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1 Mark West Neighborhood Church Calling Men into Vital Relationships Calling Men into Vital Relationships Building the Believer Equipping the Worker Reaching the World for Christ A Vision for Mens Ministry
2 What is the Purpose of a Vital Relationship? THE PURPOSE OF A VITAL MENTORING RELATIONSHIP IS FOR MEN TO HELP EACH OTHER BECOME CHRISTLIKE IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP IN A MANS LIFE.
3 Why Relationship???!! A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. John 13:34-35 (NIV) Its pretty hard, if not impossible, to love someone unless you know them…
4 What about Relationships? In spite of the clear biblical mandate to love one another (John 13:34-35), most Christian men have very few close friends. Yet many of these men wish they had a brother in Christ whom they could really count on. We are called to committed love relationships with each other (there are more than 50 one another scripture references). To build a mentoring relationship requires us to be intentional. It is not easy to do, but it is scriptural and worth the rewards. As men grow relationally and spiritually, they deepen their commitment to Jesus Christ, their family, friends, church and community.
5 What is the Situation? The situation or problem is, even with enormous pressures coming from family, career, health or finances, on a typical weekend, only 1 out of 3 men attend church. During the week, roughly 27 million men read the Bible (other than at church), yet 67 million men do not open Gods Word during the week. George Barna President Barna Research Group, Ltd.
6 The Situation (continued) Why have so many men made a conscious decision to ignore Christ or His church at the same time they are seeking for meaning, purpose, significance, influence and joy? Our study among the unchurched (those who have not attended a Christian church service during the past six months) sheds light on this question. -George Barna Most unchurched men believe that involvement with a church does not offer any value to their life.
7 The Situation (continued) As decision-makers in their sphere of influence, most men instinctively conduct a cost-benefit analysis of every opportunity they face. Their objective is to maximize benefits while minimizing costs. Our research shows that a majority of churched men arrive at this same conclusion: -George Barna Participation in church life cannot be justified because they perceive that the return on their investment of time, attention and energy is too slim.
8 Mens Ministry - Definition Effective Mens Ministry is a life- changing process that produces teams of men intentionally climbing toward spiritual maturity and bringing others with them.
9 For the equipping of the saints for the work of service, to the building up of the body of Christ; until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a mature man to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ. Ephesians 4:12-13 (NASB) Why a Mens Ministry?
10 Ten More Reasons for Mens Ministry 1. Men are hungry for God. 2. Men need authentic brotherhood in Christ. 3. Men have valuable spiritual gifts to offer their local church. 5. Men need to take personal responsibility and deal with personal issues. 4. Men are searching for significance
11 9.Men need to learn how to serve and how to actually become foot washers. 8.Men need a safe environment to avail male relationships. 7. Men need to be accountable to one another. 6.Men need a spiritual mentor to provide a positive role model (the mentors age does not matter!). 10. Men need something worthwhile to do and something meaningful to look forward to.
12 Principles of Mens Ministry Principle #1: A Ministry focused on relationships, not programs Principle #7: Avoid implementing too much too soon. Principle #6: A Ministry with flexibility and variety Principle #5: A Ministry led by a core group of men Principle #4: A Pastor-Supported Ministry Principle #3: A Ministry for men only Principle #2: A Ministry with clear goals
13 The Purpose of our Fathers Call The Cross Christlike Love Faith Hope–––––––––– Laborers … we all… are being transformed into His likeness… 2 Corinthians 3:18 –––––––––– Brothers –––––––––– Disciples … to be conformed to the likeness of His Son… the firstborn among many brothers. Romans 8:28-29
14 The Purpose of our Fathers Call (a closer look) The Cross Christlike Love Faith Hope Laborers Christ Brothers Christ Disciples Christ We continually remember before our God and Father your work produced by faith, your labor prompted by love, and your endurance inspired by hope in our Lord Jesus Christ. 1 Thessalonians 1:3 (NIV) (Being equipped by the Body) (Serving the Body) (Building the Body) The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few. Matthew 9:37 (Accept Jesus Christ) of in for (Our nourishing Word)
15 The Relational Baseball Diamond First Base Second Base Third Base Home Plate Becoming Acquaintances Lets Play Ball! Lets Play Ball! Being Christlike Bonding as Brothers Building Friendships (Of course to play, you first have to step up to the plate…) have to step up to the plate…)
The process of building vital relationships among men can be likened to a baseball diamond in that there are four phases of development. THE RELATIONAL DIAMOND There are some guys in the dugout, but there is a whole stadium just watching, let alone the rest of the world. Most of us wont hit a home run in our efforts to form relationships, most men are lucky just to get to first base! The process starts as westep up to the plate with the desire and determination to become more like Christ.
