4 It’s a good day when everything gets checked off the list.
5 It’s a good day when… Work (No surprises, things go as planned) Meetings (Agenda is followed and handout provided with important infoHome (Work before play)PLAN, PLAN, PLANLife is predictable and follows aschedule
7 Practical Manager STUDENTS GiftsNeedsPossible ProblemsAttention to details (love deadlines, timelines, punctuality)Create to improve products or ideasFinely tuned sensesKeep others on task
8 Practical Manager STUDENTS GiftsNeedsPossible ProblemsAttention to details (love deadlines, timelines, punctuality)Create to improve products or ideasFinely tuned sensesKeep others on taskOrderly, predictable environmentStructure, clear expectations and detailed directionsOpportunities to elaborate and add detail
9 Practical Manager STUDENTS GiftsNeedsPossible ProblemsAttention to details (love deadlines, timelines, punctuality)Create to improve products or ideasFinely tuned sensesKeep others on taskOrderly, predictable environmentStructure, clear expectations and detailed directionsOpportunities to elaborate and add detailPerfectionismRigiditySee the world in black and white
10 CONFLICT STARTERSUnrealistic objectives, unclear directions, mixed signals.Broken promises, surprises, last minute changes in planBeing the work horse of a groupTardiness and wastes of time, energy, & moneyLoss of face, rank, job securityPoor quality goods and services
11 Relationship stressors Being domineering, opinionated, negative and criticalRefusing to relax and be spontaneousManipulating othersObsessive compulsiveBeing picky, stubborn and pessimistic
12 Keys to negotiation Be practical and precise Try to offer an objective argument based on factsCalm, calm, calmPilot study, trial, evaluate results
15 It’s a good day when…Work (Had a great debate on an issue with a colleague)Meeting (Intellectual discussion about learning or achievement or best practice based on research.Home (Time to read the paper, watch the news or the history channel or engage in a mental challenge)Life is somewhat predictable with some kinds of structures or routines in place.ARGUE, DEBATE, DISCUSS
16 Learned Experts STUDENTS GiftsNeedsPossible ProblemsVery knowledgeableCan synthesize ideas and create theories and modelsOutstanding vocabularyExcellent debater
17 Learned Experts Students GiftsNeedsPossible ProblemsVery knowledgeableCan synthesize ideas and create theories and modelsOutstanding vocabularyExcellent debaterIntellectually stimulating environmentGames and activities that require strategizingOpportunities to research, discuss, and hypothesize
18 Learned Experts Students GiftsNeedsPossible ProblemsVery knowledgeableCan synthesize ideas and create theories and modelsOutstanding vocabularyExcellent debaterIntellectually stimulating environmentGames and activities that require strategizingOpportunities to research, discuss, and hypothesizeIntolerance of others perceived as less smartArgumentativeSarcasm, opinionated
20 Conflict starters Demands for practical, how to applications Unreasonable deadlines for researching and studyingVague thinking, emotional arguments, cryingDiscussions about feelingsTouchy – feely activitiesBrainstorming sessions and cooperative group work
21 Relationship stressors Being opinionated, sarcastic, arrogantBecoming blind and insensitive to the appearances, thoughts, feelings and opinions of othersExhibiting a no-it all attitudeDenying or rationalizing the hurts they inflict on othersOut of touch with the real world
22 Keys to negotiationPresent logical argument based on research (formal or informal)Rules of debate(3 minute rule/1/1)Mediator
23 CREATIVE PROBLEM SOLVER INVENTORADVENTURERRISK TAKER
25 It’s a good day when… DON’T TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER Work (It was fun. I had lots of choices and options.)Meeting (Fun activity with lots of creative problem solving and new initiatives considered).Home (No plan, leave options opened)I can do it my way!!!DON’T TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER
27 CREATIVE PROBLEM SOLVER STUDENTS GiftsNeedsPossible ProblemsDivergent thinker, can generate many ideasFlair for adventure and spontaneityEmpatheticLife of the party, fun
28 CREATIVE PROBLEM SOLVER STUDENTS GiftsNeedsPossible ProblemsDivergent thinker, can generate many ideasFlair for adventure and spontaneityEmpatheticLife of the party, funCreative environmentOptionsOpportunities for multiple projects
29 CREATIVE PROBLEM SOLVER STUDENTS GiftsNeedsPossible ProblemsDivergent thinker, can generate many ideasFlair for adventure and spontaneityEmpatheticLife of the party, funCreative environmentOptionsOpportunities for multiple projects Disorganization lack of attention to detailsDifficulty following directionsOwn agenda, stubborn
30 Conflict starters Demands to explain their insights People who dismiss moral/ethical valuesForced to work with incompetentsPolitical correctnessFixed routines and restrictions on freedomMeaningless activities and relationships
31 Relationship stressors I want what I want when I want itDON’T TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWERUnwilling to compromise because they have the truthTaking advantage of the vulnerabilities of othersBreaking promises, not fulfilling obligations to othersWill manipulate the system to win
32 Keys to negotiation Choice or options Creative solution General guidelines not specific iron clad decisions with lots of details
