2 BIBLICAL PEOPLE SKILLS SEMINAR Welcome to the...BIBLICAL PEOPLE SKILLS SEMINARMandatory Training for ALL Christian Leaders…and all who aspire to develop their skillsfor greater success in lifeEccl 10:10 (NIV) If the ax is dull and its edge unsharpened,more strength is needed but skill will bring success.
3 30 BIBLICAL PEOPLE SKILL principles ...divided into 4 categories of 3, 6, 12 & 9 principlesWith 30 MEMORY PEGS…to make it quick and easy to mentally recallthe perfect principle/s to solve a specific problemDan 2:14 (NIV) When Arioch, the commander of the king's guard, had gone out to put to death the wise men of Babylon, Daniel spoke to him with wisdom and TACT.
4 The First 9 of 30 MEMORY PEGS (they’re easy to remember, because they rhyme)One is BunFour is DoorSeven is HeavenTwo is ShoeFive is JiveEight is PlateThree is TreeSix is LicksNine is Line
5 3 FUNDAMENTAL TECHNIQUES TO FIRST CATEGORYBiblical People Skill principles 1è33 FUNDAMENTAL TECHNIQUES TOALWAYS USE IN ALL YOURDEALINGS WITH PEOPLE
6 DON’T CRITICIZE, CONDEMN OR COMPLAIN. 1.DON’T CRITICIZE, CONDEMN OR COMPLAIN.Memory Peg# ONE - BUNThree C’son a bun.
7 Clapping appreciating hands coming out a pair of shoes. 2.GIVE HONEST,SINCERE APPRECIATION.Memory Peg# TWO - SHOEClapping appreciating hands coming out a pair of shoes.
8 3. AROUSE IN THE OTHER PERSON AN EAGER WANT. Memory Peg # THREE - TREE A ‘wanted’ posterhanging on a tree.
9 (of yourself and thereby of your church) SECOND CATEGORYBiblical People Skill principles 4è96 WAYS TO CREATEA MORE POSITIVE IMAGE(of yourself and thereby of your church)
10 BECOME GENUINELY INTERESTED IN 4.BECOME GENUINELY INTERESTED INOTHER PEOPLE.Memory Peg # FOUR -REVOLVING DOORThe people in this jammed door need someone to become genuinely interested in their problem.
11 Two smiling people jiving together. 5.SMILE.Memory Peg# FIVE - JIVETwo smiling people jiving together.
12 Always give every person a warm smile, Take it from one who knows. because a smile lets ‘The SON’ shine through to brighten the lives of all those around us.Always give every person a warm smile,By sowing daily smiles you’ll reap a happier environment to live in. Smart man!!Take it from one who knows.King Smiley
13 6. REMEMBER THAT A PERSON’S NAME IS TO THAT PERSON THE SWEETEST AND MOST IMPORTANT SOUND IN ANY LANGUAGE.Memory Peg# SIX - LICKSA tongue licking a name plate.
14 BE A GOOD LISTENER. ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO TALK ABOUT THEMSELVES. 7.BE A GOOD LISTENER. ENCOURAGE OTHERS TO TALK ABOUT THEMSELVES.Memory Peg# SEVEN - HEAVENHeadphones for listening rolling down thestairway of heaven.
15 TALK IN TERMS OF THE OTHER PERSON’S INTEREST. 8.TALK IN TERMS OF THE OTHER PERSON’S INTEREST.Memory Peg# EIGHT - PLATEAn interesting talking mouth engravedon a plate.
16 FEEL IMPORTANT - AND DO IT SINCERELY. 9.MAKE THEOTHER PERSONFEEL IMPORTANT - AND DO IT SINCERELY.Memory Peg # NINE -TELEPHONE LINEJoe is sincerely making the other person on the telephone line feel important.
17 Biblical People Skill principles 10è21 THIRD CATEGORYBiblical People Skill principles 10è2112 WAYS TO WIN PEOPLE TOGOD'S WAY OF THINKING
18 THE ONLY WAY TO GET THE BEST OF AN ARGUMENT IS TO AVOID IT. 10.THE ONLY WAY TO GET THE BEST OF AN ARGUMENT IS TO AVOID IT.Memory Peg # TEN - PENThe smart pig in the pig-penwalks away from the grouch toavoid further argument.
19 SHOW RESPECT FOR THE OTHER PERSON’S OPINION. NEVER SAY, 11.SHOW RESPECT FOR THE OTHER PERSON’S OPINION. NEVER SAY,“YOU’RE WRONG!”Memory Peg# ELEVEN - KEVINThis smart kidalways shows respect towards his parents.
20 WHEN YOU ARE WRONG, ADMIT IT QUICKLY Memory Peg # TWELVE - SHELVE 12.WHEN YOU ARE WRONG, ADMIT IT QUICKLYAND EMPHATICALLY.Memory Peg # TWELVE - SHELVEThere is a sign on the shelf which reads,“I admit that I am wrong!”
21 13. BEGIN IN A FRIENDLY WAY. Memory Peg # THIRTEEN - HURTING The good Samaritan begins in a friendly way as he helps the hurting victim.
