Presentation on theme: "Mate Selection Theories"— Presentation transcript:
1 Mate Selection Theories How do people choose their partners?
2 Mate Selection Theories Social HomogamyIdeal Mate TheoryDevelopmental PerspectiveEvolutionary PsychologySocial Exchange TheoryFilter Theory
3 Social HomogamyPeople are attracted to those from similar backgrounds.Areas of similarity: Age, race, ethnic background, socioeconomic status, political views, religion, similar appearance status, proximity (live nearby).Similarities ensure that couples will manage their shared resources more efficiently and with less conflict.Best explains arranged marriagesParents seek out a partner who is similar to their son/daughter
4 Ideal Mate TheoryAttraction is based on an individual’s unconscious image of the ideal partner. This is based on their perceptions of the meaning of certain physical characteristics and social status.People assess their resources (attractiveness, wealth, personality, and social status) and look for a mate who will be attracted to these resources and/or traits.
5 …Ideal Mate (continued) Most will find a mate in society because individuals are attracted to different people. We don’t all find the same things attractive.Supports the idea of “love at first sight,” since everyone has an unconscious ideal with which they compare a person to find him/her attractive. This helps them make the immediate comparison or judgement of a person as loveable or unloveable.
6 Developmental Perspective Individuals are unable to relate to someone else without first understanding who they are and what their roles in life are.They must understand what they have to offer another person and what they want or need in return.If they don’t have a sense of who they are (their identity) prior to forming romantic relationships, the relationship defines their identity.
7 Evolutionary Psychology In prehistoric times, mate selection was based on reproduction and the ability to procreate future generations.Women preferred men who would be good fathers and providers for their children.Sought out men who were healthy, intelligent, well- educated, hard-working, and ambitious.Men preferred women who could bear healthy babies, feed their kids, and were intelligent and well-tempered to raise them.Sought out women who were attractive, young, healthy, had wider hips than their waist (a sign of fertility).
8 Social Exchange Theory Individuals will analyze their assets and deficits (flaws).They will look for a partner who balances their assets and deficits.They will seek to get ahead or to move up through successful mate selection.Best explains marriages of older, wealthier men/women with young, attractive men/women.
9 Murstein’s Filter Theory Explained the relationship among dating, social homogamy, and social exchange as a multi- step process.He uses the analogy of ‘sifting’ to suggest that individuals pass their dates through a series of ‘filters’ to screen out unacceptable marriage partners.
10 Field of Eligibles Propinquity Attraction Homogamy Compatibility Trial Who is available?PropinquityWho is realistically attainable? Who do I know?AttractionLooks at appearance and personality preferences.HomogamyLook for similarities in values, age, race, religion, etc.CompatibilityDo their attitudes, values, needs, temperament, roles, and habits mesh well with mine?TrialCohabiting? Engagement?DecisionHave I made a good choice?Marriage
11 Sternberg’s Love Triangle IntimacyPassionCommitmentSternberg’s Love Triangle
12 Intimacy Emotional side of a relationship ClosenessSharingSupportCommunicationIncreases steadily throughout a relationship – eventually levels out
13 Passion Motivational part of a relationship Leads to physiological arousalAn intense desireDevelops quickly
14 Commitment Cognitive side of a relationship Grows and develops Short-term decision to loveLong-term decision to maintain that loveGrows and developsNon-existent when a relationship fizzles out
15 Sternberg’s Love Triangle The AREA and SHAPE of the triangle indicates the amount and form of loveIntimacyPassionCommitment
17 Non-Love Absence of all three components Describes the majority of our personal relationships
18 FriendshipIRefers to the feelings experienced in true friendships
19 Infatuated Love The “love at first sight” feeling PThe “love at first sight” feelingHigh degree of physiological arousal
20 Empty Love When a relationship has become dull Typical of arranged marriages – at the start
21 Romantic Love Physical attraction paired with an intimate relationship Typical of affairs since there’s no commitment
22 Fatuous Love Hollywood Love Relationship progresses quickly Very little long-term success
23 Companionate LoveICDescribes a long-term friendship/ union that lacks any physical attractionSeen in lengthy marriages
24 Consummate Love The goal of many couples IPCThe goal of many couplesDifficult, but not impossible, to attainChallenging to maintain it
25 Another perspective on Love Lee’s Styles of LovingAnother perspective on Love
26 Styles of Loving Companionate Romantic Altruistic Egotistic Manic Pragmatic
27 Companionate Rooted in long-term friendship and loyalty Evolves gradually towards loveStable, non-demanding, committed, and trustingOpposite of manic love
28 Romantic An intense desire to care for their partner Strong, physical connectionDesire to be inseparable
29 Egotistic Self-serving love More interested in the “game” of love May engage in several relationships simultaneouslyGoal is to get partner hooked without investing your own emotions into the relationship
30 Altruistic Places partner’s needs above their own May pass up better relationships rather than abandon a bad oneOpposite of egotistic love
31 Manic An irrational, crazy passion Possessive and clingy Intense to the point of being all consuming
32 Pragmatic A rational, practical, logical choice in partner Lacks emotional intensityInvolves a careful evaluation of their qualities with your own
33 Do’s and Don’ts of the Assignment Do not title your assignment, “Want Ad Assignment.” Be creative with a catchy title or question to peak the interest of your readers.There should be more than one paragraph for each of your advertisement and your analysis. One huge paragraph is difficult to read. Consider what you are including in each paragraph.Do not list your qualities with commas. Elaborate on each of your qualities with an example or a “for instance.”Be creative with your font. Times new roman isn’t very interesting.You may use more than one theory, but be specific in your analysis with how each theory applies. Also, you must discuss two theories if two are evident in your advertisement.Do NOT put your name or any identifying information on the front of your ad. Do NOT use your real cell number or address. Put your name on the back only.
34 Analysis LayoutIntroduction – include theory of mate selection, form of love, and style of lovingTheory of Mate Selection – include a brief description of the theory (in your own words), and several quotations from your advertisement to support your theoryForm of Love (Sternberg) – brief description of the form (in your own words), and support from your advertisementStyle of Loving (Lee) – brief description of the style of love (in your own words), and support from your advertisement
35 Supporting Your Analysis Example:In my relationship advertisement, I indicate that, “I am honest to the point where sometimes I come across blunt and rude. This trait needs to be appreciated by someone who won’t be overly sensitive and who might retort with similar bluntness.” This specifically relates to Social Homogamy, a theory of mate selection, in which people look for others who display similar personality traits. Furthermore, I go on to say that…
36 SUCCESS CRITERIAPLEASE ATTACH THIS ASSIGNMENT SHEET TO YOUR FINISHED PRODUCT WHEN SUBMITTING FOR MARKING /1 Your gender and gender you are seeking /5 Qualities/personality traits you possess /5 Qualities you seek in a partner /5 Creativity and presentation /1 Type of relationship you seek /20 Analysis – Theory of Mate Selection /5 Spelling/grammar conventions /10 Analysis – Form of Love (Sternberg) /10 Analysis – Style of Loving (Lee)