2IntroductionBehaviour that is considered “good manners” varies depending on the culture and the setting you are in. Manners appropriate in a family setting will differ from those used in a business setting or a formal setting.The following slide show will outline dining etiquette for both formal and informal situations.
3Table MannersGood manners are used to show consideration and respect for others.Learning good manners will enable you to feel comfortable, more confident and relaxed in any situation. As with any skill, developing good table manners comes with practice.
4Appearance and Hygiene Come to the table neat and clean.Wash your hands before coming to the table for a meal.Do not comb your hair or apply make-up at the dining table.
5Table Conduct: Being Seated Come to the table when the meal is ready.Allow your elders to precede you.Wait for all who are dining to arrive at the table then wait for a signal from the host or hostess to be seated.People should seat themselves from the left side of the chair; assist those who need assistance in being seated.
6Table Conduct: Use of Napkins Place the napkin in your lap as soon as you are seated.Your napkin should be used to blot your mouth lightly and to wipe your fingers as necessary.If you cough, sneeze, or need to blow your nose, use a tissue rather than the napkin. It is polite to leave the table if you have a long bout of coughing.Excuse yourself and find the washroom if you need to blow your nose.
7Table Conduct: Use of Napkins The napkin should remain in your lap throughout the meal. If you leave the table for any reason during the meal, place the napkin on the seat of your chair. At the end of the meal, leave the napkin to the left of your plate. It need not be refolded, but should be neat.If you spill anything, use your napkin to mop up the spill. If the spill is large or very messy, seek the assistance of you host.
8Table Conduct: General Behaviour While waiting to be served, keep your hands in your lap.Sit straight; do not slump. Elbows should be kept off the table until after the meal. While eating, keep your elbows near your sides.Be polite. Contribute appropriately to the conversation so that the meal is a pleasant experience for all present.
9Table Conduct: Table Service One goal of food service is to create an enjoyable dining experience for all present. This may be accomplished by serving food that is attractive and appetizing. Proper table service will also enhance the dining experience.
10Table Conduct: Table Service In a formal setting, proper table service follows several basic principles.The server will place individual servings in front of you. The server will serve all food from your left, using the left hand and clear from your right using the right hand.Beverages will be served from the right.
11Table Conduct: Handling Food In an informal setting, wait for the host to indicate that it is time to begin passing food. If you are the host, you are expected to start first.You may serve yourself foods that are close to you. Wait or ask politely for other items to be passed to you. Assist those beside you who may need help.When serving yourself, take only the amount of food that you will eat. Do not take more than your share.
12Table Conduct: Handling Food Unless you are allergic to a food you should take or accept a bit of each food that has been prepared. This is a courtesy to the cook.Unless you are dining with a large group (more than eight people), wait until everyone is served before you begin eating.If you are uncertain about which piece of cutlery to use, follow the lead of your host.
13Table Conduct: Handling Food AppetizersSauces that are served for vegetables, nachos or other appetizers should be spooned onto your own plate for dipping. DO NOT dip your food into the main serving dish, unless individual plates are not provided.If seafood cocktail is served, use the fish fork.If fruit cocktail is served, use the teaspoon provided.Place the used utensil on the plate to be removed and taken to the kitchen.
14Table Conduct: Handling Food Bread or RollsPlace your bread or roll on your bread and butter plate, if one is provided. If pats of butter are provided, transfer one from the butter dish to your plate using the tiny fork supplied. If a block of butter is provided, use the butter knife to place butter on your bread and butter plate.To eat, break off (do not cut) a small, bite-size piece from your bread or roll. Spread butter on that one piece and eat it.The bread and butter plate is used for jam or jelly for rolls, relishes, olives, pickles, and celery.
15Table Conduct: Handling Food SoupSoup is to be eaten quietly and neatly.Wait for hot soup to cool; do not blow on it to cool it off.To eat soup, dip the spoon into the soup, moving the far edge of the spoon away from you. Do not fill your spoon full.Lift the spoon to your lips rather than bending down to the bowl. The arm you are using to eat with should not be resting on the table.
