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1 Self-Disclosure and Feedback
9: Interpersonal Self-Disclosure and Feedback CA 104 (Aitken)

2 Self-disclosure Feedback
Divulging biographical data, personal ideas, and feelings Feedback Verbal and nonverbal responses a message CA 104 (Aitken)

3 Managing Privacy “Making a conscious decision to withhold information or feelings from a relational partner.” Self-disclosure and privacy are cyclical and should be balanced to manage the dialectical tension between openness and closedness. CA 104 (Aitken)

4 Women tend to engage in “rapport talk” to share experiences and establish bonds.
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5 Men tend to engage in “report talk” to share information, negotiate, and preserve independence.
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6 Appropriate Self-disclosure
Self-disclose the kind of information you want others to disclose to you. Self-disclose more intimate information only when you believe the disclosure represents an acceptable risk. Continue intimate self-disclosure only if it is reciprocated. Move self-disclosure to deeper levels gradually. Reserve intimate or very personal self-disclosure for ongoing relationships. CA 104 (Aitken)

7 self-disclosure has the greatest positive effects.
Reciprocal self-disclosure has the greatest positive effects. CA 104 (Aitken)

8 Skills for Self Disclosure and Privacy Management
Owning feelings and opinions Making “I” statements People often don’t do this for two reasons To strengthen the power of their statements To escape responsibility CA 104 (Aitken)

9 Masking Feelings Displaying Feelings
Concealing verbal or nonverbal cues that would enable others to understand how a person is feeling Displaying Feelings Expressing feelings through facial reactions, body responses, or paralinguistic reactions CA 104 (Aitken)

10 Describing Feelings Describing feelings is the skill of naming the emotions you are feeling without judging them Increases the likelihood of having a positive interaction and decreases the chances of creating defensiveness BUT…many people don’t describe their feelings regularly. Why? CA 104 (Aitken)

11 Managing Privacy Disclosure may make you vulnerable
People might judge you Might cause harm to others or the relationship What to do if pressed to disclose something that you are not comfortable sharing Change the subject Tell a “white lie” CA 104 (Aitken)

12 Asking for Feedback Can deepen relationships Can gain self-knowledge
How to prepare to receive feedback Think of feedback as in your best interest Make sure you are ready for an honest response Take the initiative to avoid surprises CA 104 (Aitken)

13 Asking for Feedback (2) Specify the kind of feedback you are seeking
Try to avoid negative verbal and nonverbal reactions to feedback Paraphrase what you hear Show gratitude for the feedback CA 104 (Aitken)

14 Giving Personal Feedback
Describing Behavior Recounting specific actions of another without commenting on appropriateness Constructive Criticism Describes the negative behaviors of another and their effects CA 104 (Aitken)

15 Giving Constructive Criticism
Begin by describing the behavior Whenever possible, preface a negative statement with a positive one Be as specific as possible. When appropriate, suggest how the person can change the behavior. CA 104 (Aitken)

16 Praising “Describing the specific positive behaviors or accomplishments of another and the effects that this behavior has on others.” CA 104 (Aitken)

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