22 GET THE OTHER PERSON SAYING, “YES, YES” 14.GET THE OTHER PERSON SAYING, “YES, YES”IMMEDIATELY.Memory Peg# FOURTEEN - SORTINGYou are sorting outpairs of cards andfind the two saying, “Yes, Yes!”
23 LET THE OTHER PERSON DO A GREAT DEAL OF THE TALKING. 15.LET THE OTHER PERSON DO A GREAT DEAL OF THE TALKING.Memory Peg# FIFTEEN - DRIFTINGIn the drifting dinghy is an interested husband listening to his talkative wife.
24 LET THE OTHER PERSON FEEL 16.LET THE OTHER PERSON FEELTHAT THE IDEAIS HIS OR HERS.Memory Peg# SIXTEEN - MIXINGA mixing bowl with someone else’s idea bulb in it.
25 TRY HONESTLY TO SEE THINGS FROM THE OTHER PERSON’S POINT OF VIEW. 17.TRY HONESTLY TO SEE THINGS FROM THE OTHER PERSON’S POINT OF VIEW.Memory Peg# SEVENTEEN - SEVERINGYou’re severed from the good view others can see (i.e. you’re not in a position to see what they’re seeing).
26 BE SYMPATHETIC WITH THE OTHER PERSON’S IDEAS AND DESIRES. 18.BE SYMPATHETIC WITH THE OTHER PERSON’S IDEAS AND DESIRES.Memory Peg# EIGHTEEN - GRATINGBe sympatheticfor the person whograted the cheese right down to his fingers.
27 APPEAL TO THE NOBLER MOTIVES. 19.APPEAL TO THE NOBLER MOTIVES.Memory Peg# NINETEEN - SIGNINGA sixteenth century nobleman signing a document witha quill (feather) pen.
28 20. DRAMATIZE YOUR IDEAS. Memory Peg # TWENTY - SENTRY The Englishman sentry dramatizes his marching outside the Queen’s palace.
29 # TWENTY ONE - DUELLING GUN 21.THROW DOWN A CHALLENGE.Memory Peg# TWENTY ONE - DUELLING GUNA duelling gun with a flag stick in it’s barrel and the word challenge printed on the cloth.
30 Biblical People Skill principles 22è30 FOURTH CATEGORYBiblical People Skill principles 22è309 WAYS TO CORRECT A PROBLEMWITHOUT CAUSING OFFENCE ORAROUSING RESENTMENTThese last 9 ‘Memory Pegs’are ACTION MEMORY PEGS
31 BEGIN WITH PRAISE AND HONEST APPRECIATION. 22.BEGIN WITH PRAISE AND HONEST APPRECIATION.Memory Peg# TWENTY TWO -DANCING SHOESThese are those Gospel shoesbeginning to praise God in the dance.
32 CALL ATTENTION TO PEOPLE’S MISTAKES INDIRECTLY. 23.CALL ATTENTION TO PEOPLE’S MISTAKES INDIRECTLY.Memory Peg# TWENTY THREE -FALLING TREEThe landlordreprimands the axe,not the lumberjack,who made the mistake of felling the wrong tree.
33 YOUR OWN MISTAKES BEFORE CORRECTING OTHERS. 24.TALK ABOUTYOUR OWN MISTAKES BEFORE CORRECTING OTHERS.Memory Peg# TWENTY FOUR -CLOSING DOORSmall talking toddlers sometimes make the mistake of closing a door onto their own fingers.
34 ASK QUESTIONS INSTEAD OF GIVING DIRECT ORDERS. 25.ASK QUESTIONS INSTEAD OF GIVING DIRECT ORDERS.Memory Peg# TWENTY FIVE -LIVELY JIVEAsk your partner questions about the steps of the lively jive.
35 LET THE OTHER PERSON SAVE FACE. 26.LET THE OTHER PERSON SAVE FACE.Memory Peg# TWENTY SIX -LICKING DOGRescue the little boy from the licking Great Dane to save his face.
36 27.HEARTILY PRAISETHE SLIGHTEST IMPROVEMENT AND LAVISHLY PRAISE EVERY IMPROVEMENT.Memory Peg# TWENTY SEVEN - DESCENDINGHEAVENLYJERUSALEMThe new heavenly Jerusalem is a big improvement onthe old, because it isfilled with praise.
37 GIVE A PERSON A FINE REPUTATION 28.GIVE A PERSON A FINE REPUTATIONTO LIVE UP TO.Memory Peg# TWENTY EIGHT -BREAKING PLATESGreeks have afine reputationfor breaking plates.
38 USE ENCOURAGEMENT - MAKE THE FAULT SEEM ‘EASY’ TO CORRECT. 29.USE ENCOURAGEMENT - MAKE THE FAULT SEEM ‘EASY’ TO CORRECT.Memory Peg# TWENTY NINE -BROKEN TELEPHONE LINEEncourage the weariedtelephone technicianto persist till he discovers the fault.
39 30. MAKE THE OTHER PERSON ‘HAPPY’ ABOUT DOING THE THING YOU SUGGEST. Memory Peg # THIRTY - GETTING DIRTYThe little boys are so happy because daddy said we can get as dirty as we like, provided we dig a compost pit for him.