2Why do People Get Married – or what do most people want in life? Traditional reasons for marriage:Sexual division of laborTo have legitimate children and provide for themEconomic and political considerationsTo extend social relationshipsGain adult statusTo gain respectDutyTo surviveLove
3Functions of MarriageRegulates mating, reproduction and child rearing in a socially approved way.Provides a mechanism for regulating the sexual division of labour.Creates a set of family relationships that can provide for the material, educational and emotional needs of children.Legitimizes childrenprovides for the woman in many technologically simply societies there is no means whereby an unmarried woman can support herselfdefines social position of individuals e.g. adulthoodestablishes legal rights and interests e.g. over property, children etc.Serves as an instrument of political relations between individuals and groups
4History of Passionate Love 1500 west diverges from rest of world - emergence of the selfthe rise of individualism, democracy reinforces romantic loveWest: 500 yrs to make transitionRest of world: yrslove marriage sweeps the world
5WHAT IS MARRIAGE? Old Common Law Definition "lawful union of one man and one woman."New Common Law Definition (Bill C38)"lawful union of two persons to the exclusion of all others"
6Anthropological definitions “Marriage is a union between a man and a woman such that the children born to the woman are recognized as legitimate offspring of both partners” Notes and Queries on Anthropology 1951Tahitian couple
7Characteristics of Marriage socially approved or sanctioned?sexual unionbetween a man and a woman?between adults?Political / religious / economic uniona bundle of rights, expectations, and obligationsassumption of relative permanencelegal (a contract)between individuals?part of a social process
8Is it OK for unmarried couples to cohabit? 1. Socially ApprovedIs it OK for unmarried couples to cohabit?Prior to 1960 unmarried couples in the US were legally prevented from registering in hotels or obtain a home mortgage.In Canada, the number of common-law relationships more than doubled between 1981 and 2001 (14% 2001)Women in the 90s were more likely than women in the 80s to cohabit rather than marry in response to pregnancy.Suggests that cohabitation is becoming more a substitute for marriage, rather than a form of engagement that culminates in marriageLiving in Sin?
9Even older people, when a marriage breaks up are now more likely to first enter a common law relationship before re-marryingStats Canada
10Who Should one Marry/Not Marry Rules of Exogamy (out marriage) and Endogamy (in-marriage)It was only after a U.S. Supreme Court decision in 1967 that mixed race couples could marry anywhere in the U.S
12Cross Cousin and Parallel Cousin Marriages Ego's cross cousins (yellow) are the children of opposite sexed parental siblingsEgo's parallel cousins (green) are the children of same sexed parental siblingsIn some societies the ideal is to marry one’s cross cousin, as he/she will belong to a different lineage (for alliance purposes), or parallel cousin, as he/she will be in the same lineage (inheritance purposes).
14Incest Taboo Holds for parents and siblings in all current societies Only exceptions in past: Brother-Sister mating among royalty in ancient Egypt, Hawaii, IncaCleopatra, the Last Pharaoh (B.C )reigned as Queen Philopator and Pharaoh between 51 and 30 BCMarried brother Ptolemy XIIIAfter Ptolemy XIII’s death, married brother Ptolemy XIV
15Explanations for incest taboo BiologicalInbreeding results in Deleterious genetic defectsPsychologicalFamiliarity breads contemptSociologicalIncreases network of cooperation, alliances, prevents fightingMinimizing sexual competition within familyAvoids role disruption within family
16I’m My Own Grandpa Many, many years ago when I was just twenty-three, I was married to a widow, she was pretty as could be.This widow had a grown-up daughter who had hair of redAnd my father fell in Love with her. Soon they too were wed.This made my dad my son-in-law--changed my very life!My daughter was my mother because she was my father's wife!To complicate the matter even though it brought me joy,I soon became the father of a bouncing baby boy.My little baby he then became a brother-in-law to Dad.Well, that made him my uncle--made me very sad!Because if he was my uncle then he also was a brotherTo the widow's grown-up daughter, who, of course, was my stepmother.My father's wife then had a son who kept them on the run.And, of course, he became my grandchild because he was my daughter's son.My wife is now my mother's mother and this makes me blueBecause although she is my wife, she's my grandmother too!Now if my wife is my grandmother, well, then I am her grandchild,And every time that I think about this, it nearly drives me wild!Because now I have become the strangest case that you ever sawAs husband of my grandmother, I’m my own grandpa!I’m My Own Grandpa
172. Sexual Union? Marriages of Convenience Nayar Exception Nayar Girls, Upper Class. Photo by Nicholas & Co. [ca. 1913]Is exclusivity in a relationship necessary?