33 People Person AMBASSADOR, PEOPLE PERSON SENSITIVE, EMOTIONAL CREATIVE ARTISTS
34 It’s a good day when I feel special and appreciated.
35 It’s a good day when… Work (When everyone agreed and were friendly) Meeting (Time to chat with friends and have refreshments).Home (My spouse told me he loved me)
36 PEOPLE PERSON STUDENTS GiftsNeedsPossible ProblemsCreating harmonyColorful, dramaticSocial skillsAttuned to feelings
37 PEOPLE PERSON STUDENTS GiftsNeedsPossible ProblemsCreating harmonyColorful, dramaticSocial skillsAttuned to feelingsColorful, social environmentOpportunities to interact with othersOpportunities for creative expression
38 PEOPLE PERSON STUDENTS GiftsNeedsPossible ProblemsCreating harmonyColorful, dramaticSocial skillsAttuned to feelingsColorful, social environmentOpportunities to interact with othersOpportunities for creative expressionDisorganization lack of attention to detailsWill repress own needs to keep the peace and avoid conflictOver sensitive, over dramatic
40 Conflict starters Demands for rational explanations for gut feelings Individuals who abandon or exclude them without noticeUp-tight, humorless, critical, and negative peoplePeople who are not polite or say I’m sorryExcessive paperwork defined duties, no time to socializeMemorizing detailsPeople who mock emotions, arts, non traditional therapies
41 Relationship stressors Victim of mood swings and emotional excessesThin skinned and hypersensitiveResurrecting old hurts and wallowing in self pityCan play the victimCan be either the over indulgent parent or the child who refuses to grow up
42 Keys in negotiation Non hostile language/ no accusations Assuring they are loved, respected, etc. in spite of conflict.Agree to disagree
44 Let’s get organized: Down with disorder movement Sales of home-organizing products, like accordion files and label makers and plastic tubs, keep going up and up, from $5.9 billion last year to a projected $7.6billion by 2009, as do the revenues of companies that make closet organizing systems, an industry that is pulling in $3 billion a year, according to Closets magazine.
45 This is why January is now Get Organized Month, thanks also to the efforts of the National Association of Professional Organizers, whose 4,000 clutter-busting members will be poisedwith clipboards and trash bags--ready to to minister to the 10,000 clutter victims
47 Getting Things Done originator David Allen is a man who practices what he preaches, especially when it comes to capturing his thoughts and "Oh yeah" moments. Two of the unique but fitting items on his desk are a label maker and a sand timer. The producers of the clip note that this was shot hastily, at the end of Allen's time commitment for an interview, but the essence of his David Allen Co. office comes through….
50 Or do you embrace the anti anti-clutter movement? (NY Times, 2009) .This says yes to mess and urges you to embrace your disorderIt’s a movement that confirms what youhave known, deep down, all along: really neat people are not avatars of the good life; they are humorless and inflexible prigs, and have way too much time on their hands.
51 Writer’s havenEinstein’s oft-quoted remark, “If a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind, of what, then, is an empty desk?”
