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Balance Coaching & Consulting The Secret to Success with Difficult (and not so difficult) People. Copyright © 2002 by Michael Ehling. All rights reserved. Portions copyright © 2000 by TTI, Ltd. Used by permission.
© Balance Coaching & Consulting ObjectiveObjective You will walk away with a powerful, easy- to-apply method for dealing successfully with difficult and not so difficult people. Essential material only Ask questions Invitation to explore further
© Balance Coaching & Consulting OverviewOverview Why? Why deal with difficult people? What? What approach do you take? How? Behavioural Styles Who? Us When? Now
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Why?Why? Think about your current job and career thus far. What limits or obstacles to further success? Anything missing? Have you ever been mismanaged? Have you ever…?
© Balance Coaching & Consulting People: 2 Tech: 1 Why?Why? Some technical obstacles Many people obstacles Bosses, Employees, Peers, Politics What counts most in your worklife? Source: Working with Emotional Intelligence by D. Goleman
© Balance Coaching & Consulting What approach? Apply this process… 1.Understand self 2.Understand others 3.Flex for success Examples: Sales people sell more Yours truly…
© Balance Coaching & Consulting How?How? Many models One easy, rich, coherent one: behavioural style
© Balance Coaching & Consulting What is Behavioural Style? Behavioural style: age-old area of study The language of people watching. Best today: DISC D – Dominance I – Influence S – Steadiness C – Compliance We have all four They are continua: low to high One is normally our core style
© Balance Coaching & Consulting D – Dominance How you deal with Problems and Challenges High D: Ambitious, Forceful, Decisive, Direct, Independent, Challenging Famous Ds?
© Balance Coaching & Consulting I – Influence How you deal with People and Contacts High I: Expressive, Enthusiastic, Friendly, Demonstrative, Talkative, Stimulating Famous Is?
© Balance Coaching & Consulting S - Steadiness How do you deal with Pace and Consistency High S: Methodical, Systematic, Reliable, Steady, Relaxed, Modest Famous Ss?
© Balance Coaching & Consulting C – Compliance How you deal with Procedures and Constraints High C: Analytical, Contemplative, Conservative, Exacting, Careful, Deliberate Famous Cs?
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Your Style Can you guess your style?
© Balance Coaching & Consulting How did you do? Did you know your core style immediately? Do you seem to have qualities of more than one style?
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Natural & Adapted Natural style: relaxed, at home, or very stressed Adapted style: how we believe we can best survive/thrive in any given environment. We humans are great adapters.
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Others Style C C I I D D S S Extroverted Introverted Task/Thinking Feeling/Relations Source: The Universal Language DISC by TTI, Ltd 1993 based on W.M. Marstons Emotions of Normal People.
© Balance Coaching & Consulting More ways to tell Formal DISC assessments Success Insights Wheel plotting
Precise Accurate Concern for Quality Critical Listener Non-Verbal Communicator Attention to Detail Creative Slow Start / Fast Finish Vacillating Temperamental Competitive Confrontational Direct Results-Oriented Sense of Urgency Change Agent Product-Oriented Slow to Change Self-Disciplined Pessimistic Accommodating Dislikes Confrontation Persistent Controls Emotion Adaptable Good Listener Good Supporter Team Player Persistent Cooperative Sensitive to Others Feelings High Trust Level Not Fearful of Change Contactability Rather Talk than Listen Verbal Skills Projects Self-Confidence Process-Oriented Quick to Change Independent Optimistic Success Insights ® Wheel Copyright © 2000 by TTI, Ltd.
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Exercise: Do you know…? Get together with 1 or 2 others Read each description Choose the described persons core and, if seen, secondary styles.
Case #1 Known for his loyalty to friends and as a team player. Hard worker and a thorough researcher. Puts a premium on friendship, sometimes to a fault. A man at peace with himself. Relates easily and warmly in small groups but freezes in public forums. Is a worrier. Top achiever who is cool under pressure. Family is sacred. Shortcoming may be his inability to act quickly to unexpected turns of events. Copyright © 2000 by TTI, Ltd.