17 Heading for First Heading for First Becoming Acquaintances Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you… Romans 15:7 Confidentiality Focus on: Listening to each other (implies we are spending time talking to each other) Accepting each other Building trust in the context of shared experiences and activities = IMPORTANT! Identifying and exploring group ideas and establishing the purpose for meeting together
18 Sliding into Second Sliding into Second Building Friendships Gaining confidence in one another Conflict resolution skills Adjusting to unmet expectations in an honest and respectful way Focus on: Discussing ideas & sharing opinions on mens subjects (deeper level of communication) Sliding implies friction and getting soiled Encourage one another and build each other up… 1 Thessalonians 5:11
19 Rounding Third Base Rounding Third Base Bonding as Brothers in Christ …teach and admonish one another… Colossians 3:16 Covenants and accountability in small groups The struggle for moral excellence together Worship together Focus on: Team building As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17
20 Running for Home Running for Home Being Christlike By your unity the world will know that God sent me John 17:23-24 Influencing our world Using our spiritual gifts in the body Our unique contribution Focus on: Teamwork …serve one another in love. Galatians 5:13 (Ephesians 4:3)
21 How do we Multiply our Effectiveness for Christ?
22 Mens Ministry Definition Effective Mens Ministry is a life- changing process that produces teams of men intentionally climbing toward spiritual maturity and bringing others with them. Remember our:
23 Multiplying our Effectiveness Then: Stepping Up to the Plate We can multiply our effectiveness and encourage other men to Step up to the plate, run the bases, and head for Home. We reach out to our peers and the community We help our church Mutual accountability becomes foundational in our lives We begin to face the challenges of life as a teamWhen:
24 The Challenge We cannot grow by ourselves! Trust in the Lord with all of your heart, And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge (know) Him, And He will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6 * We must have the humility and/or courage to get involved with our brothers and stay involved. As our commitment to serve Jesus Christ and the body of believers solidifies, the Holy Spirit will gradually reveal to us what our unique contribution is to be which will be affirmed by other brothers. Then, in our own way (but not in our own strength and understanding*), we can participate in what God is doing in the world today as part of a committed team of men.
25 Its true - We have our Father in heaven! Also its true that… Every man needs a brother!
26 Why brothers? One of the keys to a mans growth in Christ is to find men of like heart and become brothers, moving together toward the goal of Christlikeness. In this age of individualism, men are beginning to realize the importance and need of having brothers who will support, encourage, and hold one another accountable to a Christian model of manhood. Christ died so I might live, I must die so Christ can live in me. * I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. Galatians 2:20a
27 What does it mean to be a brother in Christ? Its more than just joining a club or attending some meeting. To be a true brother requires a degree of RELATIONAL INTIMACY (into-me-see) that doesnt come naturally to most men. accept one another as ACQUAINTANCES encourage one another as FRIENDS and exhort one another as BROTHERS The most important thing in any relationship is communication which requires time together, which requires commitment to a priority. We can grow deeper in our relationships as we learn to:
29 How do we face the Challenge of not doing it alone? The Bible teaches that there are RESOURCES available to help us face the challenge! And the things which you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, these entrust to faithful men, who will be able to teach others also. 2 Timothy 2:2 (NASB) and one another so we wont have to do the job alone. His Word God has given us: His Spirit
30 The Vision… It is important to pursue vital relationships with other brothers which requires commitment and communication. As an example, the Promise Keepers Ministry recognizes the importance of this in their second promise. In our Mens Ministry we want to recognize our God-given personalities & our spiritual gifts and: Go forth to serve Christ Grow together in Christ Get together because of Christ
31 Through Entry Points! Its important for a Mens Ministry to focus on Entry Points. These are places a man can choose to go for entering into relationships with other guys. How does a man get involved?