52 Creatives claim: It takes time to organize We need to have everything's in front of us.Searching through the piles helps make connectionsOrganization is a form of procrastinationCreative thinkers are messy. Creative thinkers tend to have messy desks. In January 2006, a study of hundreds of CEO's indicated that the highest scorers in innovation and risk-taking scored lowest on organizational and neatness skills. Creative people organize their desks intuitively to correspond with the way their minds organize information, and studies suggest that people with messy desks have great career potential.
54 Calendar for randoms post it calendar Marcella Moran, co-author of Organizing the Disorganized Child (coming out August 2009 from Harper Studio) gives quick tips for organizing your kids ...
55 Where do you fall on the continuum? Can disorganized folks be productive?What is organization anyway?What skills do our kids need to be successful?
56 Linear organization Need for set routine Perfectionism Lack of independenceDetailed directionsTime and place for all thingsQuiet place to work
57 Practical Managers Specific directions—To do list—Check it off Routine to be followedQuiet place with materials in placeBinder with compartmentsDaily calendarPerfectionism“Plan B”First draft mentalityTimer
58 Learned expert Need to see the big picture Relevance Outline of what to do with a few subtasksAbility to access sourcesNeed challenging assignmentsQuiet place to workGeneral routine but opportunities to explore deeperWeekly/monthly calendar
59 Spontaneous/holistic organization Tend to misplace thingsSkip or forget directions,“Post- it” monthly calendar, Backwards planning and deadlinesassignments back and forthTime management: Come home between 5:45-6:00Piles, stacks, and storage bins
60 Creative Problem Solvers Easily boredFlexible routineChoice of where, when, and in what order to finish homeworkMulti task with scheduled breaks integrate movement (dance, run, jump)“Partial completion method”Making tasks into games and competitions
61 Environment for creative problem solvers Project based with shelf or area for each projectOpportunity for “mix and match”Collection or drop boxMusic in background, tv on
62 Supports for the creative problem solver “Check out partner” who is organizedTime to organizeMultiple backpacks cleaned out weeklyList on front door –things to remember or a remember braceletWebbing used for organizing ideasIn, out, and in process folders
63 People Persons Study buddy Work at kitchen table Opportunities to be creative even if it takes more timeTimer to get started—no phone or social networking opportunitiesCalendar with stickersOrganize in stacks, bins,
64 An examplePractical Manager Mom who really needs to find a way to keep her family organized.Family FoldersFind your child’s style—Personality ProfilerSusan's Website
65 Group work: Creative use of information In your group, discuss your children and their organizational style.Choose one behavior or goal you have for your youngster and decide on an appropriate strategy to try.Make sure you are trying strategies that align to your child’s style not your style.
66 Do you know me? They say, “You did not learn your fifty prepositions Therefore you flunk English Composition!”But did you know:I read castle in the Attic in a day.The Indian in the Cupboard made my heart sing.And I can answer all the riddles Bilbo did to capture Gollum’s ring.Did you know?
67 They say, “Your book report did not follow the form I gave you. You get no credit!”But did you know:I am writing a book of my own.I didn’t know if I could, but when I tried, the words just came and came.Mom taught me how to use the word processor.Now I can save my words and bring them back whenever I want to.Sometimes I change them because I don’t always feel the same.Did you know?
68 They say, “You don’t join organized sports. You don’t do anything. What’s wrong with you?”But did you know:I wrote a song for my mom because I found her feeling bad.My dad smiled and took his guitar and put my song to music.We played it for my mom and she cried, but I don’t think it was because she was sad.Did you know?
69 THEY say,“I am teaching the scientific process here, and all you want to do is play.You get a D!”But did you know:I can name all the constellations and find them in the sky.Now I am learning all the Greek and Roman myths that go with each one.It’s exciting!I have a million questions, but you get impatient when I’m always asking,“Why?” Why do you? Did you know?
70 THEY say, “You did not do your homework review sheet THEY say, “You did not do your homework review sheet. You will stay for detention.You do not keep your mind on the things that are important.”But did you know:I can feel the minute I walk into a room if things aren’t going well.I know when someone needs a hug, and I can give it too.I can clown and make you laugh or sit quietly and listen.And if you share a secret,, even if I don’t understandI would never tell. Did you know?
71 Did you know that I can travel anywhere I want to in my mind. I can travel far away from you.And I do. Did you Know?No?Because, you do not know me Pamela Quinn