183. Between a Man and a Woman? CheyenneAre same sex marriages, an affront to a divinely ordained order, or, as George Bush claims a threat to civilization?The Nandi- Kenya
19Same Sex Marriages1961 Illinois is the first state in the U.S. to decriminalize homosexuality. Others follow in 1960s and 1970s1967 Britain decriminalizes homosexuality1969 homosexuality decriminalized in Canada1989: Denmark becomes the first country to legally recognize same-sex partnerships, essentially sanctioning gay marriages2000Vermont is the first state in the U.S. to provide same-sex couples with rights, benefits and responsibilities similar to those of heterosexual couples2001: The Netherlands allows same-sex couples to marry and gives them the same rights as heterosexuals when it comes to adopting2003 June 10, Ontario widens marriage definition allowing same-sex couples to obtain marriage licenses. Other provinces follow2005 (July 20) Bill C-38 becomes law redefining marriage as a “lawful union of two persons” permitting same sex marriage
204. Between Adults? Berber Child Bride, Morocco (12 yrs old) Mina, 8, with Sukhram, 22, right, and his family members, after their marriage (Rajasthan N. India 1998)Each year thousands of girls, some as young as 6 months, are married to older boys in weddings across Rajasthan as part of the annual Akhai Teej, festival considered an auspicious day for marriage.Berber Child Bride, Morocco (12 yrs old)
21Human rights activists have demanded action over the marriage of Ana-Maria Cioaba to a 15-year-old bridegroom.Ana-Maria is reported to be either 12 or 14 years oldFamily members say she had been promised in marriage to 15-year-old Birita Mihai when she was just seven, for the price of 500 gold coins.The girl's father, Florin Cioaba, told critics to keep out of his business. "As a father I know what is good for my kids. We Roma have a tradition to marry our children when minors," he said.The minimum age for legal weddings in Romania is 16, but the practice of school-age marriages remains common in the Roma community, and the Romanian authorities normally turn a blind eye.Friends say she was forced to consummate the marriage. "Legally it was rape," one friend said.The wedding was an "exceptionally grave breach of children's rights", said Romanian Deputy Prime Minister Serban Mihailescu.Florin Cioaba was defiant about Ana-Maria's weddingSeptemberNational Post
23Bridewealth or bride-price A gift of money or goods given to the bride’s kin by the groom or his kin.most common in pastoral communities where the traditional currency is livestock, especially cattle, horses, camels and, increasingly, money.in order to marry, young men must subordinate themselves, and become obligated to their elders (and provide labour, political support, bear arms etc.)senior men also therefore command the allocation of women’s labour power.some men use this power to obtain several wives for themselvesDani Chief with Bride Price Stone
24Bridewealthpayments may be concluded at the time of marriage or may continue for years.Bridewealth provides for a continuing relation between groups since in many societies a man’s kin are expected to contribute to the bridewealth needed for this marriage.Represents a tangible public statement of the marriage transaction -- as if they went through a church weddingSome dramatic changes in bridewealth have occurred with the introduction of education. An educated women is worth far more than an uneducated one.
25Bridewealth is most common in patrilineal descent systems For the Nuer and Dinka, the transfer of cattle in marriage has a symbolically and politically central place in the affairs of descent groups.rights transferred to the groom’s group in exchange forrights over a woman’s fertilitylabourfuture memberscharacteristically seen as compensation to her kin group for the loss of her work services and presence as well as her fertility.
26Bride service: groom works for bride’s family BridewealthLegalizes marriage and legitimizes offspringIn patrilineal system, gives father the right to have the children belong to his groupCompensates bride’s family for loss of her services and allows them to replace her with daughter-in-lawServes to ally families, those who receive share of payment are witnesses to marriageStatus symbol for both familiesGuarantee of husband’s good behaviorBride service: groom works for bride’s family
27DowryA transfer of goods or money from the bride’s family to bridegroom, or the groom’s family.a dowry can be thought of as a woman’s share of parental property which instead of passing to her upon her parent’s death is distributed to her at the time of her marriagewhich does not mean that she controls itunder traditional European law, for example, a woman’s property falls exclusively under the control of her husband.Also provides a mechanism for forming alliances between familiescharacteristic of societies with fixed plot agriculturecommon among European peasants and widespread in Asia, especially IndiaA Kazak woman opening a young bride's dowry. The dowry includes rugs, handsewn mattresses, dresses, and dishes.
28Anti-Dowry DemonstrationDelhi, 1980 Bollywood spoof postersAlthough demanding a dowry has been illegal since 1961 it is still an essential part of many marriage negotiations in India.Anti-Dowry DemonstrationDelhi, 1980
29Anti-Dowry Demonstration Delhi Jan 07 As the Indian economy opened up for international investment in the 1990s, the gulf between rich and poor widenedso did the economic uncertainty facing the majority of people including the relatively well-off.Anti-Dowry Demonstration Delhi Jan 07There has been a dramatic escalation in reported dowry deaths and bride burnings.Dowry deaths in India increased from around 400/yr in 1980s to over 5000/yr in 1990s to 7,026 in killed because they did not bring a big enough dowry ("bride burning" or "dowry deaths")Dowry has been transformed as a means to escaping poverty, augmenting one’s wealth or acquiring the modern conveniences that are now advertised daily on television.