Men dying to self and allowing Jesus Christ to live in them as they relate to: Family Friends Church Community/World More Relational Commitment More Biblical Information Given PK Funnels Model for Entry Points The 12 Luke 6:12-16 The 72 The 120 The 500 The 5000 Acts 1:13-15 Luke 10: Cor 15:4-6 John 6:1-14 Mens Small Groups Mens Congregational Gatherings Mens Equipping Seminars Mens Special Events Mens Conferences
33 Small Groups Small Groups The Bottom of the Funnel The work is too heavy for you; you cannot handle it alone. Exodus 18:18b (NIV)
34 Why are Small Groups (3-12 men) so important for vital relationships? 1.To foster spiritual growth (Acts 2:42) 2.To foster relational growth (Hebrews 10:24-25) 3.To provide emotional support (1 Thessalonians 5:11) 4.To stimulate service (1 Peter 4:10) 5.To relationally incorporate newcomers 6.To develop leadership 7. To provide clear vision for a Christian man (Mark 12:30-31 and Matthew 28:19-20)
35 Seven benefits men will receive by meeting in Small Groups 1.It provides opportunity to learn with other men how to live the Christian life. 2.It is a safe place where men learn to express love to others. 3.It is a place where men get to know each other in an atmosphere of love and acceptance. 4.It is a place where men find strength to face trials, changes, and personal decisions.
36 Seven benefits men will receive by meeting in Small Groups (continued) 5. It is a place where men are free to be spiritual. 6. It is a place where men can worship and pray together. 7. It is a place where men can discover their spiritual gifts in order to serve others.
37 Some notable quotes… Aim at nothing, and youll hit it every time. - Howard Hendricks Professor, Dallas Theological Seminary It hasnt been easy. The first few years are tough. Men dont see the value of mens ministry at first. Their schedules are already full. - Ross Robinson Minister of Education, First Baptist Church - Paducah, KY The atmosphere you create is more important than the content you cover. - Howard Hendricks Professor, Dallas Theological Seminary Our men are theologically pure but relationally bankrupt. - Lee Stallings Executive Pastor, Campus Baptist Church - Fresno, CA
38 Where do WE GO from here? Forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:13b-14 (NASB)
39 PRINCIPLES OF MENS MINISTRY Principle #1: A Ministry focused on relationships, not programs Principle #2: A Ministry with clear goals Principle #3: A Ministry for men only Principle #4: A Pastor-Supported Ministry Principle #5: A Ministry led by a core group of men Principle #6: A Ministry with flexibility and variety Principle #7: Avoid implementing too much too soon. WE need to remember the… the Lighthouse
40 Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain. 1.Pray 2.Develop a core leadership small group 3.Take a profile of the men 4.Develop a purpose/mission statement 5.Remember Principle #7:Avoid implementing too much too soon. Psalm 127:1 How do we begin? LETS GO and have us step up to the plate and: We cannot expect an overnight Mens Ministry anymore than we can expect to hit a Home Run, it may take years.
41 Mark West Neighborhood Church Calling Men into Vital Relationships Building the Believer Equipping the Worker Reaching the World for Christ A Vision for Mens Ministry Bert Hartmann (707) October 12, 2001 The End
42 Some Mens Ministry Ideas… GROUP TEACHING Five Levels of Communication Temperament (Personality) Types Servant Leadership Prayer New Covenant Spiritual Gifts SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION BOOKS Daily Disciplines for the Christian Man by Dr. Bob Beltz The Man in the Mirror by Patrick Morley Spirit-Controlled Temperament by Tim LaHaye ACTIVITIES Mens Breakfasts w/ Videos Evening Mens Bible Study Special Outings Special Innings at the Church Attend Mens Retreat PK Conference
43 The Lord uses an individual man to make a difference! And know and remember…