Presentation on theme: "Resolving Conflict Conflict ~ "Sound the Battle Cry!""— Presentation transcript:
Resolving Conflict Conflict ~ "Sound the Battle Cry!"
Resolving Conflict Conflict is: to disagree to be opposed, to be contrary, clash, collide, be inharmonious Most people do not deal with conflicts openly because no one has ever taught them effective ways of dealing with it.
Resolving Conflict Five ways to deal with conflict are: WITHDRAW: If you have a tendency to view conflict as a hopeless inevitability which you can do little to control, you may not even try. You may withdraw physically by leaving the scene or you may leave psychologically.
Resolving Conflict Five ways to deal with conflict are: WIN: If you feel that you must always look after your own interests or your self-concept is threatened in a conflict. You must win no matter what the cost, you must win!
Resolving Conflict Five ways to deal with conflict are: YIELD: This is giving in to get along, it's another style. You don't like it, but rather than risk a confrontation you choose this path. You "Give Way" or in other words Yield!
Resolving Conflict Five ways to deal with conflict are: COMPROMISE: "Give a little to get a little" is called compromise. "Give a little to get a little" is called compromise. You may find that it is important to let up on some of your demands or ideas in order to help the other person give a little. You don't want to win all the time nor do you want the other person to win all the time.
Resolving Conflict Five ways to deal with conflict are: RESOLVE: A person may choose to resolve conflicts. In dealing with conflicts in this style, a situation, attitude, or behaviour is changed by open & direct communication. So, which style do you use in dealing with CONFLICT?
Resolving Conflict When we look at how conflict was handle in the Bible we see all of the different styles. Cain displayed WIN at all cost!
Resolving Conflict Pilate wanted COMPROMISE He washed his hands but it didn't solve the conflict.
Resolving Conflict Jesus the master of all situation brought RESOLVE !
Resolving Conflict Reconciliation means that the conflict is resolved but the issue is still there. Reconciliation's is when the relationship is in harmony or unity. Where as Resolution is when the issue is finally Resolved. This is where we need forbearance with each other. Which is making allowances for weakness without judgment.
Resolving Conflict Resolving conflict has to come this way; Eph 4:15 But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, [even] Christ: 16 From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love. 1. Speaking in Love 2. Grow up into him in all things 3. Edifying in Love
Resolving Conflict Eph 4:27 Neither give place to the devil. Strong's Greek Lexicon 5117 top-os AV-place, room, quarter, licence, coast, where, plain 1)place, any portion or space marked off, as it were from surrounding space a) an inhabited place, as a city, village, district b) a place (passage) in a book 2) metaphor. a) the condition or station held by one in any company or assembly b) opportunity, power, occasion for acting b) opportunity, power, occasion for acting
Resolving Conflict Eph 4:27 Neither give place to the devil. We surrender ground and Satan builds a Stronghold and sends out tormentors!
Tear Down The Stronghold Surrendered Ground - Wrong Mind Sets or Wrong Ideas Lust of the Flesh Which Produces Wrong Ideas (Strongholds) Which Produces Wrong Actions (Iniquity) Which Produces Wrong Results (Tormentors) Lust of the Eye Pride of Life
Solution: Deal With The Strongholds 2. Claim The Power Of The Blood 1Jo 1:7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin. "Strongholds" Are False Ideas Become "Mind Sets" 1. Confess Your Sins - Be Specific About Them - True Repentance 1Jo 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
3. Ask God To Re-claim The Ground You Lost - Piece By Piece Eph 4:27 Neither give place to the devil. Ps 23:3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his names sake. 4. Tear Down Strongholds With Truth - Wrong Ideas 2Co 10:4 (For the weapons of our warfare [are] not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) 5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; "Strongholds" Are False Ideas Become "Mind Sets"
5. Build A Fortresses Of Truth Pr 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it [are] the issues of life. 24 Put away from thee a froward mouth, and perverse lips put far from thee. 25 Let thine eyes look right on, and let thine eyelids look straight before thee. 26 Ponder the path of thy feet, and let all thy ways be established. 27 Turn not to the right hand nor to the left: remove thy foot from evil. "Strongholds" Are False Ideas Become "Mind Sets"
Resolving Conflict E-22 CONFLICT.BETWEEN.GOD.AND.SATAN 1962 Now, seeing there was going to be a conflict, and there was going to be a battle, God equipped His children with the right kind of ammunition, the right kind of attack, the right kind of everything that they had need of that would sweep them all the way from Eden to the rapture. What was it? The Word. The Word. That's what defeats Satan is the Word. It'll defeat him anywhere, any place.
Resolving Conflict Withdraw Win Yielding Compromise Resolve Resolve Low Concern For Relationship Low Concern For Relationship Low In Achieved Needs & Goals High Concern For Relationship High Concern For Relationship High In Achieved Needs & Goals High In Achieved Needs & Goals
Resolving Conflict How then can we resolve conflicts? 1) When a conflict arises, instead of demanding that you be heard, listen carefully to the other person. 1) When a conflict arises, instead of demanding that you be heard, listen carefully to the other person. 2) Selecting an appropriate time is an important factor according to this scripture. 3) Define the problem. How do you define the problem & how does the other person?
Resolving Conflict 4) Define the areas of agreement and disagreement in the conflict. 5) Identify your own contribution to the problem. 6) The next step is to state positively what behavior on your part would probably help, and to be willing to ask for their opinion. Watch out for defensiveness!
Resolving Conflict Finally Four Don'ts 1) Don't wait for the other one to come, you be first. 2) Don't keep bring up the conflict once it has been discussed. 3) Don't attack the person but the issue. 4) Don't kill the conflict right in its prime by walking out.
Resolving Conflict How will you Resolve the Conflict?