306. A Bundle of Rights and Obligations Traditionally, in most societies, marriage was primarily an alliance between kin groups rather than between individuals.marriage involves a transfer or flow of rights from a wife’s group to husbands (or vice versa)rights to labour of men and women (economic)rights to property (economic)rights to the priority of sexual access (sexual)rights over fertility - children i.e. belong to man’s or woman’s lineage (patrilineal/matrilineal) (social)Gabonaise Woman – Michael Brugger
317. Assumption of Relative Permanence Belarus Russia Sweden Latvia Ukraine Czech Rep. Belgium Finland Lithuania U. K. Moldova U.S. Hungary Canada Norway France Germany Netherlands Switzerland Iceland Kazakhstan68%39Austria Denmark Slovakia Bulgaria Israel Kyrgyzstan Romania Portugal Poland Armenia Greece Spain Azerbaijan Croatia Cyprus Georgia Italy Uzbekistan Albania Turkey MacedoniaPercentage of Divorces (as % of marriages) in Selected Countries (1996)
32Divorce in non-Western societies often involves a contract between corporate groups and is more difficult than in Westwhere bridewealth is high marriage is stable, where low divorce commonwhat happens to the bridewealth?sometimes all or part returnedmay depend on the cause of divorce, or any childrenwhat happens to the contract between kin groups in terms of rights over the children.The relationship contractually established may endure despite the death of one of the partners
33What happens when the contract is broken? 8. A legal contractWhat happens when the contract is broken?LevirateDeuteronomy 25:5-6 “If brothers are living together and one of them dies without a son, his widow must not marry outside the family. Her husband’s brother shall take her and marry her and fulfill the duty of a brother-in-law to her… The first son she bears shall carry on the name of the dead brother so that his name will not be blotted out from Israel.”
34SororateIf a wife dies her lineage may be contractually obliged to provide a replacement I.e. her sister, or brother’s daughter, or some other close relative1. a widower is entitled to a replacement bride from the same lineage or family.2. obliges a woman to marry her deceased sister’s husband.3. The longer the period of first marriage and the more children the less the claim.4. levirate and sororate demonstrate that marriage is a union not simply between individuals but between the representatives of groups and that it is a contractual relationship
35Nuer Ghost MarriageA Nuer woman whose husband has died remains subject to a legal contract through which rights to her children were transferred to her husband's group. Ideally, she should remarry her deceased husband's brother.Alternatively she may simply take loversAny children she then bears are socially defined as the offspring of her dead first husband.Occasionally an unwed woman may marry the “ghost” of a dead man
36Minghun -- afterlife marriage rooted in Chinese form of ancestor worshipan ancestor is someone to honour, but also someone whose needs must be maintainedTraditional Chinese beliefs also hold that an unmarried life is incomplete, which is why some parents worry that an unmarried dead son may be an unhappy oneTo ensure a son's contentment in the afterlife, some grieving parents will search for a dead woman to be his bride.once a corpse is obtained, bury the pair together as a married coupleJan 2007, 3 men are arrested in China for killing two women so they could sell their corpses as ghost brides for recently deceased young menNational Post Oct 6, 2006
37How Many Should one Marry? 9. Between individuals?How Many Should one Marry?
38Polygamy Polyandry Polygyny one man and two or more women. (70% of societies)Polygamy has been the cultural ideal in most societies.But monogamy is the statistical reality in all societies.most common where women are important contributors to the economy e.g. agricultural societiesPolygyny often practised by men of wealth or high rankCommonly associated with an age asymmetry, were prominent men have gained power and wealth later in life and can afford another wifeThis causes a shortage of young women, and an excess of young unmarried menmen marry at an older age than women.PolyandryPolygyny
39Polygyny Advantages for man: Many children Prestige Wealth produced by wives and childrenSex partners -- often many taboosPolitical alliances with in-lawsTom Green and FamilySalt Lake City Utah
41Polygyny Advantages for woman Prestige and wealth of household Share housework and childcareLess child bearingGreater freedom and autonomyCompanionshipCan get married easilyAdvantages for womanConflictsConflicting interest in children – inheritancejealousy
42Polyandry two or more men married to one woman quite rare common form is where a group of brothers marry one woman - called fraternal polyandryE.g. In Himalayas with land shortage its an effective way of limiting the population while ensuring their perpetuation.The marriage of brothers to a single woman averted the danger of constantly subdividing farmlands among all the sons of any one landowner.
4310. Marriage as a processprocess through which families and kinship groups are formedprocess whereby descent groups are interlinkedprocess of achieving reproduction of society, both socially and biologically.
44Rules of Residence Patrilocal: Wife joins husband’s family Matrilocal: Husband joins wife’s familyNeolocal: Couple form new residence