate”When:• We begin to face the challenges of life as a “team”• Mutual “accountability” becomes foundational in our lives• We “help” our church• We “reach out” to our peers and the communityThen:• We can multiply our effectiveness and encourage other men to “Step up to the plate,”run the bases, and head for Home.
24 The Challenge We cannot grow by ourselves! Proverbs 3:5-6 We must have the humility and/or courage to get involved with our brothers and stay involved. As our commitment to serve Jesus Christ and the body of believers solidifies, the Holy Spirit will gradually reveal to us what our “unique contribution” is to be which will be affirmed by other brothers. Then, in our own way (but not in our own strength and understanding*), we can participate in what God is doing in the world today as part of a committed team of men.*Trust in the Lord with all of your heart,And do not lean on your own understanding.In all your ways acknowledge (know) Him,And He will make your paths straight.Proverbs 3:5-6
25 It’s true - We have our Father in heaven! Also it’s true that…Every man needs a brother!
26 Why brothers?One of the keys to a man’s growth in Christ is to find men of like heart and become brothers, moving together toward the goal of Christlikeness.Christ died so I might live, I must die so Christ can live in me. *In this age of individualism, men are beginning to realize the importance and need of having brothers who will support, encourage, and hold one another accountable to a Christian model of manhood.“I have been crucified with Christ and I nolonger live, but Christ lives in me.”Galatians 2:20a
27 What does it mean to be a brother in Christ? It’s more than just joining a club or attending some meeting. To be a true brother requires a degree of RELATIONAL INTIMACY (into-me-see) that doesn’t come naturally to most men.The most important thing in any relationship is “communication” which requires time together, which requires commitment to a priority.We can grow deeper in our relationships as we learn to:accept one another as ACQUAINTANCESencourage one another as FRIENDSand exhort one another as BROTHERS
29 How do we face the Challenge of not doing it alone? The Bible teaches that there are RESOURCES available to help us face the challenge!God has given us: • His Spirit• His Word• and one another so we won’t haveto do the job alone.“And the things which you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, these entrust to faithful men, who will be able to teach others also.” Timothy 2:2 (NASB)
30 The Vision…It is important to pursue vital relationships with other brothers which requires commitment and communication. As an example, the Promise Keepers Ministry recognizes the importance of this in their second promise.In our Men’s Ministry we want to recognize our God-given personalities & our spiritual gifts and:• Get together because of Christ• Grow together in Christ• Go forth to serve Christ
31 How does a man get involved? Through Entry Points!It’s important for a Men’s Ministry to focus on “Entry Points.” These are places a man can choose to go for entering into relationships with other guys.
32 “PK Funnels Model for Entry Points” Men’s ConferencesMore Biblical Information Given Men’s Special EventsMore Relational Commitment Men’s Equipping SeminarsMen’s Congregational Gatherings“The 5000”John 6:1-14“The 500”1 Cor 15:4-6Men’s Small GroupsMen dying to self and allowing Jesus Christ to live in them as they relate to: Family Friends Church Community/World“The 120”Acts 1:13-15“The 72”Luke 10:1-24“The 12”Luke 6:12-16
33 Small Groups The Bottom of the Funnel “The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone.”Exodus 18:18b (NIV)
34 Why are “Small Groups” (3-12 men) so important for vital relationships? To foster “spiritual growth” (Acts 2:42)To foster “relational growth” (Hebrews 10:24-25)To provide “emotional support” (1 Thessalonians 5:11)To “stimulate service” (1 Peter 4:10)To relationally “incorporate newcomers”To “develop leadership”7. To provide “clear vision” for a Christian man (Mark 12:30-31 and Matthew 28:19-20)To generate the kind of community that was seen in the early church
35 Seven benefits men will receive by meeting in “Small Groups” It provides opportunity to learn with other men how to live the Christian life.It is a safe place where men learn to express love to others.It is a place where men get to know each other in an atmosphere of love and acceptance.It is a place where men find strength to face trials, changes, and personal decisions.To generate the kind of community that was seen in the early church
36 Seven benefits men will receive by meeting in “Small Groups” (continued) 5. It is a place where men are free to be spiritual.6. It is a place where men can worship and pray together.7. It is a place where men can discover their spiritual gifts in order to serve others.To generate the kind of community that was seen in the early church
37 Some notable quotes… “Aim at nothing, and you’ll hit it every time.” - Howard HendricksProfessor, Dallas Theological Seminary“Our men are theologically pure but relationallybankrupt.” Lee StallingsExecutive Pastor, Campus Baptist Church - Fresno, CA“The atmosphere you create is more important than thecontent you cover.” - Howard HendricksProfessor, Dallas Theological Seminary“It hasn’t been easy. The first few years are tough. Mendon’t see the value of men’s ministry at first. Theirschedules are already full.” - Ross RobinsonMinister of Education, First Baptist Church - Paducah, KY
38 Where do WE GO from here?“Forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”Philippians 3:13b-14 (NASB)
39 PRINCIPLES OF MEN’S MINISTRY WE need to remember the… “the Lighthouse”PRINCIPLES OF MEN’S MINISTRYPrinciple #1:A Ministry focused on relationships, not programsPrinciple #2:A Ministry with clear goalsPrinciple #3:A Ministry for men onlyPrinciple #4:A Pastor-Supported MinistryPrinciple #5:A Ministry led by a core group of menPrinciple #6:A Ministry with flexibility and varietyPrinciple #7:Avoid implementing too much too soon.
40 How do we begin? LET’S GO and have us “step up to the plate” and: “Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain.”Psalm 127:1How do we begin? LET’S GO and have us “step up to the plate” and:PrayDevelop a core leadership “small group”Take a profile of “the men”Develop a purpose/mission statementRemember Principle #7: “Avoid implementing too much too soon.”“ We cannot expect an overnight Men’s Ministry anymore than we can expect to hit a Home Run, it may take years.”
41 Mark West Neighborhood Church A Vision for Men’s Ministry• Building the Believer• Equipping the Worker• Reaching the World for ChristThe End“Calling Men into Vital Relationships”Bert Hartmann (707) October 12, 2001
42 Some Men’s Ministry Ideas… SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION BOOKSDaily Disciplines for the Christian Manby Dr. Bob BeltzThe Man in the Mirrorby Patrick MorleySpirit-Controlled Temperamentby Tim LaHayeACTIVITIESMen’s Breakfasts w/ VideosEvening Men’s Bible StudySpecial OutingsSpecial “Innings” at the ChurchAttend Men’s RetreatPK ConferenceGROUP TEACHING• Five Levels of CommunicationTemperament (Personality) TypesServant LeadershipPrayerNew CovenantSpiritual Gifts
43 The Lord uses an individual man to make a difference! And know and remember…The Lord uses an individual man to make a difference!