Case #2 This person is motivated to be amiable, easy- going, and relaxed. Is a natural team player, and enthusiastic. Likes to get results though others. May make some decisions without gathering all the facts necessary. Usually very optimistic, may be seen as unrealistic. Dislikes conflict. Comfortable talking with all types of people; may tend to judge others by their verbal skills. Shortcoming may be a lack of time control and his natural tendency to trust others may cause him to trust the wrong people. Copyright © 2000 by TTI, Ltd.
Case #3 Highly competitive and somewhat egotistical, is always looking for a new challenge. High energy level may keep many co-workers frustrated trying to keep up. Truly visionary in her thinking, always looking at the big picture. Well informed on many subjects, can talk spontaneously on almost anything and has an opinion on everything. Has a very private side to her personality few people see and, therefore, requires a place where she can be alone to think periodically. Shortcoming may be her inability to sustain energy for project completion after the challenge has been conquered. Copyright © 2000 by TTI, Ltd.
Case #4 Likes to do things her way. Needs structure and control. Doesnt like surprises; therefore may develop elaborate plans to prevent them. May be seen as cool and aloof by others because of her private nature. Can be overly critical of herself and others. May have difficulty developing a sense of team cohesiveness. Is pragmatic but may resist change unless given reasons. Under pressure may become overly autocratic. Can be very intuitive but may not know how to express feelings. May become possessive of people she lets inside her wall. Copyright © 2000 by TTI, Ltd.
Case #5 Very empathetic and patient. A good listener. Needs private time and is well-disciplined. Tremendously objective and unemotional. May not display a sense of urgency that others may feel is necessary to win. Can be rigid and may resist change, but very spontaneous and friendly in familiar social environments. Prefers not to rock the boat and may conceal grievances to maintain harmony in the work team. Adds stability to any work group. Is consistent, dependable, and remains calm under pressure. Copyright © 2000 by TTI, Ltd.
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Now what do you do? Flex for success Avoid pitfalls
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Why Flex? We see the world not as it is, but as we are. -S. Covey Flexing creates a space to see more and allow relationships to beyond their prototypical ruts.
© Balance Coaching & Consulting What is Flexing? Flexing is adapting, consciously. Stimulus -> Response becomes Stimulus -> Choice -> Response You change the situation.
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Flexing result When I flex to meet the style of the other, I open a new door to communication and cooperation. (repeat daily)
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Put another way When I notice a lack of communication or cooperation, thats my signal to flex.
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Obstacles to Flexing I am what I am. Its too hard. Why should I change? Im not gonna change. You change.
© Balance Coaching & Consulting How to Flex Recognize their style Match their Tone of voice & volume, Pace, Body language, Etc. Anticipate and align with their needs
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Flexing Exercise Separate into groups based on core style: D, I, S, C. Write a list of Dos and Donts for communicating with your style. Write a list of what you appreciate about each of the other styles Write a list of what you want from each of the other styles. Pick a spokesperson
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Avoid Pitfalls Please: Remember style is observable behaviour Nothing about motive or personality. Create win-win Everyone can be successful regardless of style Flex and avoid pigeonholing Avoid Oh, youre that way because youre a D (or I, S, C)
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Other uses for DISC Teams Sales Career planning Community groups Spouses & family
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Teams & DISC Each style is valuable D – Get it done I – New ideas & energy S – Objectivity & cohesion C – Thoroughness & the right way Team composition Team life-cycle Forming, Storming, Norming, Performing
© Balance Coaching & Consulting SummarySummary DISC helps you deal with difficult people by Understanding your style Understanding others styles Flexing to open communication Anticipating needs
© Balance Coaching & Consulting Next Steps Try it! Get a full, formal DISC assessment Questions? Call me!
Balance Coaching & Consulting Grow the business by growing the people. Contact: Michael Ehling
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