Who is right? Lito thinks his wife Jills cursing and yelling is too hard on their children. Jill says shes harsh because she doesnt feel respected as a step parent. Jason wants to bust his wife, Tressa, for using a spatula to spank their daughter. Tressa defends herself saying she uses a spatula because she cant hit hard enough with her hand. Becky says her husband Johns drill sergeant ways are terrifying her 5 year old daughter so much, that she hides from him. John believes kids need to know who is the boss in the house.
Dr. Phils Guidelines Teens: · If you want your parents to do what you want, you have to figure out what their needs are, and try to meet them. For example, one of their needs may be to know that you are safe, and that when they're not around, you're not in danger. · You won't get what you want by rebelling. You'll get what you want when you start talking to your parents. Slamming your bedroom door is not communicating. To have a relationship that will be a source of support and strength for a lifetime, you have to work through conflicts by communicating. · If you want your parents to stop nagging you about doing your chores, how about doing some of them? · Put yourself in your parents' shoes. Would you like being called "stupid," "mean" or "retarded" by your teenager? · Prove you can be responsible if you want your parents to change the rules. · Get to know your parents. Talk to them and ask them about their lives especially if you want them to do the same with you.
Dr. Phils guidelines Parents: · You won't get what you want by being a totalitarian dictator. Communication and mutual participation are the keys. · Kids needs to be able to predict with 100 percent accuracy what the consequences of their actions will be. Jay recalls that when he had a go-cart, it was made clear that if he was caught driving it without a helmet, it'd be sold immediately. Knowing that consequence gave him a choice, and he chose to wear the helmet. · Take the time to discuss the reasoning behind a decision. Just saying "no" isn't always sufficient, and certainly doesn't make the teen's desire go away. Teens can learn how to reason things through if you give them a lead to follow. · The greatest things you can give your son or daughter are your ear and your voice. When Jay asked teens across the country what they wanted most from their parents, the number one answer was to have their parents more involved in their lives. They don't want to be interrogated just talked to!
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Quickwrite As you prepare to read this essay, take a few moments to focus your thoughts on the relationships between discipline and expressions of love: In what ways do you think children should be punished? Do you believe in hitting children? Why or why not? How else might children be disciplined? Do you believe that discipline and love can coexist?
Surveying the Text Who is the author of this essay? When and where was this essay published? Scan the essay. Underline words that are synonyms for justice and punishment. Hwk: go to www.education.miami.edu/ep/contemporaryed/B ell_Hooks/bell_hooks.html and research the authors life. Bring to class 2 pieces of information that interest you about her. www.education.miami.edu/ep/contemporaryed/B ell_Hooks/bell_hooks.html
Making Predictions What do you think this essay is going to be about? What do you think is the purpose of the essay? Who do you think is the intended audience for this piece? Explain. Based on the title and other features of the selection, what information/ideas might this essay present? Will the article be negative or positive in relation to the topic? Explain. What argument about the topic might it present? What makes you think that?
1 st paragraph & Topic sentence read What is the general topic of the essay? What is the authors opinion on that topic? What do you think the writer wants us to do or believe? How did you come to this conclusion? Turn the title into a question to answer as you read the essay.
Key Concepts With symbols, categorize the words below by the concepts that can go together. Justice Abuse Equality Legal Juvenile Intimate Hugging Time-out Rights Law Discipline Judge Fairness Spanking Lawyer Young mother Civil rights Punishment Justify Court
Vocabulary Define the words and use them correctly in a sentence Dysfunctional Meted Overindulged Counterparts Affirmations Indict Coercion autocratic Fascistic Misogynist Debunk Negate Cathected Demystify Fictive Mediation estrangement
Chunking Read the essay silently and mark the breaks in subject matter with a line through the text. Next, number each of the chunks you have identified. Then go back to the beginning of the essay and label the category of each chunk. On a sheet of paper, draw a picture that represents each of your chunks.
1 st read questions Which of your predictions turned out to be true? What surprised you? Explain. Are you persuaded by the text? Explain.
Looking closely to language What is intimate terrorism (para. 4)? Why does Hooks use quotations from children in paragraph 3? What connotations does utopian have for you? Choose 3 terms already discussed, and write questions about these words based on the context of the article.
Rereading the Text What is the essays thesis? State the thesis in a question. Highlight details throughout the essay that directly answer that question. Label in the left margin: the introduction, the issue or problem the author is writing about, examples the author gives, the main arguments, and the conclusion Label in the right margin: your reactions
Analyzing Stylistic Choices Words –What does the term justice bring to your mind? –What synonyms for love does the author use in this essay? –What synonyms for punishment does the author use in this essay? –Does the author make more references to love or punishment in this essay? Why do you think this is so?
Analyzing continued Sentences –Would you characterize Hooks sentences as long, short, or medium length? What effect does this sentence length have on this essay? –Is the authors sentence structure mostly varied or not? What effect does this variety or lack of variety have on the essay?
Structure of the text What is the main method of organization in this essay? In PAIRS, write brief statements describing the rhetorical function and content of each of the chunks that you marked at the beginning of this essay. Make sure to answer the following: –What does each section say? What is its content? What is the authors purpose in each section? How does each section affect the reader? Which section is most developed? Which is least developed? Most persuasive? Least persuasive? What is the main argument? Is it explicit or implicit?
Analyze findings As a class lets figure out the organization I.Background: definition of love II.Justice: we need justice for children in our culture. Story. III.Abuse: abuse and love cannot coexist. Shelby, confusion, Masters IV.Mystification V.Non-abusive punishment VI.Models in the media VII.Love: we need to show children how to love
Summarize and Respond In groups of 3 or 4, use your knowledge of the organization of the essay to summarize its main points. Limit your summary to 5 sentences. Then generate 5 questions that might be the basis of a class discussion
Logos List 2 major assertions the author makes in this essay. Highlight the support the author provides for these assertions. Come up with 2 counter arguments that the author doesnt deal with. What do you believe the author has left out on purpose? Explain.
Ethos Does the author have the right background to speak with authority on this subject? Explain. Is this author knowledgeable? Smart? Successful? What does the authors style of language tell you about her? Do you trust this author? Explain. Do you think this author is deceptive? Explain Do you think the author is serious? Explain
Pathos How does this piece affect you emotionally? Explain. Do you think the author is trying to manipulate your emotions? Explain. How do your emotions conflict with your logical interpretation of the arguments presented? Explain.
Questions According to Hooks, why are childrens civil rights so delicate? Why does Hooks, think we must challenge the idea that abuse and neglect can coexist with love (paragraph 11)? Why do we use different standards for the treatment of children and adults? Explain what Hooks means in the last sentence of her essay: Without justice there can be no love. Are you convinced by this essay that physical punishment and love cannot coexist in the same household? What details or examples are most persuasive to you?
Essay Topics What aspects of a childs life should a parent control? Take a position on this issue and write an argument for your assertion. Use specific evidence and examples to support your case. Make sure that your body paragraphs follow the format that you have learned in class.
Reflection What was most difficult about this assignment? What was easiest? What did you learn about arguing by completing this assignment? What do you think are the strengths and weaknesses of your argument?