16Table Conduct: Handling Food SoupSip (do not slurp) your soup from the side of the spoon, instead of the tip.When you have finished your soup, do not leave the spoon in the bowl. Instead, place the spoon on the side of the soup plate.
17Table Conduct: Handling Food SaladIf the salad is served as a separate course, before the main course, a salad fork is used. The salad fork is found on the outside of the cutlery setting, to the left of the plate.Salad ForkIf the salad is served as part of the meal, use the dinner fork.
18Table Conduct: Handling Food SaladIf the salad is served as a separate course, after the main course, as is done at formal dinners, the salad fork will be immediately to the left of the plate or may be provided by the server.Salad Fork
19Table Conduct: Handling Food SaladIf ingredients in the salad are too large to eat, cut them with your fork, if possible, or cut the them one piece at a time with the dinner knife.When you are finished eating the salad, position your cutlery across the salad plate, in the “five o’clock position”, with the tines of the fork placed downwards.
20Table Conduct: Handling Food Main CourseThe main course of a meal is also sometimes known as the entrée.Most North Americans eat the main course using what may be called the “zig-zag” method.We cut our food then set the knife down on the edge of the plate. (Note that you should not set the knife on the table nor should you “bridge” the plate and table with the knife.) We then transfer the fork to the dominant hand to eat.
21Table Conduct: Handling Food Main CourseA more direct method, the “Continental style”, is used in European countries. The fork is held in the left hand and the knife in the right. After cutting one bite of food, the food is transferred to the mouth with the fork still in the left hand, tines facing downward. This eliminates the transferring of cutlery from hand to hand.This method of eating is considered more formal than the zig-zag method.
22Table Conduct: Handling Food Main CourseCut large pieces of food into smaller ones, one bite at a time. It is considered impolite to cut all of your food at once.Lift the food to your mouth; do not lean down to your plate to eat.Take small bites; chew your food slowly with your mouth closed.
23Table Conduct: Handling Food Main CourseWhen taking a mouthful of food, eat all of the food off of the fork or spoon at one time. Do not take any of the food out of your mouth again.Avoid talking with your mouth full. If someone asks you a question when your mouth is full, wait to answer until you have chewed and swallowed the food.
24Table Conduct: Handling Food Main CourseSwallow the food in your mouth before taking a sip of a beverage. Drink carefully; avoid slurping or gulping.Do not handle any foods with your hands except for finger foods. Finger foods include bread or rolls, carrot sticks, celery, corn on the cob, olives, potato chips, and most sandwiches.In informal settings, it is permissible to pick up a chicken, steak, or pork chop bone to finish off the remaining meat once you have cut off as much meat as possible.
25Table Conduct: Handling Food Main CourseThere are conventions about the placement of the knife and fork when not in use.Your knife and fork should never be propped against the sides of the plate, nor should the knife be placed between the tines of the fork.If you are merely pausing in your eating, cross your knife and fork on the centre of the plate.If you are finished dining, place the knife and fork (tines down) in the five o’clock position. Leave your plate where it is; do not push it away, stack it, or pass it to others to stack unless directed to do so by the host.
26Table Conduct: Handling Food DessertDessert cutlery is either positioned at the top of the dinner plate or is provided when the dessert it served.Dessert Spoon and Fork
27Table Conduct: General Tips Remove fruit pits or seeds, or large pieces of fat from your mouth with your spoon.Remove fish bones from your mouth with your fingers.Place the pits, seeds, pieces of fat, and fish bones on the edge of your plate. Do not place them on the table.If particles of food become stuck in your teeth, leave the table to remove the particles. Use dental floss or a toothpick in private.
28Table Conduct: End of the Meal A finger bowl, containing water and sometimes a piece of lemon, may be provided. To use a finger bowl, dip your fingers, one hand at a time, in the water. Swish your fingers gently, then dry them on your napkin.Your host will signal the end of the meal by placing his or her napkin on the dining table. You may rise and leave the table when your host rises.