41 Peter 3:1-71Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— 4rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
51 Timothy 2:8-118I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting; 9in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, 10but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works. 11 Let a woman learn in silence with all submission.
7In Other Areas of Our Lives Does this reach every aspect of my spiritual life? – cf. Matt. 23:25-28; Luke 11:39-41Paul had concerns about younger widows becoming busy bodies – 1 Tim. 5:11-14 (cf. 2 Thess. 3:10-12)All men were to aspire to lead a quiet life, to mind their own business – cf. 1 Thess (1 Pet. 4:15)
8The Inside Out Approach When the inner spirit is right, it will manifest itself outwardly – Matt. 15:11-20We must always guard our hearts – Prov. 4:23 (Psa. 19:14)We must continually renew our minds – Rom. 12:1-2; Eph. 4:23; 2 Cor. 10:5 (cf. Psa. 51:10)
9Practically SpeakingDoes this mean I should dress as a duffel bag, that I may more greatly manifest my inner spirit?God approves of beauty – cf. Ex. 28:40Inner or outer beauty—which is more precious in the sight of God? Which should we value and emphasize more? – cf. Prov. 31:21-22, 30
10Practically SpeakingDoes this mean a woman should become a door mat or a wallflower?Not at all – Prov. 31:23-29, 31 (note 1 Pet. 3;7)Consider women such as Job’s daughters (cf. Job. 42:15), Esther, Ruth, Deborah, et al.
11Practically SpeakingWhat about child training, the world and the inner man? – Prov. 22:6; Eph. 6:4; Deut. 6:6-7How much time do our young people spend worrying about their looks? How much time do our young people spend worrying about their character?Teach your children to value who they are over what they look like! – cf. Luke 16:15; Lam. 3:27
12We must not enjoin this culture obsessed with outward beauty!
13John 17:14-1614 I have given them Your word; and the world has hated them because they are not of the world, just as I am not of the world. 15 I do not pray that You should take them out of the world, but that You should keep them from the evil one. 16 They are not of the world, just as I am not of the world.
141 John 2:15-1715 Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16 For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world. 17 And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever.
15God values a gentle and quiet spirit! What do you value?