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1 You are not alone! Knowing Resources and Building Supports Ed Dunkelblau October 2012

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5 Purpose of a Pre Deployment Plan Reduce Stress!! Reduce Stress!! Helps us maintain focus Helps us maintain focus Makes the transition easier Makes the transition easier Develop new routines Develop new routines Help the children through the change Help the children through the change Peace of Mind!!!!! Peace of Mind!!!!!

6 Family Resilience (Diane Milne) Adaptabilitybeing able to cope with different types of stress Adaptabilitybeing able to cope with different types of stress Appreciationdoing positive things for one another Appreciationdoing positive things for one another Clear rolesunderstanding roles and responsibilities in the family and being flexible Clear rolesunderstanding roles and responsibilities in the family and being flexible Commitmentrecognizing each others worth and being committed to the family system Commitmentrecognizing each others worth and being committed to the family system Communicationbeing open and honest with each other and willing to listen to the views of others, being able to manage conflict in a positive way Communicationbeing open and honest with each other and willing to listen to the views of others, being able to manage conflict in a positive way Community tiesbeing involved and connected to the community Community tiesbeing involved and connected to the community

7 When your struggling…. Take a P People People Problem solving Problem solving Positivity Positivity

8 People Reach out to trusted friends Reach out to trusted friends Look to family Look to family Keep in touch Keep in touch

9 Get to know your friends

10 Find Family

11 Problem Solving Things will go wrong

12 Asking for help Often seen as weakness Often seen as weakness Hard to reach out Hard to reach out Afraid there will be no help Afraid there will be no help Fear judgment or embarrassment Fear judgment or embarrassment

13 Sometimes its necessary to get some support

14 Coast Guard Employee Assistance ProgramCoast Guard Employee Assistance Program: Coast Guard Employee Assistance Program WorkLife4You Resource and Referral ServiceWorkLife4You Resource and Referral Service: WorkLife4You Resource and Referral Service

15 Communications Technology Deployment Communications Plan Technology Deployment Communications Plan –Is the computer ready (WebCam, programs etc…)? –Unit Communications (Phone Tree, News Letters, Face Book, etc…) Method and schedule: Method and schedule: –Time difference –Schedule for the SM, family and children –Who, when and frequency –Duration

16 Support Systems Who will fix the house, cars, appliances, yard work and the rest? Who will fix the house, cars, appliances, yard work and the rest? Who will give me a break (baby sitting etc…)? Who will give me a break (baby sitting etc…)? Who do I turn to? Who do I turn to? –Emotional support (Friend, family, church, etc) – Where do I get moral support? – Professional? What family supports are available? What family supports are available?

17 How You Say Good Bye What is the plan? What is the plan? –When and how will we say good bye to? Co workers Co workers Faith community Faith community Neighbors Neighbors Friends Friends Close friends Close friends Family Family Spouse and children Spouse and children

18 Other Considerations Physical: Physical: –When can I workout, walk, run, whatever Disciplining of the children Disciplining of the children Tricare, are we signed up and who are our providers Tricare, are we signed up and who are our providers What about the Kids? What about the Kids? Who supports me? (Parents and Designated Representatives) Who supports me? (Parents and Designated Representatives) What about the Ex? What about the Ex? Have you informed your Employer (ESGR)? Have you informed your Employer (ESGR)?

19 Coping How am I going to handle stress? How am I going to handle stress? What do I do to take care of me? What do I do to take care of me?

20 Secrets of Success Passion Passion Work hard Work hard Be good at it Be good at it Focus Focus Serve something of value Serve something of value Persistence Persistence Choose your attitude - …….Positivity Choose your attitude - …….Positivity

21 Positivity

22 Being Positive Improve our ability to handle difficulties Improve our ability to handle difficulties Improve performance Improve performance Improve decision making Improve decision making Keep us healthier Keep us healthier

23 Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier. General Colin Powell

24 Both optimists and pessimists contribute to the society. The optimist invents the airplane, the pessimist the parachute. George Bernard Shaw

25 Maintaining positivity Recognize that attitude is a choice Recognize that attitude is a choice Find positive colleagues Find positive colleagues Preserve a positive memory and go to it when necessary Preserve a positive memory and go to it when necessary Focus on humor Focus on humor

26 Negativity More likely to fail More likely to fail Leads to or maintains depression Leads to or maintains depression Harder to see alternatives Harder to see alternatives Bad for your health Bad for your health Sucks energy from others and self Sucks energy from others and self

27 What Causes Negativity C riticism C riticism R ejection R ejection A **holes A **holes P ressure P ressure

28 USCG Spouse Handbook ousehandbook.pdf ousehandbook.pdf

29 USCG Employee Assistance ssistance.asp ssistance.asp

30 Coast Guard Employee Assistance ProgramCoast Guard Employee Assistance Program: Coast Guard Employee Assistance Program WorkLife4You Resource and Referral ServiceWorkLife4You Resource and Referral Service: WorkLife4You Resource and Referral Service

31 Discuss One way that you remain positive in the face of adversity. One way that you remain positive in the face of adversity.

32 Family Systems Explained


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