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1 Loving More through Love Languages by Jody Capehart First Friday October 5, 2012 www. jodycapehart.com Head of School at Grace Academy of North Texas

2 What is Love? Love is a many splendored thing Love is the most used word Love is the most abused word Love is the most desired word Love is the most confused word, So, What is love? 2

3 I believe there are layers to how each of us process and learn which reveals how we are uniquely created by God! Process Information Learning Styles Preferences Brain Research Personalities DISC 3

4 Personalities: DISC Model 4 Personality Inslghts

5 Personalities! Dynamic DonnaFun Loving Feebie Conscientious Connie, Perfectionist Patty Steady Sandy 5

6 We learn differently… Are you a Visual Vi? Are you an Auditory Audrey? Are you a Tactual Tina? Are you a Kinesthetic Karen? 6

7 How do you process information? Are you a Concrete Sequential Connie? Do you need things to be organized sequential predictable 7www.jodycapehart.com

8 Are you a… Global Gladys? Analytic Al? 8

9 I pondered…. 9www.jodycapehart.com

10 Because, you see, I have assessments such as… 10

11 My Story 11

12 Just 5 easy questions, dear! 12

13 Question: What fills up your love tank? Words of affirmation? Quality time? Giving and receiving gifts? Acts of service? Physical touch? 13www.jodycapehart.com

14 Fill er up please! Keeping the love tank full! Just 5 easy questions. How hard can this be? I had a captive audience… www.jodycapehart.com

15 Turning point in MY life! Was blind, but now I see! 15

16 These are the 5 Love Languages: Words of affirmation Quality time Giving and receiving gifts Acts of service Physical touch 16www.jodycapehart.com

17 Love Language # 1 Talking Words of Affirmation The tongue has the power of life and death. (Proverbs 18:21) Words are powerful communicators of love. The word encourage means to inspire courage. 17

18 Encouraging Words For your mate For your child For your parents For your friends For your co-workers For your boss For those you dont like so much…. 18

19 Words of Affirmation are: Words that convey empathy Words of kindness Words of encouragement Words of forgiveness 19

20 Lookin for the Signs: They encourage others easily, naturally, and sincerely. Their inner flower wilts when they are around negative people. Their inner flower blooms and they lit up when they are encouraged. 20

21 and, of an empty love tank 21

22 Story of the Babbling Brook and The Dead Sea 22

23 Kids Talking Today 23www.jodycapehart.com

24 # 2: Quality Time My Report card: F 24

25 What they need: Love is spelled T-I-M-E! Focused attention Being together Quality conversation Eye-contact 25www.jodycapehart.com

26 Multi-tasking Cell phone interruptions Watching TV Texting 26

27 The irony…. I was giving Gifts of Time to my children without even realizing it… 27

28 I needed to fill up my husbands TIME Love Tank: 28

29 Giving gifts Receiving gifts Gifts are visual symbols of love Gifts that showed you were thinking of the other person Not the value but the thought and time taken 29 #3: Giving and Receiving Gifts

30 What are some signs? They give meaningful gifts They delight in the tiniest of gifts if they believe they reflect you were thinking of them. As children, they make you presents. 30

31 What drains the Token Tank? Gifts without meaning Presents without their presence Disagreements about $ 31

32 A true story about a big anniversary: Both loved each other She wanted… He gave… He wanted… She gave… Both came home with empty love tanks even though they really loved each other. Sad tale but ever so true. 32www.jodycapehart.com

33 # 4: Acts of Service Up and beyond the norm Doing the unexpected Serving without being asked Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love. (Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman page 92) 33www.jodycapehart.com

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35 To whom do we serve? Mates Children Friends Neighbors Co-workers Those in need Those who can never do anything back for us. 35

36 Signs of the Love Language of Acts of Service They love helping others They light up when you do something for them They shut down when acts of service are not present 36

37 #5 is: Physical Touch Physical touch can make or break a relationship. It can communicate love… or hate. 37

38 Signs of the Love Language of Touch: In a child In a teen In an adult In a marriage In older people 38www.jodycapehart.com

39 Testimony Time He said, In our dating, I had always taken the initiative on kissing and hugging. She was always responsive. After we got married, she never wanted anything physical. I took it personally. I felt rejected, unwanted, and unloved. I withdrew completely. 39

40 The other side of the story… She said, When we were dating, I thought all the physical affection was how he showed me he loved me. After we got married, it seemed that all he could think about was sex. Did he love me, or just my body? Did he want to spend time with me or just have sex? 40

41 God is always right on! This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. ( Ephesians 5:32-33 ESV) Suggested Reading: Ephesians 5 For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn 41www.jodycapehart.com

42 Wrapping it up with an easy way to remember: Talking: Talking: Words of Affirmation Time: Time: Quality Time Towel: Towel: Acts of Service Tokens: Tokens: Giving and Receiving Gifts Touch: Touch: Appropriate Physical Touch 42www.jodycapehart.com

43 What is your love language? Talk? Time? Towel? Tokens or Touch? Tokens or Touch? I feel most loved when… We usually love others in our love language and feel most loved when it is returned in the same language. 43www.jodycapehart.com

44 How to tell the Love Language of others: Look for how your loved one shows love. If you arent sure, love in one language for a week at a time and watch how the person responds. Look for signs of what fills up their Love Tank 44www.jodycapehart.com

45 How to best love those with the Love Language of Words of Affirmation Communicate: Kind Words Positive, affirming words Do: Send encouraging notes Avoid: Critical words 45

46 How to best love those with the Love Language of Quality Time Communicate: One-on-one time Without interruptions Do: Spend time together Avoid: Times apart Spending too much time time with others 46

47 Communicate: Action words: I will! What else can I do? Do: Help with chores Avoid: Not doing your part or waiting to be asked How to best love those with the Love Language of Acts of Service 47

48 How to best love those with the Love Language of Giving and Receiving Gifts Communicate: You are thinking of them Do: Give gifts for special times and also, just because you are thinking of them Avoid: Forgetting special and significant dates

49 How to best love those with the Love Language of Physical Touch Communicate: Lots of non-verbals Do: Touch often, lovingly, and appropriately Avoid: Physical neglect or abuse 49

50 Look for the signs… If you are married: What does your spouse do or fail to do that hurts you most deeply? What have you most requested of your spouse? 50

51 What not to do: Withhold love in their love language when you are angry with them For children: use their love language to punish them for disobedience 51www.jodycapehart.com

52 Remember… Love is a choice. Choose to give love outside of your love language because you love someone and want them to know it! Love doesnt erase the past but it makes the future different. Dr. Gary Chapman 52

53 Resources: Love Languages Books by Gary Chapman: 1.The Five Love Languages for Couples 2.Love Languages for Children 3.Love Languages for Teens 53

54 Books by Jody 54www.jodycapehart.com

55 55 If I can be of service to you, your womens ministry, church or school, you may contact me at: Jody Capehart


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