4 Lets watch…… this 14 minute video which shows how a criticism was worked out with a happy ending. (not all do)
5 So the real question is … How can we use criticism as a tool for building strengths and improve our day- to-day work tasks? How do we fight that fear of others giving us criticism, that anger and frustration when we are criticized? How do we see it as career and teamwork issue?
6 In short, …….is it possible for criticism to become an instructive tool?
8 Now lets watch… this 30 minute video entitled, Giving and Receiving Criticism
9 Lets review the videos message Receiving criticism can be challenging especially when someone is not constructive; But while you cannot control someone giving you criticism, you certainly can control how you respond. Three responses to criticism: 1. Fight; 2. Flight; 3. Evaluate.
10 Obviously…. Evaluation is the right way to proceed.
11 Three As for receiving and evaluating criticism: A cknowledge the criticism in a non-defensive manner; A sk questions to show an interest in understanding the problem; do not take it personally but professionally; A ction – make a commitment to take action on the problem.
12 Why give criticism? Criticism is part of life; It is one way to help people be in the right direction; Helps improve team productivity; Serves as feedback to employees and way of providing feedbacks for employers; Criticism is about tact: way of making a point without making and enemy. Your objective: Not to make listener angry, fight or flight.
13 Ways to provide criticism Watch your body language; Dont use trigger words always, never, etc; Use a pleasant tone of voice; Be specific; Focus on future not the past; Avoid personal attacks It is clear that it is about tact, good communication skills.
14 Manage your communication …. Three Rs for organizing ones communication: 1. Raise the issue – do it in a polite, positive manner; 2. Remain open – understand their point of view, respect their opinion; 3. Request – get a commitment for future action; Three Rs may be also used even when youve had past disagreements.
15 Criticism is about feedback … Do not do it in anger so it comes out mean; Do not criticize in front of other workers; Meet outside of office, maybe in conference room; Listen carefully to each other;
16 Four steps to take when giving feedback 1.State your feelings; 2.Describe the behavior in specific terms; 3.Explain what you would like the other to do; 4.Ask for agreement; NOT EASY TO DO---BUT CAN BE DONE
17 Manage your reaction …. Listen intently; Paraphrase; Ask information questions; Ask action questions; Commit to doing something; Ensure change is permanent
18 Conclusion Criticism is about action not attacking, about tact and communication skills; Use of the three As in giving and the three Rs in receiving criticism help turn it into positive feedback.
19 Anecdotal Experiences The cooling off period. – When a person is really upset and angry is NOT the time to constructively respond because you know what? – He/She is not listening!!!!
20 Evaluation questions a. Strongly Agree b. Agree c. Disagree d. Strongly disagree e. Dont know I found the presentation of material easy to understand. This session increased my knowledge on subject presented. I will be able to use this information in the future. The presenter was well prepared for the session. This session should be repeated in the future.`